What should I do when my brother hits me?
My Indian brother is the same. He was verbally and physically abusive and has slapped, punched , kicked me; called me a 'bitch' and much much worse. I've cut him off from my life and my heart. I no longer speak to him or acknowledge that he is alive and do not consider him my sibling. Your parents are cowardly. The typical Indian parents who favor the son and indirectly shift the responsibility for his violent behavior on to your head. Mine were the same. It's NOT your fault. Your brother has mental issues and he is venting on you, using you as a punching bag. Your parents are NOT protecting you as they should. By blaming you and not rebuking your brother, they are reinforcing your brother's violent behavior. My advice is IGNORE and STAY AWAY from him. DO NOT let him hurt you physically. STOP talking to your brother. PRETEND that he does not exist. Keep your interactions with him minimal. If he tries to start an argument with you DO NOT engage him, ignore him, go to your room and lock the door. Study hard, get a job and move out.
Should I tell my brother that I had sex with his new wife, back before they met?
I had a "lesbian friends with benefits" with a good friend from high school, for years. Eventually I got into a new relationship then got married. We always stayed close friends and she was in my wedding. She started dating my brother shortly after my wedding. She made me swear not to tell him about our history or how she was bisexual, since my brother is VERY homophobic (he refused to let her go to a gay friends wedding and he doesn t even know I m bisexual). I didn t approve of any of this, but I didn t say anything because I assumed they would never work out. They were ALWAYS fighting and on the verge of breaking up. I thought it would eventually end on its own. Out of nowhere they have eloped, to everyone s surprise, and I feel guilty for having to lie to my brother and keep this huge secret from him. My friend is still refusing to tell him the truth, and I know this would end their marriage for good if he found out. Should I tell my brother? I m torn right now.
What's the best way to kill my brother?
Without anyone knowing I did it. I live with my 19 year old brother and mom. My brother is horrible. I hate him so much that I want to kill him :( I don't even consider him my brother anymore and when people call him my brother I cringe. So please tell me how to kill him without getting in trouble for it. I'm not even trolling right now, I'm being serious. Oh and if you have a solution for guilt after I kill him that would be nice to :l
I think my brother is actually my half brother...?
This could be totally wrong, but I think I just figured out that my brother is actually my half brother. For 22 years we were raised together, and we are very close. After he joined the military, we lost a lot of contact with him for a while. I am the 6th of my father's name, William. Yet, I was not the first born. My brother was born 4 years before me...why wouldn't my dad name his first born William? Also...my dad has always favored me. I know he loves my brother...but he has never really had great expectations for him. I am 22, with hardly anything to show for it, and yet my dad is always bending over backwards if ever I need help. His best advice to my brother is usually "suck it up, and stop complaining". This idea randomly wandered in my head and I immediately dismissed it...but the more i think about it...my brother looks nothing like my father...he looks like me...but then we do have the same mother. He has NONE of my dad character or physical traits. As crazy as it could be, its not impossible. I cant stop thinking that my mother had an affair, and my brother is not my dad's child. If I am right, then they have hid this from everyone for our entire lives. My question is: How the f*** do i bring this up to my dad?...I have to know
I'm cheating on my husband with his brother. I want to stop but his brother has fallen in love with me. What should I do?
Firstly I won't judge you. Shame on those who've judged you in their answers.Secondly, I won't accuse you of incest or anything ridiculous like that.My advice is to gently extricate yourself with the minimum harm to all involved. That's if you want to preserve your marriage and spare your husband's feelings. If so, never tell him and try to prevent him ever finding out.Secondly, gently break it off with the brother. Explain to him that it's been fun, he's a lovely guy, but it was always going to be an affair, not a replacement for your marriages. Make him promise to never, ever tell anyone. Make him understand that you will always have fond memories of your affair, but it's over, and you both have to go back to being in-laws as though it never happened.Be gentle, respectful of his pride, but be firm and never backslide no matter what pressure he puts on you. It must be over, finished if you want to salvage your marriage. Otherwise, you'll lose both of them and cause a probably lifelong rift between them.
