Do i have to believe my husband?
He has to earn your trust now........But you will always probably have that nagging suspicion....until he does that. good luck
Should I believe my husband, or the "other woman"?
don't give either one of them the benefit of the doubt, men cheat and women are liars at times. But what's somethign you see more often, a man cheating on his wife or a woman lying about a man cheating on his wife? Why would this woman pick him up from a concert? aren't you his wife? doesnt he have friends? why did he contact this female out of all the people he knows? BECAUSE HE'S SLEEPING WITH HER! one thing about a woman, if she's sleeping with YOUR man she's gonna tell you & 99% of the time it's true. check his facebook messages, check his text messages, gather all the info you can , I'm not saying he's a liar but 99% of the time it's the man.
Should I believe the rumors that my husband is gay? The rumors started a year after we were married twenty years ago. Although I don’t see any evidence, he does disappear a lot and he can never account for money. I just don’t know what to think.
You state you have no evidence, and then go on to state several breaches of trust. There is missing time and missing money. That you think he may be gay because of this and the gossip you’ve heard over 2 decades indicates a serious lack of communication and conflict resolution. To me, the possibility that he is gay is the manifestation of much deeper issues.I think you need a two pronged approach.First, you need to determine what you wantare you only interested in fixing the trust and communication issues in your marriage, and remaining married whether or not he is gayare the ongoing trust issues too much to overcome. Do you want a divorce no matter what because of themSecondly, once you decide what you want, make a plan for how you’ll move forwardIf you decide you want to work this through, and see where it goes, go for counseling. Hopefully your husband will want to go as well. If he won’t go for counseling, reconsider your decision. If he isn’t interested in improving the relationship, your marriage is dead.If you decide that two decades of unaccountability and lack of trust is too much, file for divorce. Go for counseling yourself, to understand your choices and clarify how you’ll make decisions in the future. Two decades is a long time to tolerate this ongoing behavior.
What should I do if my husband doesn't believe me and always doubts me?
Some incidents related to his family members might have disturbed your husband and he has cultivated this habit of doubting/suspecting. If you can spare some of your valuable time and try to interact with him, assure him and find out the real reasons that is troubling him. He might appreciate your concern and empathy, may open up and unburden himself. You can treat this exercise as a challenge in relationship management.Talk to him when he is cool and calm, tell him this attitude of doubting you always is disturbing you that is affecting your day to day life. Ask him how he expects you to function so that whatever is reasonable and within your possibility, you shall try to act accordingly.Tell him trust is the foundation to any relationship, particularly marital and in the interest of nurturing your loving married life, he must put an end to this doubting character.
I believe my husband is looking to cheat?
between my chronic back pain, finances, lack of a social life, and the way my husband acts, i've pretty much lost interest in sex -- the pain involved just isn't worth whatever pleasure may or may not be involved. he never approaches me for sex, just gets mad when i don't think about it. in 2 years we've probably gone out together 10 times, and most of that was just to have dinner. he gives me the impression that he wants to keep me isolated from people, and that we really aren't friends anymore, and that he doesn't really respect me any more. he looks at porn everyday. i found his current profile on a dating site looking for discreet fun. when confronted, he lied. i don't want my marriage to end, i love him. but if i catch him cheating, we will be over. i need advice
Do you believe a wife should be submissive to her husband?
Yes. It's easy (and a blessing) when the husband loves the wife (as Jesus loves the church enough to die for it). In a perfect world the husband would love his wife, show her love, and take care of her, and, having her needs met, the wife would be happy to submit to her husband, respect him, thus meeting his needs. It would fit together in such a way that both the husband and wife would feel loved, respected, and have their needs met. In this world, however, both the husband and wife fall short of that and we compensate to meet our spouse's and/or our own needs. Fortunately though we do have an awesome God who, if we choose put our faith in Him, does move us toward that perfect ideal. ....and yes I read the details. Can YOU dig it?
To Muslim Women, Do you believe in obeying your husband?
Of course why ever not?Islam is about working together in unison.If you see me doing something he asks and him doing something that i ask as obeying then yes i would obey my husband.It's about give and take that makes love so special.
Do you believe a husband should always protect his wife? Why or why not?
Yes, always. The man is bigger and stronger, and so he should use this to protect his wife. If he doesn’t think he can protect her given his physical advantage, then how can he expect his wife to do a better job?? There’s a reason why women are expected to take a man’s name in marriage, and that’s because the husband has a duty to protect and provide for his wife. With the honour of continuing your name down the line comes key responsibilities. Women don’t take his name just because he’s a man.If my husband expected me to be able to protect myself and work a full time job like him as well as rearing our kids, then why the heck would I honour him by taking his surname? I’m doing his job as well as my own, so his name means nothing to me. In my opinion he’s not being a man because he’s shirking his duties, thereby placing me at a higher risk of being hurt/taken advantage of by others, therefore he doesn’t deserve to be honoured. Then again I wouldn’t marry such a man to begin with anyway.So yes, a man should always protect his wife, that’s a big point of being the husband. It’s not easy, but many things in life are difficult. Claiming a task is “hard” or “daunting” is a childish and primitive reason to not do it. If, however, the man is good at it, then it won’t be hard for him. If a man doesn’t believe he can protect a woman or is too scared to, then don’t get a wife (he’d be less likely to anyway as women generally aren’t attracted to cowards, so that’s natural selection right there).