I am insecure with my chinese accent?
I have just moved to the U.S. about 5 years ago. I know I have a gift of learning new languages, because within the first 2 years, I was out of ESL and onto honors classes. I made a lot of friends, and I was able to get used to the american culture pretty quickly. But there's just one darn thing that I'm totally insecure about; My accent. It's been holding me back from showing people who I truly am. People tell me that they don't notice I have an accent(the ones that I'm close to), that is because when I'm comfortable, my accent doesn't come out. It's very settle. And the words that I do have a hard time pronuncing are very far between. Whenever I meet new people, is when I'm the most insecure. But the more insecure i get, the more my accent comes out, which I will eventually notice and starts to hide myself in a little ball of mass insecurities. and tomorrow i will be hanging out with all new people in my church at a picnic, and i go to a white church X.X
Im kind of insecure about my height, I'm only 5 feet, do guys like short girls?
Mabe I'm paranoid, but I just feel like more guys would like me if I was taller. People tell me I'm pretty all the time, but I just feel like my height is holding me back. I'm skinny too and have a nice figure, so I just want to know what the deal is, does height really matter that much when it comes to choosing a girl? And do guys like short girls or tall girls better?
Will my looks hold me back?
So here's the deal, I'm insecure. That being said, I'm trying to improve my social life lately. Anyway, I just wanna know if my looks will hold me back. I'm pretty shy. Also, I'm 17 and 6'0 http://imgur.com/f7P3cuN
Life Advice: What are the ways to stop feeling insecure about your life and relationship?
It’s a tough question. One that doesn’t require a simple answer. There is really no trick to it. The truth is, most insecurity comes with insecure action. Don’t do insecure action = stop being insecure.There is nothing wrong with you in reality. Everyone was made equally great and has equal potential. The difference comes in weather you approach every day with insecurity or with passion.Your value of yourself (Which should by birth be very high, you were made by God after all) will determine your actions, and your actions will create an image of yourself.So to stop being insecure, one must first recognize their own value in God, in who they are as a living entity that cannot be flawed more than the next person. The second step is to stop acting out of insecurity. Brush insecure thoughts off and remember that you are holy in who you are. Act out of the outmost belief in yourself. Your actions should only go with the best story of your self. Your best version of your identity. Your vision of who you want to be, and who you ultimately are.Character is also a big one. Kindness comes out of confidence and love. Being petty comes out of insecurities. It goes both ways. Being petty will make you insecure. Being kind will make you confident. Like I said, your actions determine your value, and your actions can take it away.You are already the greatest. However, your daily actions tell you a different story. Now, the reason I made this whole big intro comes down to the second part of your question. Your relationships. It begs the question what is the true cause of your relationship in the first place.One relationship birth out of insecurity and lack of self belief is one doomed to fail and bring bad luck. On the other hand, relationships that are made out of true love, confidence, charity and service are the ones that truly matter.So there is one true takeaway from this whole essay.Your actions determine who you are. Act out of insecurities to become a insecure person. Act out of love and be forever great.
How can I get over my stupid insecurities...?
Sister, it seems you associate yourself with your body. Are you a body? Does your body define you; is it your identity? What about your mind, do you have one? Do you have a spirit? If you are more than a body, then YOU can't be chubby, but maybe the body is. If you'll admit that you have at least a mind, then this is where ALL your insecurities will appear or not. Your body chooses not to be chubby or lean, it does as it is told. It has no opinion of itself. Your mind makes decisions, and it seems that you've decided for insecurity. Just as easily as you've decided for, can you decide against. Yes, I too want to be healthy, and I surely want no insecurity. But you see, I understand that I AM more than just a body. In my mind I've decided that I am more. If you so choose to be sexual with this man, understand that to accept pleasure, you must also be willing to accept pain. And identifying yourself as a body shall surely bring you such. If he were to laugh in your face, who cares? He is not everything, nor is his opinion, nor is your body. You think he is special, and so you care about his opinion. I won't tell you otherwise, but I will tell you to remember the love of your family, for their love shall be greater than just your body image. They love you for more than your appearance. Sister, I send my love & blessings.
It feels like my boyfriend uses my insecurities to get back at me. Am I in a bad relationship?
You know the answer to this one, don't you? He is not treating you the way you deserve to be treated. Throwing someone's insecurities in their face is just awful. You seem like you are not happy with the relationship. You're wasting you time and energy on someone who doesn't think before acting. He, may be going through a tough time at work or may have some family issues going on, but it doesn't give him the right to take it out on you. You are holding on to someone who is unhealthy for you. I understand that relationships are difficult to walk away from, especially, if you have had great times in the past and have gone through so much, but you're not happy anymore and you're not being treated as well as you should be. I think you should just let it go. A few months from now, you'll be a happier person.
How do I reconcile with myself knowing my insecurities and social anxiety are holding me back and I can't overcome them?
Don’t give up; here are some specific strategies to overcome your social anxiety and move forward in your life. Try some new things each day, journal your progress, and don’t give up; you’re worth it and will feel better and better as you make steps towards claiming your life! Best, S.