Can I Change My Personality

How do you change your personality?

It's not magic. It's not rocket science either. It doesn't happen in a second. It's a slow process and you won't even feel it.Going back to 2015, when I used to be a stout, chubby kid with no confidence or energy to speak to new people or even put forward a point in a discussion. I have been a patient of clinical depression and when you are dependent on small bits of solidified chemical complex, pills and tablets, you lose confidence, you need support and you try to find solace in someone rather than yourself.This was 20152018 :I started travelling. It gives you the feeling of being independent. I have travelled to a lot of places, sometimes with friends, sometimes with myself.I still remember while going back to to college after a week of vacations back in 2015, I asked my psychiatrist “Can I travel alone in train?”“Why not” he replied“What if I get a panic attack?”“Then you would learn how to handle a panic attack while traveling alone in train. Cmon, don't you think we can pull this off?”I nodded.I travelled alone for the first time. I got no panic attacks and I reached safely. I got a lot of confidence from that.Work on yourself, your body, your skills and your hobbiesI started giving more time to drumming, I developed interest in new instruments like harmonica and guitar, I started using my time in a more efficient way.I keep trying new things. I don't give my brain time to over think. You can possibly find everything on my Instagram. I get trolled for it but I don't really care. Haha.I lost weight, around 19 kgs in total. I got in shape and I learnt how to carry myself. My dressing sense wasn't good back then, I observed and I started experimenting on clothes. You can always learn from other people, just by looking at them.Be more active in literary activities. Take part in debates, MUNs etc. Watch TEDx and learn how to speak with authority.I used to be a guy for whom uttering a single word in a group used to become a comic scene for others. I was afraid to speak in front of people. I started speaking, regardless of what people think about it.I have been to places to talk about mental health, self love and motivation. It's not something extra ordinary, it's just about trying and keep trying until you get good at something.Become independent. Have faith in yourself and stop caring about what they say about you.What you think about yourself matters.Pictures : Asad Zuberi (@zuber.man) • Instagram photos and videos

Why has my personality changed?

Either you're ISFJ or you're going through a difficult time in your life and have switched to your shadow functions of the brain.If you took the mbti test, your shadow type is the one opposite to your type (for me as an INTJ it would be ESFP). What happens is that in times of stress, you may find that you acted extremely out of character. The brain is quite complicated, and this is common. It doesn't last forever, and the reason it happens is that the usual brain preferences (Ni-Te, for example) isn't working in your environment, so the brain tries to adapt for you. Once you've gotten over this difficult period of your life, your natural tendencies should return to normal.

Why am I changing my personality?

Are you loosing sleep? Sleep deprivation, hunger and cold can all cause these things. I have also experienced this when depressed/anxious and it could be due to pressure, constantly trying to control your feelings/behaviour and stay on top rather than relaxing means you burn out and loose control at random. You may also have emotional triggers, simple thought pathways which somehow link to an extremely powerful memory or emotion. You need to be honest about these and find a way to deal with the root issue, not bury it. In the meantime, feel around inside and when you find a trigger gently stepback and observe, learn to manage the reaction and accept it.

I want to change my personality. Is that wrong?

What is personality?No one ever defines it. Sure, there’s the OCEAN personality exam they teach in any psychology class. But, how did they come up with it?A bunch of scientists pooled a bunch of observational data about preferences of people and… that was it.No one else ever dares question this. The MBTI test is sacred, but has anyone ever asked if you can change these preferences?Where do these preferences originate? Is it genetic and unchangeable? Or susceptible to experience and malleable?I believe it’s the latter.I was a quiet, shy boy. I tried to be social, friendly, and lively - but it never came off well. I was always putting on this mask of who I thought everyone wanted me to be (turns out, no one gives a shit).And then I started trying to be outgoing, but authentic (ie. talking about shit I wanted to talk about). I admit, at first, it did come of as trying too hard.Awkward moments were part of this transition, multiple girls suddenly ‘needing to use the washroom’ mid-conversation, and just being turned down by a social group in general.But you know what? Everything you try at first, you’ll come off as trying too hard and not ‘you’.‘You’, as you are, is the culmination of all the experiences you’ve had so far. And when new experiences come to you, you will cease to be ‘you’… forever.When you take on a new job, you will be awkward at first. You will have to try hard at something you’ve never done. And eventually get better at it, will you still be ‘you’?When (if) you become a mother, you will have never had a child in your life before. But you learn and adapt, and you become capable of something you’ve never done before. Will that still be ‘you’?When you go out and try to socialize. You FOR SURE will be awkward at first, as this is something new to you. But eventually when you become outgoing and lively… will that still be ‘you’?Our identities are malleable. Personality tests are shit - you can change who you are if that’s what you want.Don’t be afraid to change. And no, it is definitely not wrong. Fuck those who say otherwise.