When's the best time to talk to a guy?
I feel that if I talk to him at not a right time, he might feel annoyed. I know alot of guys actually feel this way. But I really wish to have a deep conversation with him. He's always busy with his work and I can't seem to find the time to discuss with him. So I decide to seek help. Can I know ( from the guys ) or the perspective of girls, when is the best time to talk to a guy ?
How do you stop an annoying very chatty coworker in a small 5 person office from yapping your ear off daily?
Start ignoring her. When she's talking don't look at her or acknowledge that she is speaking. That way you just look busy, and not like an ***. If she has any brains at all she will take the hint in a few days. Otherwise, you may just have to tell her that she is getting on your nerves. Don't be hateful but just simply say that you have work to do and you cannot listen to her stories and get your work done. Good luck with that.
How do I best handle an overly talkative person?
I think there is something seriously wrong with this question. Why do you want to know how to “handle” a talkative person? it's not like having a talkative person around you is some sort of an “emergency" that needs your attention. Just excuse yourself and you won't even have to hold a polite conversation with them.I am a very talkative person and this has been a recurring make or break thing when it comes to all my relationships with people. Some people can handle it and some can't.Its okay to find a talkative person annoying. It is your choice but what is not okay is to make a big deal of it. If it's too much for you then maintain a distance. Talkative people are more sensitive than most of the people in the room. They feel too much and so they think they can explode if they can't share it! Also they happen to be very blunt and honest most of the time. sometimes the truth gets too much for people to handle so they tend to snap. Try to make ensure that that isn't the case before making a big deal about someone being a chatter box!And if you feel like it's too much drama and too much noise and chatter, excuse yourself. Sensitive people do know when they are unwanted. Please don't try to “handle” them. If you like the way a conversation is going, enjoy it.Also,people who think being stuck in a situation with a talkative person can get too much to handle and they can be annoying or a nuisance, let me tell you that right at that moment when you're trying to think of ways to get out of this chatter, the chatter box who finds you equally dull is probably just pulling through because they don't want you to feel too bad and come across as rude.PS- I am sorry if I came across as someone who is too aggressive but I seriously don't understand what is the big deal! If someone talks too much we have a problem. If someone doesn't we have a problem again. What is this incessant need to “handle” situations and people? It makes you sound like a control freak. Find your own kind of people and don't mess with the ones' who irk you. How difficult would that be? Definitely a lot easier than trying to diffuse situations that do not need any diffusing!
How do I handle my girlfriend talking to a guy friend a lot more and more often than I am comfortable with?
3 guidelines here to assess a male- friend intervening in your relationship: 1) How much time do you spend together? How much time do they spend together? Both in person and over the phone. You should be the person she talks to the most. If you aren't, then you aren't her priority. And that's exactly how this conversation should begin. Don't apologize for being jealous or insecure, those are emotions that have various causes. It seems clear that the cause of those emotions in this situation is the amount of time she's spending with this friend. You don't sound controlling. Tell her to treat you like you're her priority. If you aren't, re-assess your relationship (which is fancy language for get your ass out). 2) Assess the trust levels of the relationship. How much do you trust her? There must be a certain amount of trust issues going on from your end, however that is not necessarily your fault. Examining your situation, her actions of hiding her phone and having skype convos late at night is sketchy. She isn't making moves that make you want to trust her. Relationships are built on trust, so it sounds like this relationship is on it's way out. 3) Self-reflect. Why did she start this new flame?This relationship sounds pretty much over, so it's time to think about the future. What made her lose interest? I don't mean to piggyback from the other answers, but are you too nice?Best of luck, I'm sorry about your relationship and the pain she's causing you with this new guy. Remember your self-worth. You don't need to deal with anything you don't want to.
How do I tell my boss to talk slower?
Just tell him the truth: talk slower. He's training you to do your job, if he doesn't train you right, then basically your out a job. Tell him, "I am trying to do this job to the best of my ability, but your talking to fast for me to understand what your saying. Do you think you could take it down a notch?" I'm sure he would understand. Now, if you're more shy, talk to someone at the job, and ask them to tell him. Or, talk to someone higher than the guy training you to talk to him. Another idea is leave an 'Anonymous' tip at his desk, underneath his winder-wipers, etc. to talk slower. Either way, he is bound not to take it personally. Hey, I talk SUPER fast and everyone tells me to slow it down, but it doesn't bother me one bit. If he talks fast, someone has probably already told him to slow it down. I wish you the best of luck! I'm sure you'll be fine and choose the best route, even if it's not my suggestion! -Jake
What should I do if my boss invades my personal space?
I always get annoyed at my job. Of course, I can't talk back to my boss because he is my boss. So I try to deal with this. Everytime I am trying to get some work done, he would hoover over me and make me nervous and I always do my job. Its not like I need him to keep an eye on me. So he constantly watches me and sometimes, he would reach over my desk and take the work from me before I even have the chance to bring it to him and it just makes me very uncomfortable that he invades my space. I cant tell him to stop because he is my boss.So any advice? Does he have the right to watch over me constantly and invade my space just because hes the boss?
Do you have any experience with an annoying coworkers?
I am a very humorous person, but I've dealt with people who thought they were "just joking around" who really bothered me. Last summer I had an internship where I was working with another intern pretty regularly on components for a telescope. Largely he just rubbed me the wrong way. He would come up to me and snap his fingers in my face, and come up to me an act like he was going to slap me (or fake slap me). In many cases I would think nothing of this, but I didn't know him at all, save for the weeks I'd been working with him, and it was really unprofessional. When it came to these things he wasn't touching me so I couldn't really do anything. I would speak with my face, roll my eyes, or ignore him (which seemed to work well) or tell him to just stop. He probably thought I was a total stiff but honestly who goes up to a coworker they don't know and fake-slaps them? I think I was bothered by him because he would also make sexist comments and try to make me look bad in front of our boss. With that, I tried to retort, and was just ready in case in got out of hand. Eventually the sexist remarks didn't bother me because I got to know him and his sense of humor (I get a lot of it in my line of work) and he wasn't able to make me look bad because he had screwed up his own work so bad, plus I constantly made sure my boss was aware of my accomplishments and what I was really doing. I guess if it's anything like that, it is good to think about 1) what your line is, what is really too much to put up with 2) make sure the person knows when they approach that line or cross it 3) be ready to seek action against them. If they are doing something wrong, you might want to say something. If they are just stealing your stapler, it is probably harmless humor to them though, so for things that don't cross the line, just be patient, they are probably socially awkward and use those antics to get to know people (that was the case with my coworker). Maybe if you do know them better you won't be as bothered by them. But don't let them do anything serious like harass you (if you've told them what is unacceptable) or try to make you look bad.
How do you deal with assholes at work? The condescending ***** is getting on my last nerves!!!?
Your suggestion seems good. I hope your boss is understanding. One other thing you can secretly enjoy is that you make this person very nervous. They are very intimidated by you. They are weak and insecure. But they portray perfection and pride in your face. They will never admit to the competition how pathetic their lives really are. If you can ever work these emotions out, and get to the place that you do not let their immature behavior bother you, then you have already won. This will both drive them insane, and cause them to leave you alone (but only after ratcheting up the annoying behavior more to test your resolve to "stay aloof" to their foolishness). Eventually a person like this will wear everyone out. Furthermore, if your boss cannot see how destructive and demotivating it is to work in such an environment, then the boss is making a BIG MISTAKE. He is sacrificing the short-term (results he likes today) for the long-term (his total inability to influence his staff in the future because of consistent bad management). Praying for you.