I have 14 backlogs in engineering. Should I give up my life?
Well. I had 37 backlogs in my B.Tech (Most of them I grabbed due to my low internal marks). A very few of my college mates (like me ) believed that I could pass. I had a good academic records till my Engineering. But from the 1st day it self during the course, I lacked the path. I don't want to blame my teachers alone for my internals because I had my own part in lowering it :). Many of my friends said me to give up and join any other diploma/course. Some of the papers I wrote more than 3 times and just fail. It was a turning point when my S7 results came. Most of the back benchers passed because it is going to be the end of the Course, but I got most number of backlogs in S7. Even in our farewell meeting teachers were busy asking our class toppers what's next, do this course like that. I sadly thought , “I don't know if I complete my course or not”Till that time I didn't reveal parents about my backlog history. My hall ticket has caught red handed by my Parents. They didn't scolded me, instead motivated by stories inside BIBLE as well as of other great personalities in the world. I really started my course then and with GODs grace and confidence I passed all papers as 37–21, 21–18, 18–2 and 2–0. I passed…….. magical moment for our family and I believed it is one among the best in my life.I was in a computer course by HCL at that time which changed me a lot in terms of personality and technical domain. I tried for many jobs and then I went for servicing PCs at home.At that time one of my friend said that there is some opening in Sutherland Cochin, Kerala, a bpo mnc. I went for an interview there and surprisingly I cleared all the rounds and got job as Technical Consultant.I stayed there for less that one year. After that I have done some certifications, got a job in another company, Admin-ahead. Then I moved to EY (it is hard for me to believe that I got job in Ernst and Young) and then after 4.5 years of experience, moved to IBM as a Technical specialist, stayed there for 2 years and now working with Eurofins, a product based company with decent package and good profileI worked in four MNC, learned many technologies and taken certifications, Earned many best performer awards and created multiple innovative tool sets which is now being used in EY and IBM around the globe.So go forward trusting in GOD (I believe there is only ONE which has no religion), confidence and try, try and try. You will definitely succeed.No one is stopping you from doing things
How do i treat this lice problem please help?
It's ok, you don't have to shave her head. We had the same problem, and unfortunately, your water bill may be high and it will be stressful. We had to wash and change our pillow cases, (put a plastic pillowcase over the pillow but under the pillow case. it's not that bad.) sheets, comforters, and everything that we slept with every night. you have to vacuum every room quite often (we did it once a day). We also took all of the stuffed animals and evacuated them. every single brush should be soaked in a bucket of alcohol (if it's from sally's beauty supply it smells like strawberries/cherries/mint. hairbands should go here too. after using a brush/comb, drop it in the bucket and get another one when you need it). no clothing should be worn again, and the clothing that your daughter wore should be washed every day with the blankets. if she has curtains, those have to either be washed or evacuated. when things are evacuated, they should be tied tightly into trash bags and put in a place where nobody goes that often. if you want to, you can evacuate the living room or where she is the most except her room or the bathroom to get rid of it there (about 2 weeks+). and finally, while all of this is going on, comb out her hair with a sanitized comb (not a brush) and load it with hand sanitizer. yes, it does work. it's better than vinegar or regular alcohol. work it through evenly and thoroughly and leave for 10-15 minutes, and then wash out in the shower. (use cool water, hot or warm water burns like your head is on fire). also wash all of your washcloths and towels daily and do not reuse them. the hand sanitizer kills the eggs (basically by shriveling them up and killing them; same with the live crawling lice.) do this routine for about a month or so, and then unpack everything that had to be evacuated. also, spray couches and everything that can't be washed or really evacuated with cvs lice bedding spray and leave for an hour. also, remember to spray it on her matress, wait an hour, and then do the same on the other side of the matress. (tip: they hate coconut, so you can use coconut shampoo. nut do not get Softee Coconut Conditioner that comes in a little jar container. you need 2 hours and a bottle of dawn dish soap to get it out.. not fun). good luck :)
What becomes of the golden child of a narcissistic parent?
I think that golden children and scapegoats exist as a result of the narc's triangulation technique.There are three entities involved in triangulation with a narc parent and 1 child:1) The narc-prosecutor2) The victim-child3) The audienceIf the victim-child is submissive then the narc makes them a golden child and tells the audience that they are perfect parents and the golden child is perfect too because of them.If the victim-child rebels, then the narc makes them a scapegoat and tells the audience that they are poor people that the scapegoat is doing something to.The approach between golden child and scapegoat can change depending on how the victim-child responds to the narc-prosecutor.In cases of families with 2 children then there is multiple triangulation.The entities involved are:1) The narc-prosecutor2) The golden child victim3) The scapegoat child victim4) The audienceThe narc triangulates as before for each of the children to the audience, but also between the 2 children. They will tell the golden child that the scapegoat is a failure and to blame for, and tell the scapegoat that the golden child is perfect and successful to make them jealous. The 2 child victims will be at battle with each other and then the narc triangulates again to pretend they are saving both from each other.One could apply mathematical formulas to see that the more people are involved around the narc, triangulation instances increase exponentially.The golden child will inevitably either overvalue their abilities and become a narc themselves, or at some point crack down from pressure of being made to feel empty and perfect, unable to fail, and have real needs of their own.If there was a scapegoat in the family too, they will always struggle to get back with them, both because of the ideas planted to them from the narc as well as the battles that would have occurred between them.Hopefully if the golden child runs away and fixes the issues elsewhere they may heal and take hold of whatever they may have built themselves during the narc parent pressures.