I feel inadequate compared to my bf, career-wise. Can this kill our relationship?
Feelings of inadequacy can be a detriment to a healthy relationship with anyone. The fact that it's your soon to be boyfriend could hurt what the two of you can share. It is something that you need to work out on your own. Focus on you and what it is you believe you can accomplish. Believe in yourself above all else. He can't give you self esteem, you have to find that on your own. You can do it, you just need to believe in yourself. Trust. ';-()
I am almost 25, unsure what I want career wise, feeling like losing hope, and trying to find a purpose in life. Advice?
You're not too old. You're never too old to pursue anything. God has given you a purpose in life, 1 Corinthians 12 tells us this much. You're a necessary part of His plan for the universe. You should lean on His judgement, our own judgement as humans is faulty (Proverbs 3:5-6).
Would you give up your career to be with the person you love?
It depends.Well, no... in the end it doesn't depend, because the question asked is "would you," and I have, so I know that if the exact same circumstances presented themselves, I would. Yes.Some folks will say there are other fish in the sea, some will say there are other fulfilling jobs. Some folks lead with their heads and some with their hearts, and I think *that* is what really depends.I want to say I wouldn't do it again. I want to say "it's about time for someone to bend over backwards for me for a change." But that's a me who's not in your position saying that, forgetting how much love can change things.If I had less to lose career-wise, as I did when this dilemma presented itself the last time in my life... I know I would never be so selfish, if I were truly in love as deeply as I was at that time. And I know I would not be willing to let such a love go.Because the "there are other jobs" people are right. As it is, society is becoming more and more mobile. We change jobs and even careers over and over in our adult lives—and instead of the liability it once was, it can even be good for your résumé to show that kind of flexibility. I would do it, if it was that or nothing, because a job is not my life, my *life* is my life. Yes, there are other fish in the sea, but you don't want to make a life with anyone. You want to make a life with this one. And this fish only exists right here, right now. There are not others of your love.Remember: None of us knows what you should do. Because we don't know your heart.But me, I'd burn down forests and level mountains and stop hurricanes and swallow oceans whole for a man I loved with all my heart. As I expect he would for me.So of course I'd change jobs.
Women's opinion needed: Do you find guys who are good writers attractive?
I like men who can write well. I think its a turn on. Maybe the girls that you have dated have thought about it career wise, "If I marry this guy, how much will his writing pay?" Their first thought.. not very much. Its sad but true. MOst women unfortunately only care about the pocket. I like to actually carry a conversation w/ the person i'm dating. I make my own money so, I dont base my relationships on that. If you can make me have a good time, and actually get to know eachother, thats all it takes... But most women won't settle for that. Maybe you haven't met someone who is up to your intellectual level. Keep trying ;) You'll find her.
How do I keep a guy who's smarter than me interested especially when I feel like I'm dumb?
Considering IQ tests they all tell me that I’m a “genius”. What most people work in my industry for 10–20 years to get, I already have. I’m extremely successful career-wise. This post is arrogant and I don’t like that therefore the anonymity.Here’s the thing: I’m in love, heads over heels with this girl. Her IQ is about average and she is barely starting out in the industry (we’re both second year in uni). Not for one second did IQ or her level in the field matter. I love her for everything she is, the way she smiles, the way she turns her head towards me when walking, the way she laughs, her teary eyes when she sees an old person or animal and feels bad for them. Those are the important things, the things that make up a person. The amount of knowledge in the field she currently has or if she can or cannot understand Naive-Bayes classifiers couldn’t matter less to me.