Are fathers more protective/possessive of their daughters when they get older than mothers?
I've noticed that the opposite sex parent is usually more protective than the same sex parent. So yes I'd say so. That's a generalization and I know plenty of exceptions-my best friend is a guy, and his dad is more protective of him than his mom- but this is generally true. But it really does depend a lot on the people involved. I asked my mom why this is and she basically said in regards to relationships that fathers know how boys use girls and mothers know how girls use boys. That made sense to me. But it doesn't explain why they're more protective in general. My guess is they see the world from their gender's viewpoint (in the case of your question, the dad sees the world from the male view) and he isn't sure if his daughter's female mind will enable her to take on the world, since men/boys and women/girls look at the world quite differently. But that's just a guess. I don't have any sisters for my dad to be overprotective of, so I just had other situations I've seen from the outside and my own in the reverse (mom protecting her son, me).
Does it make you cringe when adoptive parents say MY child and treat the birthmother like she is nothing?
I agree. I don't know why society seems to think that giving someone permission to raise your child for 18 years makes them the only REAL parents. There are other ways to help a child in need that don't involve changing their birth certificate and shutting them off from their entire first family. I have head adoptive parents use the argument "they are parents not babysitters". Yes they can be parents but they have to accept that the child has another family and the child wants to know their other family. It's interesting that if a child's mom dies when the child is young and the child is raised by someone else no one dares to say that they are the child's only mother. They allow the child to grieve and try to help make sure their mom is never forgotten. Adoptive parents should be loved and respected for caring for the child, but the child should also be allowed to spend as much time with the first family as the child wants, as long as the first family is n
Why do my adult stepchildren resent me?
My adult stepchildren resent me and ever since the beginning when I met this man, he said his adult children ignored him. When we became serious, his adult children became possessive of his time, asking him out to dinner, and excluding me, etc. Now we are married and this is just a long story short. The adult children are between the ages of 25 and 30. I require respect at my age and I have 4 children between the ages of 13 and 24 and don't see them as much I want. What should I do in this situation?
If a father teases his 3 year old son is that healthy?
This sounds like my house to some extent. My neighbors might think the same thing about us. My husband teases (jokingly) our son, they play basketball or baseball and my husband doesn't let my son win, so my son cries sometimes. We don't always let him do what he wants (for instance throwing sticks or rocks into the road) and he gets mad and cries. My son also gets upset when he can't go to his aunts house (she might have to work or we might have plans) so yet again he cries. I sometimes tell my husband to cut it out when I can see our son is tired of his dads joking with him. We all love each other, we just like to play around with each other. I could see my neighbors thinking something was up. What I am trying to say is that you are the neighbor, you might see a tiny part of these peoples lives. How do you know what is really going on. Kids cry and get upset when they don't get what they want. Unless you see something that disturbs you, I think you should never mind.
Parents what is with boys and being so protective of there mothers?
Okay, this is a complicated and admittedly egghead answer, but that description suits me. In young boys, up to about the age of five, their psychological makeup is such that they are not yet a "cohesive" (altogether) person. They are very deeply attached to mom because, again psychologically, their entire sense of self-esteem and definition of being male depends upon the feedback mom continually provides regarding who and what they are. It's not quite the same as a sexual endorsement that an adult male would get from an approving girlfriend, but it's in the same neighborhood. When you're entire self depends virtually exclusively on mommy ( daddy is more of a "friend" than a parent at these ages) and mommy's approval, the intrusion of any other male represents a challenge to the boy's growing identity and a competition for the affection, and therefore approval, of mom. Summed up, it's jealousy actually, that mommy will be taken away in some way. The boy can actually become quite aggressive, and bite, kick, punch...you name it. I have seen this phenomenon in my family therapy practice often. I also agree with Missy who said that males are intrinsically protective of females in the first place, and one's mother represents a whole bunch of their world and a cherished person who the loss of would be devastating. Think I'm wrong? Check out the inmates in a jail on a Mother's Day and see how many men are reduced to tears when recalling the tender touch and protection of mom when they were young. Even small, insignificant "losses" that are mostly symbolic (seeing another male kiss mom instead of her allowing you to) can trigger a male's protective impulse to prevent this "wild and foreign" male from harming her in any way. So basically, it comes down to jealousy, need for constant approval as "number one" male in her life (in early ages to about five) and the fact that, as in wild animals, humans are instinctively protective of the matriarch in their "pack". Tigers that are daughters or sons of a given mother may act protectively towards her to ensure she keeps reproducing and keeping the "pack" growing and healthy. Anybody foreign threatening her by showing affections that could lead to sexuality are rebuffed quickly. I apologize for this complicated mini-essay, but I have tried to explain the generally regarded child psychological data and observations of this cute, instinctual and even heart-warming behaviour.