How can I get my brother's girlfriend to stop calling, texting and emailing me 24/7 without being rude?
Uh if she's obsessing over your brother and you, I don't think she's quite a nice girl. It's rather unhealthy for her to obsess over someone. Love is one thing but obsession is another issue. Your brother needs to be careful around her. That said, send her a text and tell her that you really don't want to be texting all the time, especially about your brother. Don't feel bad. You have other things in life to worry about than her texts. You could also just ignore the texts and sooner or later she'll get the hint. Watch out though, obsessions are dangerous. EDIT: Oh my god, she wanted to marry him after one meeting? That is a huge hint that you and your family need to stay AWAY from her, FAR AWAY. If your brother doesn't like her attention from far away, imagine close by? If you are also hesitant about her and uncomfortable, you need to ask her to stop intruding on your lives. The cards and presents are only because she's sucking up to you all and trying to worm her way in quickly. She thinks that if everyone loves her to death, nobody would suspect her mal intentions. Please, please, please, tell your brother and keep your distance. I know what i'm telling you. this happened to a friend of mine, the being nice and sweet but it was a ploy to get people on her side. In the end, it involved a restraining order and criminal charges.
What do you do when your brother picks a girl over his family?
so my brother has been with this girl for a little over 2 years but she has created all sorts of hell in the family so we all made the decision to not have her in our lives but we still want contact with my bro but she answers his phone deletes his messages checks his e-mail and the deletes them she has full control over his life and is making him pick her over his family how do we get through to him that she is controlling and manipulative how can we get through to him and let him know he deserves so much better?? any advise????
I'm 50 and I want to stop all communication with my mother. I can't take any more of her negative, unkind comments about me. Am I right to do this?
ignore the responses below and watch the summed up argument.People who negatively affect you have no reason to be aroundAttachment to a parasite is only the humans fault in anyone’s caseEvery person in your life needs to deserve you by treating you with respect, and kindness. If this isn’t the case, they can’t be surprised when you leave them.If your mother wants you back after you leave her, let her be a positive influence.You wouldn't keep a friend that talks smack about you all day, why would you keep a mother?Sure, we all have an attachment to our family, but this is only AFTER they are NOT abusive, unkind and otherwise. Otherwise we only harm ourselves with them.Leave her, and if she wants you back, make it clear that you didn’t feel respected whilst talking with her, and that you are not interested in relationships where one does not value the other with their actions.(I had a mother that would routinely be nasty. I left one day, and she begged me to come back. I finally did, but nothing changed - she was just as nasty to me even after. I left her for good to live with other family, realizing that if she wants me back so bad she has to value me with kindness, respect, and appropriate treatment. She can’t yell at me, or call me bad things and expect me to stay.)Look at this logically a relationship is nothing more than two people valuing each other. If it HURTS you, be selfish and walk away.
Should I stop calling my brothers if after many years I am still the only one who initiates contact?
I've gone through this with my sister. Over several years this became a pattern. It caused our relationship being sisters to feel I didn't have a sister.I will admit our past relationship hasn't always been that great. Finally I made an extra effort to call her and let her know I was ready for our relationship to change. Placing all our energy on the presant not the past, was my goal.I mailed her nice cards sent her text messages often and made an extra effort to communicate. This however as the past pattern was became obvious it was going to remain the same. Finally, I gave up. I stopped trying. Decided to let the cards fall where they may.Now I do have a brother who I'm pretty close with but he never calls me. I do call him, but not often. I'm fine with that because he's a man. Also our relationship is always good when I see him which is more often than I call him.My suggestion is to truly ask yourself what would it be like if your relationship was let go. Could you live with that? Life often keeps one busy with our own families and activities as well as a career.I truley feel you should just talk to him regarding how you feel about being the only one doing the initiating. Then I'd go from there.My hopes are one day my sister and I can have some kind of relationship. You can't replace Brothers, Sisters, Mother's and Father's.AnswerNo, you shouldn't.