I need help my fiance says he wants to postpone the wedding.?
I'm sorry to hear this is happening to you, I cant begin to guess how you must be feeling, so I am not going to patronize you by saying things will get better with time. I would suggest that you take a few days alone and really evaluate the situation. Its hard to see things clearly when you are blinded by love, the prospect of the wedding, all the money thats involved and the things that you have going together, but you really need to separate yourself from all that and look deep inside the relationship. I think maybe that you know that this isnt right, but that you dont want to admit it to yourself. You need to come to terms with his feelings and your own and find a way to come to a conclusion about your life, either with this man or without him. I will stress this, dont be concerned with the money spent. If you have to eat a deposit, then eat it. Deposits are not worth the heartache of a divorce, neither is the regret you or he will feel if you go through with the wedding and it doesnt work out. One thing that I do know is that if you dont go into a marriage 100% positive on both sides you are in for alot of trouble, dont put yourself in that position. It sounds like he is trying to prevent you both from making a mistake, I think you need to start listening to him instead of just hearing him. Good luck to both of you.
Why is my boyfriend asking me to sign a prenuptial agreement before getting married?
Well, I think the answer is in your question itself. There are various instances like the one in your family where either of the spouses have to unnecessarily go through hardships when the marriage goes sour and has to lose out on something that he/she is actually entitled to. Along with it, the trauma of having to deal with allegations and losses that they do not deserve to face. A prenup sets things straight for both. You can mutually decide on various aspects such as division of property, spousal support, guardianship rights, also containing specific provisions that the husband and wife want to mutually include like setting up of upper limit for alimony, properties that are excluded from division, infidelity clause etc.Advantages of Prenups:Prenuptial Agreement would save a lot of court’s time by cutting short legal battles during the course of divorce. It would also ensure support to both husband and wife and share in the assets that they are entitled to, without having to go through expensive and complicated legal battles. There are a lot of other benefits like:It allows couples to set their own terms as divorce laws are quite indefinite and in absence of such an agreement, a tremendous amount of discretion is given to a judge in cases of divorce.Prenup could help one to override laws and keep ones finances separate and decide on what properties will be divided among the two.Therefore, if you are true to him, you need not hesitate to go ahead with the prenup. It would only help increase the trust factor between the two.
My Fiance won't sign a Prenup, what should I do?
My fiance and I both are working professionals. She is a Financial Advisor and I am an Engineer. Currently I make 3 times as more than her. In the future that could change. Also I have considerable savings and have a family trust too. My family trust she has no right over since it is before marriage. She has no savings except for a 401k plan. The prenup I am asking her to sign only asks that in case of a divorce, we do not divide our 401k plans & we both waive rights to alimony. Everything else is 50-50 as per California law I have a few hundred ESPP (Employee stock purchase plan shares) that I have also asked her to keep separate in case we divorce. In case of divorce, I would at least like to keep my 401k retirement plan and ESPP shares in tact so I can get back on my feet. She just refuses to sign the prenup period. Am I being unreasonable with the above ask?
Husband hiding financial trouble from me!!?
NO wedding... You must be the adult and take control of the finances NOW... Nothing in your name since he has screwed everything up.... Get all the bills together and do a pay book acct system and put him on an allowance... You might be able to save things if he is wiling to work with you instead of against you.... It is you and 2 kids while he is doing whatever... he either hands over the finances for you to manage or I would start packing... Been there done that so I learned the hard way....
Friend angry I can't attend destination bachelor party AND destination wedding?
My good friend is getting married in September and has decided to hold a week long bachelor party in a foreign country along with a destination wedding in outside of where we live. The bachelor party alone would cost over 1000 and the hotel for the wedding is 400 a night. Overall I'd be paying a few thousand for this. I tried to reach a compromise and just attend the bachelor party trip for a couple days except it is so far that I'd be paying to a ton to basically go on a one day trip. Additionally this would mean I have to take unpaid leave at work and no go this year on a trip with my fiancé. My friend has been less than helpful and came off angry when I told him that I'd have to think about it due to the reasons I listed above. I'm still down to go to the wedding for a night,but its made me reconsider how good of a guy he is. I'm in the wedding party but the whole situation has made me not want to go anymore. Am I being too dramatic or I am right that he is rude and selfish for acting upset that I can't afford all of this?
How can a guy drop hints to a married woman that he is sexually interested in her but without messing relationship with her if she is not interested?
OK, now that people have passed judgement on you I will try to give you the best answer possible. What I find the easiest thing to do in any situation where you don't want to specifically ask the person, is to let them know what you are into. Like, if I were you, I would get on the subject of sex, sexual attraction, dating, whatever. I would then say something like, I mostly date married women, but only ones that are interested, I do not like to pursue happily married women. The woman you are talking to now knows what you are into, and knows she has the opportunity to flirt, ask, or think about what you said. Maybe she will go home and think, I have been wanting to have an affair for a while, but I want to be clear the guy isn't trying to break up my marriage, so this guy is a good choice. Or maybe she will say, will you take me back to your room right now? Or maybe she will say, good thing I am happily married! And then you can both laugh and stay friends. Letting someone know you would be available if the cards were right gives them the opportunity to give you the signal.