I am mechanical student, but am placed at Capgemini, an IT company. Is it a problem after some time to enter into a core company?
If you are really interested in IT then stay there for rest of your career. But, if you are interested in Core Company, don't enter IT. Wait for few more months. But never get into IT. Once you enter Software Companies, you will lose your aim of getting into Core Company. Believe me, most of the students entering IT company think that someday they will get into their core department. But when you gain one or two years experience in IT, you will lose the following:1. Your Core Knowledge (Ultimately now you cannot easily get into core companies)2. Your determination of getting into Core Company (This will happen for sure as salary package in IT will eclipse your aim)If you are definitely interested in Core, then neglect Capgemini. If you think that you can achieve core company after joining IT company, then you will forever be in dilemma. Moreover, it will never make you concentrated in one path.This is a common confusion one get during his career. But, this is the right time to choose. Never allow anyone to choose it for you. This is your life and you should know which field you are going to work. Any wrong guidance will make you feel bad in your future. So, don't be haste. Choose wisely!!!
I have feelings for two guys. How will I know which one I really love?
This is your internal struggle. Remember this. My typical answer would be that you are feeling that each fulfills certain of your needs. The reality is that you may not be enough for the both of them if you are split. Jealousy ensues typically in this case. You can never be fair when it comes to love. Love is a loose cannon. The reality is that now that this has happened, if you don't want to hurt them, you probably shouldn't be with either of them.If that doesn't suffice, remember the relationship cake...Here is the relationship cake recipe. I use this allot... so you can quote me, though I don't know if it's originally mine or not. You need all of the ingredients to make a cake in the same way that you need all of the ingredients to make a relationship work.1. FLOUR (Friendship): If your lover isn't one of your truest friends, you are not going to be happy with them for long. It takes quite a bit of flour for a cake to work.2. EGGS (Stability): Remember the three eggs in your cake. They are Job/College, Reliability, and Emotional Stability. Your relationship cake will be pretty terrible if you don't have enough eggs for it to hold up.3. OIL (Trust): You really need to know you can trust your partner. Without that trust your relationship cake is dry and hard to swallow.4. SUGAR/FLAVORS (Love): This is the reason you're eating cake in the first place. You want the flavor! Is it chocolate? Buttercream? Carrot? Who knows what kind of love you need? What's important is that it's there. Relationships without love are literally tasteless.5. FROSTING (Passion): This isn't about sex. It's about the NEED you have to spend time with this person. It's the reason you hold his/her hand, kiss them, and that there is such thing as foreplay. Without passion, you might as well have a relationship muffin.6. SPRINKLES/CANDLES/ICE CREAM/PUDDING (Sex): It doesn't take sex to make a cake, but who the heck would want a cake without the potential for one of these things or multiple of these things. What's great is when you get a cake and it comes to you even with sparklers and fireworks on it! That's always a plus.
My Son's girlfriend is a control freak. Best way to deal with her?
She has actually tried to come between me and my Son. Tells him that she wants to come out when he comes to visit me (in another state), but that she won't spend time with him and I. She doesn't know anyone out here, so it's an obvious attempt to just make him feel guilty. She's mad at me because I told her to let him think for himself. I got sick of her actually bragging about how she can control him. My Son is way to smart for this. I don't neccesarily want him to leave her as much as I want him to have some back bone and let her know she can't control him. Am I wrong and being over protective? Please don't be mean with your responses. This is my only kid, and even though he is a young man I still worry about his happiness and welfare.
He hasn't initiated contact in the 3 weeks since our fight. Is it over? (Dated few months)
Trust me on this one - don’t do anything, grieve the relationship and find someone much, much better.It’s a new relationship and he’s already like this? How will he fare exactly, when the really tough decisions in a relationship come up?Also, ask yourself, do you love him, or do you love the illusion of him?Do you love someone who can ignore you for 3 weeks, who apparently, has the maturity of a child, or do you actually love his potential?And if you did have your happy, amazing relationship, why are you feeling so drained and so exhausted right now? Why do YOU have to initiate contact?Ask yourself.. really ask yourself.. why do you want a man who backs off easily, hardly gives you any affection and can’t even be man enough to tell you if he even wants to be in a relationship? Based on the psychology of what emotional and manipulative partners typically do, I assume that not only does he do this, he guilts and blames you for arguments.What’s so good about him? Ask yourself that question. Is he really that great?You’re in a very unhealthy relationship, if you are even in a relationship at all.Tell yourself the real truth, and have the courage to move on. Believe me, he’s not that much of a gem. You know who are? Men who aren’t cowards, men who don’t leave you hanging and men who don’t spin some sob story and tell you that they aren’t good enough for you.Wait… I take that back. He isn’t good enough for you. Do yourself a favor and leave him. All the best!
Are a Cancer man's relationships with other water signs really unhappy?
As a Cancer man, everytime I've been in a relationship with water signs of the opposite sex (Cancer, Pisces and Scorpio), it's only been an endless charades of mood swings, long moments of silence, impracticality at every step. like a vampiress the starry-eyed negative water sign woman would suck the life out of me. Yes water sign women have a damn pessimistic attitude to everything which sounds sweet in the beginning but eventually, it grates you so bad. I get along best with all remaining signs be it Earth (Capricorn, Taurus and Virgo) and even a few Air (Gemini and Libra but not Aquarius) and Fire signs (Aries and Leo but not Sagittarius). Is it something to do with my nature, I love practicality, outgoingness and fun over lofty dreams and subtle romance. Is it something to with my Ascendant sign which is Virgo?