Men do you like desperate women?
Men will usually take advantage of a desperate woman's situation and use her for whatever he can if she lets him. Whether they like her or not doesn't matter really
Why are Black women sounding so desperate for white men attention?
well its a matter of preference. im Black and i'd love to be able to go out with a black guy but many of the black people at my school(and all over) have succumb to this "ghetto black stereotype" and 4 me its a huge turn off. the whole wearing their pants to their ankles and cursing in every other word is revolting! my friends call me "oreo" cuz they say im white on the inside but black on the outside cuz of the way i talk and act. i'm not to sure how to take that but its better than acting like the "typical black girl" its like they think just because they r black, they have to act like fools. I know there r well educated and proper black men out there but black women just don't want to give the energy into searching for them so they turn too the white men.....
Where do I look to find desperate girls (besides bars) to date?
If you approach things with this attitude you wont be able to get even the most desperate girl will not go out with you. Iam not trying to be rude just real. Girls hate desperation especially im a man its a poor quality. Where supposed to be strong, tough and confidant desperation does not relate to any of those. I understand how you feel because i was very desperate but truth is dude even if you got ten desperate hot girls as you get older that doesnt mean anything your life becomes empty. Chances are your desperate because it feels empty already doesnt it? Invest in your hobbies, in school in your passions it may sound corny but the better you become the more comfortable you become the more women will be drawn to you.
What do men think about women who pursue them desperately?
Please note, I'm not a man, obviously, but I really need to address the comment following the question. You wrote: " ...Consider a scenario where the girl is very warm and friendly. She keeps touching the guy on the arm, shoulder etc. Always laughs at his jokes. She's playful and flirtatious. She obviously has low self esteem and needs validation from the guy. She has little self respect. She dresses proactively in an attention seeking way. She is loud and attention seeking in general. Would most men fall for such women? Exactly what kind of men would fall for such women?..."Project much?I am amazed that you can deduce that all women that dress provocatively and are outgoing and touchy feely have low self esteem and little self respect... lol Have you ever thought that maybe cultural filters might be at play? For example, my best friend is from Napoli, Italy. Have you ever been to a family gathering with a group of people from Italy. Let me tell you. Women love to dress well and they will kiss you on both cheeks, hug you and touch you if they want your attention. Also, they will ask if you are hungry often. Even if you say no, food will be brought to you. In your opinion they are all whores right ? ... WTF!Methinks that you are the one that does not get any attention from those lose women and you are pissed because you'd like to have the attention yourself. Essentially, you are the one that is looking through a thick cultural lense and you are projecting your insecurities by again playing the blame game on those nasty women with lose morals that won't give you the time of day... I don't know if it's me but I believe that there are so many questions lately that try to portray woman as evil bitches because men of certain ethnicities cannot do whatever they want to women because they are in a foreign county. It would appear it pisses them off to force themselves to respect women. I truly believe that we need to address the fact that there is a 800 pound gorilla in the room and that the emperor is truly naked ! lolHave fun e-mailing all your friends and get together to downvote en masse my answer to your question.PS: Please note, the contents of the question has been changed... yet again. My answer is based on what was originally written.
Why do women HATE MEN SO MUCH these days?
I think understanding comes with age. Younger guys are not experienced with females and with themselves yet. Unfortunately, society indroctinates both females and males into being something they are not. The sexes becomes frustrated when those expectations are not met. Eg men want a "snow white", women want a prince charming and protector. No body is perfect and the important thing is that we have to try to help each other the best we can so we can make each other happy. Men are saying they hate American/western women, and, unfortunately, this is troublesome. We live in the best society right now where both men and women have choice to mate who they want to mate with. In the west we have different communities like the Amish, Catholic and Muslim faith, which define what each role is expected of each other. Then there is the secular part of our world, where women and men have the choice to go to a dance/night club and parties to chose the mate THEY Want. The important thing to remember is that every community has a cost. The cost for me living in a secular world is getting hurt after choosing a man I fell in love with. I'd rather live that kind of life and not live in a community where I'm forced to be something I'm not. I've been hurt a few times, and it's ok for me because I still love the opposite sex. I wouldn't want it either way. Also girls are timid and scared around being other men, because we are sheltered till a certain age by our familes, especially other men(fathers and brothers). We are told that we can't go out, because men are going to harm us. Now that I'm older, and the men I hang out with now have matured. They become more compassionate and reserved in their older age. They want families at an older age; same with women. It's all about experience and wisdom. I really hope men don't try and take all our rights away from us, because it will just hurt them in the end. I believe men helped with the women's movement, because perhaps they wanted to see more variety in women and culture. It's a really boring life if we don't enjoy a little bit. I for sure would not want to live in a society where 90% of the population is of one religion.
Why are there men who 'hate' pretty women?
