My boyfriend hurt his mom last night, does that mean he will hurt me too?
Last night, my boyfriend was in a fight with his mom and dad about their business. His mom got a little worked up and told my boyfriend that she only cares about him (her son) and not about his dad (her husband)...apparently, my boyfriend thought that the comment she made was very disrespectful towards his father, so he threw the first thing he could get his hands on at her...a cantalope (they were in the kitchen)...well a cantalope is pretty damn hard, and I was apalled, epecially because he threw it hard and it actually hit her. He then told her that she would probably bruise and he went upstairs, obviously very upset and crying. His mom was downstairs in shock and crying as well, and I had no idea what to do. I know that when he's drunk, he gets kinda crazy and starts fistfights and breaks things like a computer, and he once trashed his friends apartment, but he didn't have a drop of alcohol in him last night. Of course i was worried about his mom, because I love her so much, but that also made me question him and if he had such a temper, would he pull a stunt like that on me as well? If we got in a fight, I wouldn't want the first thing for him to pick up be a golf club or something, but maybe I'm overreacting? All i know is that in my household, If i did that, I'd be out on my *** in a second...any advice would be amazing, thanks so much! (P.S. this is my first time using this program, so if you guys ask me any questions, it might take me a while to respond because I have to figure it out first)
My boyfriend hurt me last night, what do i do?
Ive been with my boyfriend for 9 months but we have spent every day together since the beginning, last night he wanted to go out but i was tired very sleepy so i told him to go drink to his friends backyard and not to drink too much. I went to sleep and woke up midnight i texted him and he had gone to a bar. I got mad and told him to go to his house. He has keys to my house and we live near by. I used to think i wanted his babies, i wanted to marry him. But las night everything changed. He came a bit too drunk, peed in my hallway and i told him to go to his house and he insisted in staying i knew he was drunk so i didn't want to sleep with him. (he sleeps over sometimes) I instead and asked him to leave, i was laying down in bed and he got on top of me and grabbed my two hand so hard it made me cry out of pain instantly i told him to stop and after a few seconds he did, now i was even more mad and started cursing him and telling him to leave he then did it again he grabbed my hands super hard, i was painful, i thought he was gonna break it and i begged to stop and it took longer but he did. I knew i couldlnt make him go, i cried i was in shock. i couldn't believe he had touched me. I broke up with him this morning when he was sober, but he's not taking it, he wouldn't get out the car i had to tell him we were no over so he could get out my car then i texted him i didn't want to c him ever again, he came to my house trying to c my mom and tell her his intentions r to marry me... if he would of done that before but he's doing it now. I remember the seconds and i cry instantly, i feel disgusted with myself, i don't know what to do or how am i suppose to feel.
My boyfriend physically hurt me last night?
Last night, my boyfriend squeezed my hand really hard while he was holding it with the intention of hurting me. It did hurt me. He kept squeezing my hand until I told him to stop because it was hurting me. I do not believe this is a way you should treat someone you love. We have been together for two years, though, so I don't know if I should call it quits over this single incident. (Not that our relationship is perfect because we have A LOT of issues that I do not have time to go into). He had been upset because I lost his wristband that we won FOR FREE at a concert because I (that's right MYSELF) picked up a ziplock bag full of cigarette butts. He said that me losing it added to his frustration of me being late and losing his things (I have misplace TWO of his inexpensive items.). I feel like he just truly does not care for me anymore because I certainly would not treat someone I love like absolute trash if they lost something of mine. He then tried to use the excuse that his "hand was itchy from washing dishes at work and he was tired of me trying to rub his hand while I was holding it." THAT IS STILL NO EXCUSE TO TRY TO CAUSE ME PHYSICAL PAIN. Once he realized how much of an *** he was and felt bad about it, he started trying to be sweet and cuddle with me, which is about the only time he will be sweet. He is only sweet when he feels bad about something he did. I am tired of him taking out all of his emotions on me when I am nothing but sweet and loving to him.
I slapped my boyfriend last night, what should I do?
You should have added the background in the question. Now i know you were drunk, so drunk that you don’t even remember. Getting slap from a person who you love definitely hurt more than the pain of the slap. It shatter person’s emotional state. If you are really sorry which seems like after reading your background and your statement you will never drink again.Yes you have to say sorry. But don’t expect just saying sorry is enough. you had shattered some person’s feeling. It could be a mix emotion of love, pride, self respect. which all you had slapped.So I think now it is you who have to heal this wound. your relationship was at 100 but now you have to start at 10–20. it’s a big loss i know. But if you are true to your relationship. with time you can not only cover but also cross that 100 marks. But it will take time and certainly lots of more good memories. so much memories that he just forget what had happened. Good luck.Old Answer: If you feel guilty then apologies. If not then leave him. He is better without you
My boyfriend hurt his shoulder!?
