How can I get my stomach from making funny noises?
Your stomach is a busy little organ, digesting food you've eaten. It is a little bit unrealistic to expect not a single sound to come from your stomach. It growls & grumbles at times when it's hungry, and makes digesting noises after eating, & these are all normal parts of daily life for all of us, for everyone - So please, do try to be a little less nervous about anyone hearing your tummy sounds, it just makes you more & more anxious. I used to be terrified to burp in public or pass gas in front of even my family members, - but I've learned just to say "excuse me" and let it go at that - because these are normal body functions and nothing to be ashamed of. These are noises that just about everyone I know- their stomachs make these noises also. You are NOT any different, or abnormal...these noises are not to be so concerned about, honestly. Try to calm yourself, by accepting the fact that you are a human being, with a human body - like everyone else, and if your tummy is noisy - simply say, excuse me; but my tummy is awfully busy doing it's job right now. I believe anyone else will understand what's happening to you quite well, and perhaps you will learn that others also have these situations in life, and you will feel much better if you can just talk about it. Trust me, I know what you are going through, I used to be the same way too....but it's a waste of time to worry over such a silly thing. Please take my advice & just let it out - excuse yourself - and if you feel badly about it - talk to your friend about how much this upsets you, and I will bet you that your friend has the same stomach sounds too. Then you'll feel SO much more relieved.
People think I am weird and avoid me because I am quiet and avoid small talk. I have tried my whole life to change this, but it seems that I am just a born introvert. How can I change, and should I change?
Hi. I am an introvert myself. So much so that I get minute panic attacks in my head and heart when I have to meet new people. And through a major part of my life I tried to change it. I even went to a counsellor for this. And it is very dissatisfying because this is a part of you and you can't change it. So it used to make me feel even worse, incomplete and less wanted.It is only recently I started accepting who I am. Being an introvert we have the gift of having more meaningful conversations. And believe me I have made some truly amazing gem of friends. I may not be a social butterfly but I know that each and every friend in my life is someone I can trust with all my secrets and sorrows. I can be completely helpless in front of them and the only thing they will do is help me out. When they go through troubles they come to me and not one of their social butterflies. I not saying extroverts are bad. They are brilliant people too.In fact a lot of my friends are extroverts.It is more about being at ease with yourself and your awkwardness. Accept it and believe me it is not just theoretical. You can really try it. Acceptance of introversion will really help you deal with this.You can always inbox me in case you need any help. :))
Im 16 and i am heavier. what kind of swimsuit should i get?
well first off you shouldnt give a **** what people think about you second of all one pieces would be best for you on the count of you dont like your body. So my advice to you is get a victoria secret catalog and look at there sexy one pieces and get one or get one of there sexy tankinnies and pick one and if there a bit pricey for you i would suggest target hope i helped! Goodluck lookin hott you hottie :)
How do I stop getting upset when people joke or make fun of me?
We all got teased for various things— and I am not even kidding— they will find something, even if you are the most attractive person in the world— they will say you have big ears or a weird chin or you walk funny. There is no escaping the cruelty of bullying really, you just let it fly right over you and don’t absorb it. You can always say something back. If they are making fun of you for being short and too quiet, you can say “Yep, I’m short and quiet, what about it?” and shrug like you don’t even care. It can go like this (not that you would want to do this, but an example:)Them: “ Hey, where are you going shortie? Going to be quiet somewhere?”You: Look them in eye and say “Yep, that’s me. The quietest, shortest guy/girl in the world” and look bored and unamused.Them: ‘Why are you so quiet? Why don’t you talk?”You: “Guess I don’t have much to say. Must be because I’m so short, huh?”You basically repeat what they say back to them in a bored manner. When you parrot someone like this, it makes them look like they don’t have good material. You continue this with any and all rude remarks, and it knocks the fun out of it for them.
How does skinny-shaming affect people? Do they start seeing them being thin as a problem or something they don't like about themselves?
Skinny shaming has never ended for me. I just learnt to deal with it somehow.I have always been underweight. My height is 170 cm and my current weight is 47 kg. I have never weighted more than 50 kg. I am naturally skinny. I am reminded of that regularly. A new acquaintance within a few hours of talking to me: “Oh you are so thin!” EVERY parent of every friend of mine when I come to their house: “Oh you are so thin!” Relatives seeing me after long time: “Oh you are so thin!”Sometimes these comments are said in disgusted voice, sometimes with envy, sometimes with care (“You will look healthier if you put on some weight!”). In the end of the day they all freak me out because they point out my body as if it is thing, something everybody can discuss freely. I am so much more than my body. And I really do not think that my humble figure deserves that much concern. I am healthy, I eat and exercise properly. I am OK!It took me long time to distance myself and my own self awareness from what is being said about my body. As a teenager I felt constant need to apologize as if my thinness was a disease threatening people. It is a hurting discovery that, despite the fact that I feel so good and comfortable in my body, people are willing to point out how wrong my body is. This shame of my own body tortured me for many years and I am still over coming it in some or other way.What helps? Exercise certainly does. When you see how you become stronger, more flexible and active, you care so much less what others say. You see your beauty with your own eyes, anything else hardly matters. I also filter my friend circle. If, for whatever reason, somebody cannot stop talking about my weight, I distance myself from them. Mature and polite people do not behave like those. I want to be with friends who love and appreciate me. Anyone else may leave.As a thin person for long time I thought that other people had some right to discuss my body. I thought if I looked so weird, of course, it was okay for others to mention it. I realized it is wrong. Nobody has a right to judge my face, my weight, my body. I am the one who decides what is good for me, not they. Since I understood this simple truth it’s been much easier to reduce skinny shaming in my life.
How should I respond to friends who unnecessarily make fun of me? I really can't ignore them, as they are either my friends or fall in a friend circle. I sometimes try to fight back but I fail at their level of making fun.
There is a good chance they are doing it because they are insecure. If you want it to stop, use operant conditioning - basically, train them to stop. Here is how.1) figure out something you can say in retort that lets them know a) their comment didn't bother you and b) that it was pretty stupid.This can be - "thank you very much for that information" (in a deadpan voice) or "that was a mean thing to say" in a matter of fact tone of voice. I know someone who simply says the word "respect." and leaves it at that. As long as it is calm, not rude and lets them know what they just said wasn't ok with you, but that it didn't rile you up either.2) Practice saying this so that you can deliver the line/retort in as calm and matter of fact way as possible. You aren't mad at them, it just isn't something they should continue doing or saying.3) practice making eye contact when you deliver the line. If you are incapable of making eye contact, look above their head or at their ear.4) Whenever they say something mean or stupid, say your line, the same line. EVERYTIME! No exceptions. They will most likely be confused at first and then they will try to make fun of you for actually responding in a way they don't like. This is their attempt to get you to go back to the old way of responding, which they clearly liked. Don't go back. Continue as if you are a broken record and repeat until they stop. It is the consistency of your response that will get them to stop. If you sometimes do this and sometimes don't you will be variably reinforcing them and that will cause them to get worse and escalate their behavior. (The dynamic you are triggering by doing this btw is called an extinction burst).5) Whenever they behave respectfully and nice, smile, talk and engage with them and basically positively reinforce their good behavior.Hope this helps. If you want to learn more check out http://thebullyvaccine.com
So... I'm getting glasses.?
Apparently I'm nearsighted and I'm gonna need to get glasses seeing as I'm starting high school and I'm not able to see the board and write down notes and such... Anyone got anything they wanna tell me about glasses? I've never worn glasses before or anything so people might make fun of me or something.. =/