It was a chill April evening and I was walking in the neighbourhood. I walked right past by a girl. She was taking a smoke break across from an art exhibit/sale.This random girl smiled at me and seemed wanted to say something. I noticed that she was pretty.I happened to have this question on my mind for a while and was desperate for an answer.Here's the situation, back then at work, we had a pretty new boss who was disliked by quite a few guys. I still remember at the company annual gathering, the new boss girl (who managed a different place) had her boyfriend accompany her and I was the very few people who said ‘Hi’ and thought I’d give her my drink ticket when she was standing by the bar. Later when her boyfriend left (by the way, a very dashing couple), she came over to our table and sat there ALONE for the rest of the night. And it seemed like such a lonely image and somehow none of those I worked with bothered with her.I worked in a male-dominated field but I sensed other girls didn't like her much because she was an external hire, which means some other people had to deal with the fact their old boss went to a different place, and some others lost an opportunity to be promoted.It was the first time it happened, and in general, people don't react poorly to pretty people unless there's something seriously wrong.So I asked random pretty girl why pretty boss at work was disliked and badmouthed by the guys. I said she was so pretty (technically well-dressed and carefully choosing her food) and generally the guys shouldn't have a problem with her. (And she wasn't too bossy with me and spilled all her genetic make-up when I met her when I tried to figure out where that looks come from.) It boggles my mind. Random pretty girl told me, “it’s because those guys can't date her.” It was so simple yet so enlightening.We chatted a bit further about other things. Before parting, this girl told me, “never stop questioning.”This kind of thing never happened to me again because later I had weird questions about some pretty girls when I saw another one, I never felt comfortable enough to raise the question to a pretty stranger upon first meeting.(A bit of trivia: oddly, for a town that usually doesn't have a lot of pretty locals, i.e.: all the pretty people were from elsewhere and I kept a loose track of that for a while, the two pretty girls were from the same area! I digress.)
Sexism: Why do some men hate women?
I agree that proportionally few men hate women, but I'll take a different tack on why proportionally many men lack respect for women.No one - not, parents, not teachers, not peers and never once did they themselves ever require them to actually respect women. Instead they were told (and believed) to not hit women, because women are weak. They were told (and believe) that they were the breadwinners, the pursuers, the "big man" the "head of the household", the rulers of the world....and it never once occurred to them to actually notice that their mothers did far, far more work than their fathers, and their brothers were simply given money and opportunity, while their sisters had to make opportunities for themselves.Instead of thinking, for one second, that maybe they were being unfair by not respecting women they way they naturally respect other men, they thought, "Well, if I don't respect women, it's their own fault." And they started telling themselves stories. Girl don't need to be respected because...they should be quiet, and modest and shouldn't try and play sports, or do math or be politicians, police, musicians, writers, painters, scientists coders, mechanics, engineers, doctors, lawyers, drinkers, smokers. And when the men finished telling themselves that story the only thing left for women was the one thing that the men could not, no matter what, do - have babies. That was what women should do.And the story is still being told, by people all over the world. It's the story the Taliban told Malala Yousafzai when they shot her, it's the story that Steubenville told a girl when she was raped, then blamed. It's the story that the Internet tells Rebecca Black and Anita Sarkeesian and Jane Asselin, and Mari Naoimi. You're a girl, there is no respect for you.To respect women, all men need to do is treat individuals as individuals. Treat women the same as they treat other men and this whole man hating/woman-hating thing mostly goes away.
What are the most common mistakes that single men desperately wanting to meet women, make? Why?
The desperation itself will take the focus away from the fact that you JUST might actually be a charming and sincere guyThe false and big claims that you are making at the start will later be the one responsible for you to trip and fall smack downNot every girl is same. And not all of them can be approached like a common equation to be solved. There's no short cut if you really want to date somebodyDon't ever make the assumption that, just because you are finally able to have a conversation with the girl and just because she is genuinely interested in all that you are saying, you are getting laid tonight. Just because a girl is charming and is wearing something sexy and is talking to you means she is asking for it.Yes you know how to talk, and dress well, and have an excellent personality (very charming, sincere, well-mannered, opening the doors and all for me). Just don't forget your social etiquette in the middle of a date.Why is a bit of a conundrum. I'll hazard a guess towards the culture which grounds men to a stereotype, a case excessively common in the Indian scenario. More than this, i'll prefer not to say without being any more insulting!!
What's the difference between men and women, to you?
So if we are not different, then we are the same (as 'Trevor' deleted)? But what exactly does this "sameness" mean? Is it "sameness" of goals as 'Matrix' believes? Or is it a shared "essence" as 'Aerfen' suggests? Or sameness in needs and wants as 'Winter' says? I believe in equality of rights but I do not believe on an ontological identity. I believe in the acceptance of difference. Feminism has had at least three distinctive phases: first it was the struggle for political equality based on the right to vote. Then, on the 60s and 70s, came a phase when equality was seen as being identical so women sought to mimic male gender roles ('Just me' learned this idea about equality). During the 90s a feminism that recognizes difference appeared, which came along with the recognition of equality through difference for others such as gays, transgenders, cultural minorities, etc. I agree with Eogan that after centuries of believing that men and women where essentially different, came modern times when questioning our "sameness" has become politically incorrect. So now we believe in some "sameness" that can hardly be argued or demonstrated in a convincing way. Mathematical "sameness" boils down to identical (1 = 1) but human "sameness" can mean anything and nothing at all. I agree with you that it is just as hard to scientifically prove we are different, though there are a number of statistics that point in that direction (and pseudo science settles for physical traits as determining behaviour, as 'Jim' and 'Oz S' in their own way, have been lead to believe). But I find it just as pointless to prove we are different than to prove we are "the same". I see no gain in us being "the same". I do see an advantage in recognizing that in spite of our differences we can live peacefully, respectfully and together.
Why desperate guys never get the girl?
Because if you're desperate there are a few things that are probably mostly true about yourself: You aren't confident in your ability to achieve your goalsYou are not going to make someone feel special if you seem to want to just go for anyoneYou are going to either push too hard and become annoying very quickly, or you are desperate because you don't know how to properly make a move so it will never workAlso, if you're desperate a person can assume that other people have probably turned you down before, and if you're acting so strange that you're obviously desperate to them, then they will consider why that may be and its never going to be for a positive reason.Why be desperate when it isn't a desperate situation? It will happen when it happens, if you're desperate you're more likely to get into a low quality relationship and convince yourself it's fine until you're 55 years old and realise you wasted the vast majority of your life.Just try to love yourself and find yourself and be happy and you will find someone naturally