How can a parent make a toddler listen without beating? My sister woke up at 1 a.m. She wanted to walk on the bed and play around in dark, then she kicked my mom in the eye. Infuriated, my mom smacked my sister on the thigh.
Although your question is written as "make a child listen" -- it sounds like you might want to know how to "make a child obey". You already know that beating a child is not the answer.Raising a child is hard, important work. It can be frustrating when a child doesn't pay attention to what you tell them. And it is important for children to get used to listening to the authority figures in their lives.First of all, change your house to keep them out of places you don't want them to go. We put all my daughters toys in front of the TV and video equipment so she'd be distracted before getting into trouble. A toddler is often more attuned to the visual signals in their environment. They are much lower to the ground than you. You need to get into their space and make sure they see you if you have something important to tell them. When you do speak, keep it positive (not in the sense of complimenting them). Say what you WANT them to do. Tell them "Come here" in an excited voice show them how glad you are when they come. Practice this a lot so they get used to it. It can save their lives if they are approaching something dangerous. Even then you may need to physically stop them in an emergency. Toddlers are not ready to be responsible for their own safety. Toddlers can only process a couple words at a time, especially in times of stress. Simply saying "NO" is not clear enough. They might not understand what it is your telling them NOT to do. If you say "No jumping" they may only process the part of your message at the end and think you said "jumping". Then they get in trouble and still they're not sure why. Instead tell them "Let's walk" or "Sit down." If they're too loud say "Let's whisper" or put a quiet finger to your lips to demonstrate.Toddlers love to touch things. Teach them what "gentle hands" are and stop them (grab their hands) if they don't use gentle hands. If you don't want them playing in the dirt, give them something else to touch. Finally, don't think of reward and punishment. Think about teaching them life lessons. If they can't do something, tell them "why" in simple words like -- "That's dangerous" or "You'll get burned". You want them to be able to keep themselves safe in the long run, even when you're not there to tell them what to do.
Anyone's baby born with small head?
My child also was born with a small head. It continues to grow and looks completely normal but head circumference at check-ups is never higher than 3% on the growth chart. I continue to ask about it at each visit but my doctor has never been concerned because development and health have been just fine. Today my child is a happy, healthy, active, vibrant 22 month old. The important thing is that you and your doctor are aware and keep an eye on it. While I know its hard to not worry, please try. Your daughter will be perfectly fine.
What is it like having a more attractive child than you ever were?
When my daughter was a baby, I would take her to the grocery store and men would alert the women they were with to my baby and how beautiful she was. Men. Like, I’ve never seen a man do this before or since. I’m sure they notice babies, but not to the point of needing to show their wives or girlfriends because they think the baby is so beautiful. Every time I was in the grocery store… no lie. It was just weird.When we went to mardi gras, people were constantly throwing her things from floats. Strangers, pointing her out, saying this is for her and tossing it to me so she could have a special string of beads or a stuffed toy. Out of crowds of people, they noticed her. When I was kid, people were knocking me over and didn’t care that I didn’t get home with any beads or doubloons.On an airplane, the stewardess took her from me and walked around with her while explaining to people why we were not able to exit the plane. She wasn’t crying or giving me any trouble. People just noticed her and wanted to play with her.When she hit puberty, I started noticing that men had stopped looking at me, but would slow down as we were walking down the street to stare at her. I had a hairstylist not even bother to hide his disappointment that I was his client instead of my daughter. And I often get asked about that beautiful child of mine.I was not an ugly person by any stretch of the imagination. In fact, people who knew me growing up say she looks just like I did… my mini-me, doppleganger, twin. I was just never as confident as her. And while she is as socially awkward as I am, she just seems to know how to make it work for her. She shines. It took me a while and her senior portraits to see myself in her, but it’s there. No doubt at all. It’s just what she does with it that makes it special. And for me, there is pride in that because I was always pushed down and made to feel less and I didn’t do that to her and that’s how she can shine so brightly.Edited to add pictures of my beautiful daughter:My daughter and I… she was 2 1/2. Closest thing to a baby picture I have that is already scanned.
My baby girl who was born with a wgt 2.8kgs now at her 9th month weighs 7.9kgs.is she underweight?
babies are different, and "normal" weight simply means that 50% weigh more, and 50% weigh less. If her appetite seems normal, then you're doing ok. She will let you know when she's hungry and when she's not. Let her tell you. Babies are not shy about being hungry!
Border Collie vs Labrador Retriever vs Golden Retriever?
ok,being your first dog I REALLY recommend you dont get a Border Collie,they need experienced owners,and A LOT of room to run,I suggest a Golden Retriever they are PERFECT first time dogs,theyre smart,and energetic,but still can be calm.labs are ok too,but theyre better suited for working then just being house pets,and sometimes (Like Marley) you can get crazy ones who have been badly bred.
When is a child "too old" for make believe??
My daughter is 5 now, and believes in fairies, mermaids, pegasus', unicorns and giants, etc. Recently, her school report card came home with a comment about "being able to differentiate between fiction and non"....should I discourage her fantasies? I dont see how they can hurt....Opinions? Advice?
I need success stories...are formula-fed babies ever fine the way they are?
I need some moral support. I am the proud mother of a beautiful six month old boy. However, he's starting to get fat. It's yet another problem one could trace to formula feeding, I guess. During my pregnancy and during my preparation for natural childbirth, I took breastfeeding classes, bought a double breast pump (in preparation for continuing to breastfeed right through age 2 (!) as recommended by the World Health Organization), nipple cream and pads, a breastfeeding pillow, books on the subject, etc. Then, three days after my baby was born and with no sign of my milk coming in, I agreed to supplement with formula. After having tried some methods like SNS, and breastfeeding for 45 minutes at a time every couple of hours for weeks, an expert lactation consultant finally looked at my breasts and saw "hypoplastic tubular" breasts, a condition related to a PCOS-like complex of symptoms. Anyway, I feel it necessary to explain all this on here, to try and prevent breastfeeding fanatics to tell me I can still breastfeed. I have tried Goat's Rue, fenugreek, etc., etc. I'm trying something called "Shavatari" right now. I still give my baby the few, hand-expressed drops I can produce each day....just in case it helps. Anyway, he's been on Earth's Best organic dairy-based formula pretty much since the second week after birth. His weight is now in 80th percentile, while his length is only 60th. I am overweight myself, and very worried that my gorgeous boy is going to be a little chubster! It's nothing to laugh about, it's like a mark for life. I really need to find out if any formula-fed babies are brilliant, successful, non-diabetic, thin, fit, and healthy (???) Are there any famous Nobel prizewinners or anything who have been formula fed? How about any athletes? I need moral support, because I don't have a choice! Also, do you have any advice about formula feeding and not letting your baby get fat? Thanks.