Asking Sister To Be Moh

Is it ok if I ask my one sister in law to be a bridesmaid while not inviting my other sister in law to my wedding?

I am in the process of planning for my wedding. I am very close to my one future sister-in-law and I was planning on asking her to be a bridesmaid if not my MOH. However, I have another sister-in-law (married to my fiance's future husband) who I don't even want to invite to my wedding. The one I don't like is the most obnoxious, selfish person I have ever met. At every wedding she attends she acts very inappropriate and after every event people say how they regret the fact she had been invited. Since this will be the first time the two families meet, I really don't want her there due to her track record.

We are planning on a small wedding and don't plan on inviting much extended family. We are also considering having a child free wedding. The one bad sister-in-law is notorious for dumping her kids at events and forcing other people to take care of them. My future mother in law is completely against the idea of a child free wedding and not inviting my one sister in law, she was upset at me not asking both sister in laws to be bridesmaids. However my parents are completely in support of both ideas especially since their the ones who will largely be paying. Almost everyone else in my future husbands family is a fan for the one sister-in-law not being invited to any more family events due to her consistent atrocious behavior.

Is this very tacky and would I cause too many tensions if I didn't invite my one sister-in-law, especially after asking the other one to be a bridesmaid?

Should I ask one twin sister to be maid of honor and not the other?

I might consider duel maid of honors, just divide up the chores that they would be good at, the vocal one for the speeches, the non vocal one to do things for the shower. Twins often consider themselves to be two halves of a whole, if they do, that would work.
I'm not sure I could pick one over the other, even if I knew for sure the quiet one would be relieved she does not have to do the speeches.

Should I have my twin sister as my maid of honor?

I'm getting married next August and have not formally asked any of my friends to be in my wedding yet. (I did not want to start planning til I had the date set and I had to wait to set it because I found out I am accepted to my master of nursing program and I have to set it around the breaks in the program).

Anyways, I know who I want to have as my wedding party but I do not know if I should have my twin sister as MOH or just as a brides maid. I know that everyone expects her to be, and I know that she is even expecting it. The thing is that she does not always like my fiance and does voice it quite frequently when she is in a bad mood. I have been dating my fiance for 4 years and she has gone back and forth the whole time. However, when she is in a good mood, she says that she does like him.

I do not know if I feel right having her as my MOH if she continually bashes him to me when she is angry. I do have an older sister who I want in my wedding and I have been contemplating asking her to be my MOH. She had both my twin sister and I as her double MOHs at her wedding last year.

I do not know what to do. I don't want to her my twin's feelings. She is getting married 3 months after me and I think she is planning on having me as her MOH. She keeps asking me if she is going to be mine. Should I just ask her to be or ask my older sister who has never said anything bad about my fiance? Sometimes I think I will ask my twin, when we are getting along, but then she switches moods and bad talks my fiance.

Any advice? Thanks!

I'm not my sister's maid of honor!?

Yes I would feel offended. I personally think that the bride should always chose family before friends. You will ALWAYS be her sister, but will her friend always be there? Blood relation makes for a strong bond, and as a bride, I would have picked my sister. (I don't have a sis, so that wasn't an option for me)

I understand where you would be upset, and that is okay. But try to not say too much about it to your sister. You don't want to cause any trouble, she has made her choice. One day she may regret it, and you'll be there to say "I told ya so..."

My older sister didn't ask me to be the maid of honor... Am I upset for no reason?

My older sister is getting married in May of 2013, and she has a maid and matron of honor, and she did not ask me to be either. It really hurt my feelings, but I didn't say anything to her about it. She did ask me and another girl to be a bridesmaid, so I was fine with that. My sister and I aren't SUPER close, but we do get along. My sister knows I'd do anything for her. I bought her wedding dress for her, literally spent HOURS helping her with every assignment possible to get her college degree, and step in anytime to babysit my niece. If she needs anything, she knows she can come to me because I will always have her back, 100%. Finally, I did bring up my frustration with her about not being a matron/maid of honor, and she told me it's because we're not "best friends" and that she doesn't tell me everything. I'm still pretty hurt, and considering stepping down as a bridesmaid. I feel like I have her back, but she never has mine. She didn't even show up to my own college graduation because she decided to party it up in Miami with friends instead. Maybe my sister and I don't tell each other everything, but she knows that if she needs me, I will always be there. Am I just being a drama queen? Should I just shut up and be a freaking bridesmaid? Is my hurt totally unwarranted? Thanks in advance for the advice!

I Don't Want to be my sister's maid of honor...?

So the situation is like this: my sister and I have never been close. as kids we fought A LOT, and as we got older the fights got much, much worse. she has been in and out of rehab. after giving her chnace after chance, and having her destroy all of them, I made the conscious decision that she is a toxic presence and I pretty much cut her out of my life. (I am unable to avoid seeing her maybe once a year at family holidays, but still keep away from her at these events)
Now, she wants me to be her maid of honor in her wedding. Let me clarify- she told me that i would be her maid of honor. I have n interest in doing this.
I live all the way across the country, so fortunately I am not around for all of her crazy, which is apparently horrible. But still, I have no interest in even going to the wedding let alone putting time into the shower, bachelorette party, etc. I am also in grad school, so I literally have no money- in fact I'm in student loan debt and anything I put into the wedding is loan money. I have zero positive memories with her so I have nothing to say in a speech. I can barely make it through a conversation with her without completely losing it, I honestly don't know if I will be able to get through the weekend of the wedding.
What do I do? (other than pop a lot of xany)

My fiance has 3 sisters. Do I need to ask all three to be bridesmaids?

My fiance and I are getting married in almost a year. We've been engaged a little over a month now. My only sibling, my sister, is my MOH. And I've got 5 other girlfriends that I've either known since 8th grade or made a close relationship with in college, and we speak on a weekly basis. My fiance and I both said 6 each was our limit for the wedding party.However, he has 3 sisters, with their ages being 28, 26, and 12. The oldest two are his full sisters who both have one child. One has a boy and one has a girl (who we wanted to be ring bearer and flower girl). I have not asked all my bridesmaids to be a part of the wedding yet because I do not know if I should include his sisters.

I'm not that close with them. I do really love them but I have my good friends that I want up there with me. And my fiance says he is fine with me not putting them in the wedding, however, his real mother and oldest sister have been giving him hell about how I'm 'suppose to' have them in the wedding and blah blah blah. To be honest... If they are going to act like that, then I do not want them in the wedding anyways. I haven't made any decisions yet and they are already complaining??

What should I do? I want them to feel included in the wedding.. since it is his family but I do not want 9 bridesmaids. Nor do I really want to sacrifice one of my best friends for them. I feel conflicted because I'm not sure whether or not my fiance really doesn't care if they are in the wedding or if he is just saying that to make me happy. (p.s. Did I mention he is amazing?)

Thanks for all comments!!