Please help me. I don't know if I am the father...?
I dated this girl for 7 years. She cheated, lied and broke up with me many many times. I was too nieve to stick up for myself. We finally broke up last year and we both started dating new people. Coincidentally we each split up with our newer partners around the same time. She was always asking to hang out, but i was done with her. But I did fall for her one night. Nov 28 2009. I know it doesn't always matter but I pulled out when we slept together this time.. She came to my house before Christmas and said she was pregnant and that I am the father. Then, she admitted having sex with at least 2 others within a week of her and I. One of the guys she slept with was her recent break up. He admitted to me that he was sleeping with her well through the week Nov 13-19. Each time unprotected and he finished in her each time. She said she got her period after him, but that was found out to be untrue. Now she has always lied and I dont believe a word she is saying. She said she was going to have an abortion which she didn't, Then she said she had a miscarriage while on vacation in Florida. All lies. I told her 3 months ago that I want nothing to do with her or this trashy situation. Havent spoken to her since. Her due date is apparently August 16, 2010 and she is 17weeks and 8 days along. Or at least that is what she said. Now I have done due date and conception date calculators and the date of conception keeps coming up Nov 16. But she tells everyone that the doctor said date of conception was on the night of Nov 28. I dont get this and I really need some discriptive advice. Mentally I am a mess. i cannot sleep or eat and I have really awful thoughts because to have any relation or tie down with this girl is the worst thing I could ever imagine. She humiliated me and cheated for 7 years and I dont think i can live knowing I might have to have her in my life any longer. She took everything from me and I just want to know the truth. Please help me!!!
My best friend slept with my baby's father?
so my baby's father and I were together for almost 2 years after having our son. we then decided to split up. a couple months later we decided to try to work things out. then one night my best friend decides to tell me about how she slept with him right after we split up. he lied to me about it at first, but then after i heard it from another person i got him to tell me the truth. now i can't look at either of them without thinking about them having sex. what should i do? forgive and forget, or drop them both and move on?
I'm pregnant and baby father left me should I give my baby my last name or the baby's father last name?
As in my state of Wisconsin, you can not put down the father of the baby unless both parents are present and there is someone there of legal status to notarize the birth certificate. Otherwise you have to leave the father of the baby blank until it is proven that he is the father. I wouldnt use his last name at all. My babys father left me while i was pregnant and my son has my last name.
Why do people keep saying the baby isnt mine?
Try to ignore them when they say things like that - its no doubt said in a strange attempt to make you feel better about your girl doing what shes done. Sadly, pregnancy can do horrible things to a pregnant woman and your girl isn't the first or last to have dumped her man once pregnant. Exactly the same reaction happened when I was pregnant with my first baby - I changed completely towards the father, dumped him and on one occasion actually hit him - such was my hate for him, everything he did irritated me. I too broke all contact. However, once my daughter was born and my hormones settled I felt very differently. Sadly the father wasnt able to forgive and I eventually had to move on but things could have been different if we'd have understood. Nothing can ever be definite but wait a while and once baby is here try approaching her then. Good luck xx
My dad split my lip?? Not sure what to do..?
Where is your mother? I guess a lot depends upon what you think will make the situation change and how much risk you are willing to take. If you call CPS or the police, your father will either be removed from the house, or all you kids under 18 will be taken away and given to relatives or foster care. That doesn't mean that you would all be place together , unless a relative stepped up to do it. you father would probably be charged with simple assault, or possibly child endangerment. It would probably require him to get anger management classes, and some supervision. maybe a few days in jail if the judge is tough on child abusers. This could be a good thing. If you don't report it, won't people be asking you about it in the morning? If the school suspects, child abuse , they are legally required to report it , as is your mother. So, I think I would be talking to my mother about what she is going to do to protect you kids and be certain that it never happens again. I am not telling you what to do or not to do, because only you know the whole picture and what lead up to it getting physical. You have to make the choice as to whether you want to handle it in house or let the legal system take over from here. Your safety is the most important thing.
Can my babys father get joint custody if Im breastfeeding?
Breastfeeding would NOT prevent him from getting custody. (The courts will not punish a father for being unable to breast feed and will not reward a mother who chooses to breast feed to limit the father's contact with the child.) As far as him being irresponsible, etc.? This isn't going to help you very much in a custody dispute over an infant - because THIS is the guy you picked to be the father. Judges don't like it when a parent performs a character assassination of the other parent under these kinds of conditions. You had better not leave him off of the birth certificate if you know he is the father. To do this, you will have to lie on an official document and claim you don't know who the father is. And then the father will have to file a paternity action along with a custody petition. This would unnecessarily clog the court with an extra action and SERIOUSLY irritate the judge. You would also likely be ordered to pay for the test. Irritating a judge is never a good idea. And as long as you don't irritate the judge there is no way a judge will order overnight visits for an infant. Overnight visits generally don't start until a child is at least three or four. But if you play games with paternity, you could risk losing custody. Don't irritate the judge and/or waste the court's time.
HUGE decision... Get back with child's father or stay with current guy?? 10 points?
Don't do something just because you have a child, you may end up resenting the child for it later. A family is not just the mother and father of the child, it can be mom and step dad. A family is what you make it. For years a friend of mine, who also had 2 children with no involvement from dad, and I did everything that a family does-we took trips, had weekend outings, ate meals together, were there for each others child's school or sports activities, took turns taking the kids to the Dr etc. She and I did everything that a mom and dad would do (except no kind of physical relationship-she is my best friend). We both are married now and are still really close and do things together, but when neither of us had a "family" as you say for our children we made one. Stop thinking that a family is ONLY the biological parents of a child and think about what you want and what is best for your child. You and dad split up for a reason, is it worth the pain that you may cause your child to end the current relationship and have him not see this guy any more only to have you and dad get back together just to have things end again and maybe next time end worse?