Are Some People More Likely To Injure Themselves Then Others

Are depressed people with ADHD more likely to self harm?

I have read somewhere that there is a higher instance of self-harm including eating disorders in adhd folk than the average population. With women in particular. I wish I could dig up the source but I can’t right now.I do know that when it comes to growing up with combined subtype adhd (along with autism, which wasn’t diagnosed until 17), I was being subjected to all sorts of different expectations that I couldn’t meet, and by the time I was even just in school, my self esteem was lower than the basement. There was this vicious cycle of self-loathing that would happen, either I would meet an expectation as a rare instance, and the person either assumed I was NT and keep pushing me to achieve the expectation over and over (assuming the act was sustainable when it wasn’t), regardless to energy, environment, and so on, I would just get swallowed whole by anxiety. and when I couldn’t sustain the act of achieving expectations, that’s when the self-loathing depression hit and people would act alienated (since I wasn’t the person they wanted me to be), and fail to presume competence of me whatsoever or shut me out and so on. It was a vicious cycle where I felt afraid to be myself, because I wasn’t being accepted for who I am. People would constantly alternate between pretending I was NT, and then infantilizing me, and it was wrecking havoc on me. So most of my childhood I struggled with anorexia as a way to cope with the back and forth of extremes in expectations and control issues and sought treatment at 20.p.s. ignore the person who said that people who self-harm are “stupid” (which she said the action is “stupid” and “idiotic” but you know people are reading it and applying that word to themselves regardless because she’s stigmatizing it, that goes for anyone trying to correlate self-harm with ableist language btw). Honestly, I wish people would understand that maladaptive coping mechanisms don’t appear because of behaviorism or choice, as there is something driving that person to harm themselves that needs to be addressed. For a lot of adhd and autistic folk (as well as lgbt folk I have met), there is a strong sense of denial of self when it comes to eating disorders. self-harm/SI might be the same way.

Why do more girls cut themselves than boys do?

Disclaimer: I do not speak for all guys, or even all girls, with this answer, because I as yet do not have enough personal experience with others who self-harm. However, with my depression and my knowledge of how those I know and love cope or have coped with their pain and depression, I have formed some ideas.It certainly appears that guys have sadness and guilt and mental anxieties (which is undeniable), but that they tend toExternalize their problems, convincing themselves that it’s someone else’s fault, while girls internalize and convince themselves that it’s always their faultOR their pain is manifested in angry outbursts and distracting activities like drinking, video games, or other socially accepted forms of releasing aggression.Or they just get really creative with ways of self-harm. Maybe instead of taking a blade to their wrist, they punch the wall until their hands bleed. Maybe they just skip the self-harm altogether and go straight to the suicide attempt, because they don’t think anyone gives a damn about their existence but they don’t feel they have the ability to ask for help; even if they want to ask, they may doubt that there is any help available.Basically, guys are used to sucking it up and being told to do so. Girls are at least regarded as having a problem and have at least a few people who are genuinely concerned for them, even if that problem is seen by some and expressed in the judgement “seeking attention”.For guys, that judgment is probably the only one they’ll get. No wonder they don’t talk about it or attempt to get help.