Why is my boyfriend acting distant?
everything seems fine then out of nowhere he will have a sudden mood swing, and i feel as though i seem to be trying more then him. its not like big things but talking, messaging , phone calls, etc, he just seems to never put the effort in and i try and wait for him to message me and i get nothing all day and i guess it just hurts because i really do love him and havent let myself fall for a guy this hard before, but he seems to whatever about it. he says some of the cutest things then nothing and he always puts his friends before me even though they never do the same for him . what can i do to get his attention back without getting into a fight about it
Boyfriend acting weird and distant?
My boyfriend of a year, we broke up for 6 weeks of no speaking at all and have been back together for about 7 weeks due to fighting issues. Things have been going well lately and fights are small. For about a week or so now he's been acting really strange around me, really quiet and unaffectionate. When i ask what's wrong he'll say nothing, he's tired, or its nothing concerning me and doesnt want to talk about it and ill push to to tell me till he gets annoyed. i've stopped asking and now i act as if nothing is wrong and do most of the talking when were together, we see eachother a couple times a week because ill make the plan. We'll hold hands in public but he wont kiss me unless i do and ill always say i love you first it and when i try to sleep with him when im over his house, he'll say that he's too tired and doesnt want to. He doesnt txt me back and if he does it's usually one word responses to my paragraphs. He used to always talk about marriage and kids and just last night he said in front of his friends and i that he is never getting married and that he doesnt know what i want to do with that information since were dating. I didnt say anything. Im going crazy because i want to ask what his deal is but i know he'll say nothing or i fear the worse. What's going on and what should i do?
Capricorn boyfriend acting distant?
My boyfriend and I have been dating now for a few months but it feels like we have been together for years and are so similar. A few weeks ago I stumbled upon a reciept to a jewlery store at his house and didn't really think much of it and yesterday I found an beautiful wedding set when I was looking for some shorts in his closet. I am just wondering do Capricorn men distance themselves and test while wanting to propose? We have had our ups and downs and get along perfect while we are together and when we are apart due to our jobs and family we fight alot and me being the leo person I am I say things I don't mean or don't say them due to pride and vulnerablitiy. I have noticed he never says what is on his mind anymore and he keeps saying he is standoffish. I know he loves me but rarely says it anymore and can tell by the way he acts and looks at me. He keeps bringing up the future and marriage jokingly in a sarcastic way and I feel terrible because I joke back with him but the truth is I really want to be with him forever and love him dearly. I feel like I am pushing him away or I hurt him alot with our fights and with the distance he keeps. Do caps usually act like this when getting ready to propose? He is a Cap sun Leo moon and Pisces venus. I am a Leo sun, Cap moon, and Leo venus.
My boyfriend is acting distant. Do I address it or let him get over whatever he's going through and let him come back to me on his own?
Tell you what, if a man seems distant and does not talk much to his partner, it means that he has a problem.The difference between a man and woman is; when a woman is having a problem or a really bad day, she will find someone she’s really close with (a best friend, boyfriend, husband, etc.) to talk to them everything about their problems. But the thing is, they just want to talk and they don’t necessarily require the other end to offer or give solutions to whatever problems they were encounter at the time. They just want them to listen and to understand how they felt.On the other hand, a man with a problem, is a very quiet man. He approach his problems differently. He won’t talk to it to anybody until he finds a solution to it and fix it. If he thinks he cannot solve it, he will find someone who could and talk to them for solutions.So definitely, he has a problem. Is it connected with the marriage? That I’m afraid we still cannot strongly determine as of now.Should you address it to him or let him? Let’s see..As we said earlier, if a man has problems, he becomes distant. Now, if you tried to confront him and think that you know what his problems might be, he will see it as an attack to his problem solving skills, or a criticism. He will become defensive and it might just escalate into an argument.I know you just want to help. But your instinct is telling you to talk to him because talking about your problems is what helps you to cope up on your own but you have to remember that you have your differences.Now what you have to do is to let him on his own thoughts for now. Just trust him to do his best on solving his problems and to make him feel that his efforts are being appreciated. If he feels trusted, needed and appreciated, he feels motivated and empowered. Sooner or later, he will stop being distant and talk to you again.Hope it helps. :)Credits to Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus by John Gray, Ph.D. I’ve been taking good relationship advice from this book ever since.
Boyfriend is really distant and quiet lately?
Me and my boyfriend have been together for about 4 months and he's just really distant and quiet when usually he's really like "I love you" every 5 seconds and he would call me babe all the time and suddenly he's just like quiet and we're long distance for a while and it's really upsetting cause he's a really nice guy but it makes me worried like if he's cheating or something should i be alarmed? Help?
Boyfriend forgave me easily, but is acting distant?
We've been together for 4 years, and I cheated on him a few months ago. It was a MISTAKE and that was the only time it ever happened. I didn't tell him, I was afraid to, but I was acting so guilty that eventually he picked up the pieces and ended up doing a little investigating (we have a lot of mutual friends, so it was probably pretty easy). That's when I first noticed he became distant. He did not tell me he knew, so at some point I try to subtly bring it up, and that was when he told me he knew. I felt really bad because I had expected him to get angry and lose his temper, but he just seemed sad. I begged for forgiveness and he basically just said that it was okay and that it must have been a mistake because he knows I'm not like that. So that made me feel like a **** person, but I figured that it was okay since he had forgiven me, but now he's just being so distant. He's not all affectionate anymore and he's being quiet and just not acting the same way. What do I do?! :(
Lately my boyfriend has been acting distant but says nothing's wrong. Should I be worried?
