What do I do about boyfriend's female best friend?
My boyfriend and I have been dating for 6 months in a long distance relationship (only see each other on weekends) and his best friend (which happens to be female) is now starting to become an issue. I'm not the jealous type and have no problem with his friendship with her. But when she gets in the way of my relationship with my boyfriend and is being put first before me, then I have a problem. I am confident in myself and trust him. She is also not a threat to me, a very sweet girl. But apparently she confessed her love to him in high school (6 years ago). He didn't feel the same way about her and they managed to become close friends. Though they have been drunk a few times together and have messed around. He says they didn't have sex because he was too drunk to get it up (whatever. They've been naked together, I don't need more details than that). I also think she is still in love with him (I'm a girl too, been there I'm not stupid) She just broke up with her boyfriend and went crying to him while I was in the middle of my own crisis. He immediately chose her dilemma over mine. Which was a big slap in the face to me, considering we only have the weekends to see each other. Whenever she calls he immediately answers her call, regardless of what the two of us are in the middle of. And whenever she wants to hang out we always have to go at her request. Like my wants and needs aren't as important! I don't feel comfortable around her and could care less if I ever spent time with her. But he is always insisting that we all hang out together. I honestly would rather he hang out alone with her. His response to that is: "she's my best friend, I want you to be with me when we hang out. I would be sad if you weren't there." Okay, well I DON'T WANT TO BE THERE!! I feel guilty that I'm in the way from him spending time with his friend, but I only have him for the weekend. Why do we have to hang out with her during that time?? Am I being selfish? I feel crazy about this. Sorry for writing so much, but I'm just so confused. I feel like I have the right to feel this way because I should come first. I'm the girlfriend! He needs to treat me with the respect and care that I need. Not give it all to her. Would love any advice on my standpoint, good or bad!!
Boyfriend's female friend doesn't like me.?
I don't cater to her or act like I am trying to win her approval. In fact I could really care whether she likes me. It's just I want to please him, not her. I am only nice to her to make him happy as I am sure she does the same. You're probably right about the female ego thing, but at the same time she is his friend, just that, a friend, and she may think he is her territory because she has known him longer, but he is actually my territory because I am his girlfriend and he trusts my opinions and says I am his best friend and his girlfriend now. And she really doesn't know him as well as I do. She thinks she does but she doesn't. She only sees the good side of him, the friend side. But she doesn't see and deal with all the day in and day out stuff that I have and he's confided in me about stuff he hasn't told anyone. I don't think she knows him as well as she thinks she does, and is only attracted to the ideal of him. Not the real him. That's usu
Is it okay if my boyfriend kisses his female best friend?
Thanks for the A2A.OP: I think what you really meant was, “Am I supposed to be okay with this?”Did it make you jealous?Did it make you feel insecure?Did it make you wonder if they feel more than they let on?Or, did you feel nothing at all when you or someone else expected you to?Okay.Check.Totally normal. All of it.Whatever you felt is “okay”; in fact, it’s healthy to acknowledge your feelings. This doesn’t mean you should let them rule you, nor does it warrant you acting on how you feel. And, it’s definitely not permission to puke your feelings onto others.If you’re feeling upset by something, ask yourself why. This is how you grow and mature. It’s how you process the world, and let go of the things that don’t serve you well.Getting right with your feelings is an inside job.<3
My boyfriend has a girl best friend?
I wish I wasn't jealous, but I am. We've been together 6 months, and he's been friends with her for years. They're always hanging out and talking. He tells me it's nothing more than a friendship, but how can he be only friends with a gorgeous girl who he's known forever?? She so sweet too, I couldn't imagine her ever doing anything vile, but I'm so unstable and insecure to begin with I can't handle it. What should I do?
My boyfriend is having his female best friend sleep over while I'm gone this week... how to deal with this?
This is always tough when the boyfriend has a best friend that is the opposite sex. I can't say it wouldn't bother me because I would be lying if I did say it. I have a best friend who is a guy and I would NEVER EVER have him spend the night while my boyfriend was away. I don't care if we were conceived on the same night, born the same day, and got our diapers changed on the same changing table. I wouldn't get mad at your boyfriend for this but if he cares about you he will understand your feelings if you try and talk to him. Don't sit him down and nag him and start assuming things. Tell him you aren't comfortable with it. If he doesn't understand then he's not worth it in my opinion!
My boyfriend has a girl best friend?!?
Guys do have girl best friends, it's true. And these two have been bestfriends for 5 YEARS! They're gonna be really close, have loads of inside jokes and stuff, don't you think? If you had a best-guy-friend for 5 years and him nearly everyday, you'd be pretty close to him wouldn't you? Don't worry, I understand it is VERY easy to get jealous and insecure about this, we all do it! :) They WILL look at each other differently to a normal friend, they're best friends and have been for a very long time, they're practically family. Guys tell girl best friends all their deepest EMOTIONAL secrets, because guys dont want to tell guys them as we'd come off as ******* :) I see where his ex is coming from, I bet they look comfortable with each other and she will of been very sour about it, as she should, she cared about your BF. I bet you are beginning to dislike seeing them together but please, trust your boyfriend, otherwise it will destroy your relationship. And for the story, If someone tried hitting on my best-girl-friend, I'd knock his ducking head off! Males are very territorial. He was defending his BESTfriend, he'll be as defensive as possible. What you can't do is barge into his life after 3months and try to distance him for his bestfriend of 5 years, that's just not fair. I think, in my opinion, you should ask his friend out for coffee like she did you. This will be good because it lets you know her more and allows you to trust her. If you become good friends with her, she'll be on your side. However, if you're mean, she can easily start questioning your relationship with your BF, and he will listen, he trusts his bestfriend. Overall, I know it's hard, I know it's awkward, I've been there. Sometimes you wanna spin their jaw around their head, but you have to understand that his bestfriend has been around so much longer and they will be very close and trust each other a lot. Don't destroy the relationship you have :) It'll be fine, tell you're boyfriend you are happy with them talking but you are a little insecure with the situation, he will put you straight on it all. Let her talk to you as well so you can have her opinion.
My boyfriend has female best friend that sent him sexy photos?
My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost one year. Everything was going well in the beginning; however, I noticed that he had several female friends and one best friend who is an attractive female/model. At first, I tried to get to know her and be friendly with her... She was nice and appeared to be interested in being friends with me. Meanwhile, my boyfriend was untagging himself in photos with me and he asked me to not add him on Facebook for a while. I finally asked him what his deal was and he said that he didn't want his ex girlfriend to be upset about seeing his new relationship. He said that he felt bad for breaking up with her/ hurting her and didn't want to continue to upset her. I tried to understand so I let it go. This continued to upset me as friends and family members told me to be cautious with this relationship. One day when he was in the shower, I looked at his phone and saw that his attractive female friend sent him modeling photos of herself in sexy lingerie and asked him what he thought. His response was "holy **** you look hot." I was extremely upset by it and instantly broke up with him. He was very sad/crying and told me to reconsider my decision as his friend just wanted his opinion for her website. He said that he would tell her that she can't be sending him photos like that. Since this happened (6 months ago), he's added me on Facebook. Though, his model friend and I don't talk. She comes over to see him when I'm not there and I get upset. Help