Yesterday my boyfriend got in the middle of a mosh pit and a kid got thrown into his left shoulder,and he's been in ALOT of pain since. He says it hurts when he moves it down towards the floor and when he moves it forwards.but he's in pain alll the time now. Do you know maybe what he might've done to it? Or what I should do to help him? Because he can't afford to go to a doctor right now and we have to do something,I feel bad that he's in so much pain. Help pleeasee!
I hurt my boyfriend last night I feel really guilty about it today?
I don't normally post personal questions on websites like these but I'm really stuck and would honestly really like some advice. My boyfriend and I have been together for a while, we're really close. When my boyfriend was in his early teens, he was sexually assaulted i was the first person he told when he was 18. I think that as a side effect, he has terrible nightmares, they don't happen often but he sometimes wets the bed, he wakes up screaming, or sweats a lot or he sleep talks. I think that it happens twice or three times per month. Overall he's made a big improvement because I've tried to support him in every way I can since he's opened up to me. Last night I came home from work very late, I was very tired, and I just wanted to go to bed. My house mate knows my boyfriend so she normally lets him in my bedroom where he waits for me or falls asleep in my bed if I come home late. I realised that he'd wet my bed, he was trying to clean it up when i got home. He apologised, i could tell he was really embarrassed by it. But i just got mad and upset all i wanted to do was sleep my feet were aching. I shouted at him, and said some very personal insults about his abuse and told him to wear a nappy since he's a 22 year old adult who still wets the bed like a 4 year old boy. He changed she bedsheets, and ended up sleeping on the couch. In the morning I woke up early, made him breakfast, and put a blanket around him and wrote a note saying how sorry I was and I'll make it up to him tonight. I had to leave before he woke up because I had some work to do. I still feel awful because I made fun of something which is a very sensitive topic for him. I really care about him, and I honestly regret it so much I didn't mean to. My apology is sincere but I still feel as if it isn't enough. What do you think I should do to make this right? Thanks so much for taking your time to read this and replying
My boyfrind beat me last night when he was drunk. what should I do? Should I leave him? Please help
It is a habit that will come up again and again. never tolerate this kind of abuse.No matter how deep your love for him, if he lays his hand on you, hurting you, you should leave him. It is habit, it is a disease that won't leave just like that, more over, by an apology. Don't let your feeling fool you. You should leave him before things get worse and you're already abused by him. I said this thing because I know a friend who was in an abusive relationship. It looked like incidental at first, but it came as repetitive actions. And he always, always said sorry and promised not to do it again. But he did. So...
Why am I mad that my boyfriend got drunk last night?
Your boyfriend getting drunk last night, is this an occasional thing or an every night thing? If it’s an every night thing, he is, likely, an alcoholic and should seek treatment. However, your question is about why you are mad that he got drunk last night.You are angry because you had certain expectations for him (i.e., that he would not get drunk last night), and he did not live up to them, so you, naturally, feel hurt because of it. You feel that he does not love you enough or respect you enough to do what you expect him to do, so you are hurt, and rightfully so.Now the question is: did you let your boyfriend know that you did not want him to drink to the point of getting drunk last night? If you did not tell him, then you cannot expect him to not live up to expectations that he did not know that you had for him. Men are not mind readers. So if him getting drunk bothers you, then you need to tell him. If him coming home drunk after a “night with the boys” bothers you, then you need to tell him. He cannot fulfill expectations that he does not know were set for him. If he continues to drink to intoxication, then you need to decide whether you should leave him or accept that he may get drunk on occasion or may be an alcoholic and stay with him because of his other redeeming qualities.However, if you told him that you didn’t want him to drink to the point of getting drunk, then you have every right to be mad at him.As an aside, and as an evening drinker myself, after a couple of drinks, inhibitions and judgement begin to break down, so what can easily start as an evening of “I am only going to have a couple of drinks” can easily lead to one too many because a person does not realize how many they had or how intoxicated they really are, and an extra drink or two becomes one too many.With that being said, you need to look at his pattern of drinking. If he ends up drunk every now and again, then it is probably poor judgement on his part and maybe some peer pressure from his friends to drink to drunkenness. If it is an every night or most night occurrence, then he needs help. It is up to you if you want to be with an alcoholic, but, in the meantime, you need to let him know that it bothers you when he drinks to the point of being with someone that occasionally or always gets drunk.
Girls: Do you cry when your boyfriend gets hurt?
My Girlfriend does that ALL the time! For like stupid reasons sometimes. On friday I was walking with her and I got beat up by some @ssholes at school. When I went home I was laying on my bed with cuts and bruises everywhere and had a bloody mouth. My Girlfriend cried like crazy and treated some of my wounds. But Even after I was okay. She still was crying. I said "Babe, I am fine.. Dont worry about it" she is like " I dont like seeing my baby hurt" and starts crying again. I understand that she cares about me but I think she is being rediculous and does not need to cry about it and pamper me like a freak. I never cry when she gets hurt, I help her and comfort her but I thinks that is dumb. Is she the only one who does this? she even cried when she hit me by mistake and it did not even hurt. btw were 15