I see many relationship questions like this on Quora every week:“My boyfriend doesn’t call or text me much anymore. What should I do?”“All my partner and I seem to do is argue with each other all the time. What should I do?”“My boyfriend(girlfriend) seems so distant recently. What should I do?”I always guess that a bad (toxic) relationship is the root cause, but lately I have developed a theory on the basic cause.Many decades ago when people dated, many of them actually made it to their honeymoon. For those that started early, they were usually is a serious relationship or engaged before they started sharing one another.A couple of decades ago when our sons were starting dating, especially in college, young people often were in bed together by the third date. I’m not saying that is bad. The problem is that God (or mother nature) designed human sex as a very powerful bonding experience that works great for holding marriages together. But when a young couple starts out having sex too early it becomes so “bonding” that they overlook many issues that really make them not a long range compatible couple. They exist in a toxic relationship based (loosely) on good (or OK) sex. When they are not in bed, the relationship is not good. Thus, we end up with Quora relationship questions looking for help.I say all this for those couples where this might apply. Do you really have anything “solid” in your relationship other that the sex part? If the honest answer is “no.” Please consider calling it off and move on. Life is too short for toxic relationships.
What should I do when my boyfriend is being distant because of his depression and bipolar disorder?
Both depression and Bipolar Disorder are intense and difficult disorders to live with, both for the person afflicted and for their loved ones. I speak from personal experience as someone who lives with depression and Bipolar Disorder, and as someone who is trained as a counselor. The distress that is experienced by both the sufferer and their supporters is very real, and can be very painful.I would suggest that when your boyfriend is being distant as a function of the symptoms of his disorder(s) you maybe try the following:A. Keeping perspective… He is still the person you love and enjoy, even if he's not acting like it at the moment.B. Remembering that none of this is a choice for him can also be helpful. Mental illness is never a choice. And knowing that he's suffering from something outside of his control can sometimes help cultivate compassion.C. If possible, if he's not too closed off or upset, get him to talk about his feelings. This isn't always doable, but sometimes just knowing someone is there to listen without judging can do wonders for a person in distress. It can also give you some insight into what he's thinking and feeling, which can result in better communication and understanding.D. Depression, anger, shame, guilt, fear - these and other negative emotions have patterns. Learning these patterns as they exist with your partner can be very helpful because it allows you to have a better idea of what to expect. It can also help you and your partner create a routine that improves their mental health. For example, if your boyfriend tends to get depressed after interactions with his parents, maybe you both try to anticipate this and plan a positive event you enjoy to follow his interacting with his parents. Like a bike ride, movie, meal out together - whatever you enjoy.E. Take care of yourself. It is not easy to live with someone that is struggling/suffering. And accordingly it is so very important that you make sure you are doing what you need to do for you to stay as healthy and happy as possible.F. Seek the help of a professional counselor if you feel the issues are beyond what is manageable in your relationship - for yourself, for him, or for both. Counseling can do wonders for many people, though it's not a fix all.I hope something in here might be of use to you, and I wish you and your boyfriend nothing but the best.
My boyfriend is cold and distant to me. What should I do? Should I start to worry?
Worrying is futile.In any case, worrying will never help.What it does do is create a self-fulfilling prophecy. When you worry about something bad happening, you act in such a way that causes that very something to happen.For example, you may worry that your boyfriend is distant, exhibit clingy behaviour, and subsequently push him further.I’ve done it with previous partners, as have many others.What I’ve found helps best it reconnecting with reality. Remember that what you’re dealing with is negative thought. Not reality, but empty worries that exist only in your mind.In order to close your boyfriend’s distance and avoid pushing him away, you must remain true to who you are.You can’t let these worries control you.It’s easy to attribute somebody else’s unusual behaviour to your own actions, however your boyfriend’s sudden distance probably isn’t your fault.There may be something else on his mind, or it may be nothing, but either way you mustn’t get tangled in thought.Consider meditating. Meditation is the practice of calming the mind and not listening to thoughts.Take a seat somewhere quiet.Close your eyes and take deep breaths.Notice your thoughts, observing them without becoming attached to them.If you get lost in thought, gently disconnect and return your focus to the breath.And then apply this technique whenever you begin to worry about your relationship, diverting your attention to your breath or the present moment.Don’t panic. Everything will be just fine.
My girlfriend is being quiet and distant over text?
My girlfriend and I text everyday. she's always happy to text me, but recently she's been quiet. It started yesterday. She started replying with one word answers. She still tries to engage in conversation, but doesn't try too hard. She's been gone for a week at her cousins house and won't be back for another week. I think she started her period yesterday. She also has depression and anxiety. She seems sad and down, but keeps saying there's nothing wrong. I was kinda the same way when she left because I was sad that she was gone. I know she's not texting anyone else because I'm her only friend. I don't know if this stuff could be affecting her or not. I need help from girls that may have done the same thing. Any idea why she could be doing this?