Can you ever truly be friends with your ex? Even if you want to be friends, can you really become the best of friends?
No. Definitely not if you still have true feelings for them.There are so many possible reasons for this.You still have deep feelings for them and you still love them no matter what has happened . You still love them for who they are and somehow they don't share those feelings anymore.You can't fake like you aren't hurt by their decision. Most of the time it hurts, but you respect their decision and stay away. Sometimes you try your best and they fail to realize, so you stay away.What does friendship mean? You actually can talk about all possible things in the universe. Will you be able to talk to her/him about some other person that she/he can actually be involved with? You can never if you truly love them. So there you get an answer of why you can't be friends. Friends are honest and you can never fake honesty with the one you love.You will always love the person if you love them truly from the bottom of your heart. If they have decided to end it, and after you have tried enough if they still end it, friendship isn't possible for a while. One can be mature to atleast have hi bye kind of interactions, but some people aren't even willing to do that.May be you don't want to see her guilty or hurt. This is one of the main reasons why I stay away from her. I can't see her hurt anyday. I still love her but in silence. Can't just be dishonest by being like a friend. That's dishonest to both her and the friendship.We can't be like before. Love makes emotional connection and attachment stronger. But when that person wants to leave, you question yourself, love, life and everything. You simply cannot be friends with the one you truly love. We can care as a friend, but can't fake like a friend and be opportunistic.Finally, friends can be lovers, but you can't be just a friend with someone you genuinely love.
My ex-gf hates me and i still wanna be friends?
ok, my ex hates me because i used to lie alot and be mean but i had depression now im a different person but she still hates me and says she never wants to talk to me or ever be friends.... how can i get her to at least be friends or not hate me anymore???
Is it possible for ex-lovers to be friends and then back to being lovers again?
This is really a complicated question and i’m answering this out of my own personal experience.How did I turn from his ex girlfriend, to being his friend and his lover again?In my own case i was still in love with him even after the breakup and he was likewise. We broke up because of we were not able to see that we loved each other enough not to breakup; that means we were still very immature to be in a relationship even when we thought otherwise.After the breakup, we stopped talking to each other for a while. Deep down we both knew what we wanted.After much drama, we started talking again as friends until i realized he still loved me as much as i did then i told him we should start all over again.Well, it wasn’t as easy as the story may look but it took a lot to become friends again but after we became friends it was really easy to get back together as lovers.My point exactly, i turned from his ex girlfriend to his lover again because we still loved each other.Love is Powerful.
Will my ex girlfriend ever forgive me?
Its not clear how you still care for her - as a boyfriend OR just a friend . Why would you want her to miss you ! or think too much of you if you were the one to break up ! Asking you , because the rules for steps you take would differ for both situations . If you JUST want a friendship , not disturbing her any further would be being a good friend . By trying to understand , that there is no fixed time in getting over for one's ex and a friendship with them in that time is already something that is not so easy . Make that on & off , it gets even worse !!! The best thing to do would be to just say a sincere sorry and letting her know you hope one day she could forgive for you guys to be friends again . And then , wait till she does . . . ( in any case , you ain't her BF now and hence , have moved on with your life ) But if you wanna get her back as your GF , then its okay to go for it and try to woo her again . But only when you are SURE your feelings won't change again . Re . her forgiveness , in the end it really depends on her and many other things . Your part is to FOCUS on being sincere to both her and your own self !
Should I stay friends with my ex-girlfriend?
I went through this same situation back in August with my boyfriend of 3 years! I was always the one needing "space", although, I never really went out with anyone else, I just talked to guys. I know it hurt my boyfriend very much, but sometimes couples need space from each other in order to miss each other and realize what they have. My boyfriend ended up taking a "break" from me and talking to some skank from his work that was going through a divorce. I could barely eat or sleep with the situation. I didn't know what to do because I wanted to give him space, but yet I didn't want that skank getting too close to him and him forgetting about me since they worked together! He and I had sex 2 times during the breakup and it only made it harder because I guess I thought that would get him to come back and plus it made me feel good knowing he was having sex with me and not her. We got back together the end of October and we are better than ever! I had to be in his shoes to see what it felt like for him each time. Thats my story. For you I would say do what you feel like doing and don't listen to anything else. This is a tough situation and the only way you won't regret it, is to do it your way. I personally wouldn't keep having sex and being there for her 24/7. Sounds like she is just keeping you around until she finds something better. I mean look at it this way, she still has you as a "back-up plan" pretty much. She's getting her cake and eating it too! I would listen to your heart as lame as that sounds. I would do whats best for you and tell her how you feel. Don't play nasty either because ya'll will both end up hurt. Sorry you are going through this! I hope it helps. Good luck and I'll be praying for you!
Is it fine for my girlfriend to be friends with her ex?
You must love your gf so much that despite the fact that you get to know that she has rendezvous with her and ex and made out, you are still cool about it. You better talk to your gf to think about her life. Clearly all her actions show that she is still amorously attached to her ex and she is not being fair to you. Why not try to distance your self from her while she still thinks about things. The decision is yours: either you continue playing the role of the martyr bf or stand your ground (though the outcome of this may really hurt) and decide that you don’t deserve to be second fiddle. Wish you the best.
Why does my ex not want to be friends?
If your ex girlfriend does not want to be a friend with you anymore than you may have to respect her wishes. It may be too hard on her to have any contact with you, especially if you had a messy break up. Her feelings may still be hurt over the break up and it may be too soon to ask her to be friends with you. Every relationship is different when it comes to breaking up. Some people can stay friends and come to an understanding together. While others take it more hard and just want to be left alone after that. It is understandable if your ex girlfriend does not want to be a friend with you depending on the way she feels about the situation. The break up may have affected her more than it did you. Your ex girlfriend may want time to herself to think over the situation before becoming friends with you. Give her the time she needs before seeing her again. Sometimes just by letting time pass by it can heal problems and emotions between people and give them a chance to see things differently. So wait it out if you have to before insisting on a friendship with your ex girlfriend. Breaking up is very hard and personal for many people. If their feelings are deep than it can be a difficult situation. After breaking up with someone that cares for you like this you should always be understanding and try and respect their feelings. Because it could be harder for them than it is for you when breaking up. If they do not want to be friends after the break up than it is very understandable, but that does not mean that they will be hurt this way over time. Things will get better for them and then they may want to become your friend. means we are broken up. It is done. We are kaput. Relationship over! All it means is that hes 99% sure he doesnt want to be with you instead of being 100% there. He keeps you around as a back up plan; if he doesnt find someone better hell come back to you but if he/she finds a girl/man whom he/she likes more hell easily and without guilt let you go. move on
Is it bad to date your friends ex girlfriend?
I have a lot of experience in this just from watching my lovable yet retarded friends. This kind of slutty girl bounced around to 3 of my friends in a matter of a year. (I found out she was going after me O__O) Anyways, all of them ended up being at each others throats. You have to think about your friendship. I always stayed nice to my friends Exs and continued to be friends with them even after break ups but I would never ever date a friends ex. However, if you feel very very strongly in love for your friends ex, talk to your friend about it. If you are close enough to your friend and speak from your heart things will work out. Good luck.
Did you ever stop caring about your ex girlfriend or boyfriend?
I think it's great that you can be friends with an exgirlfriend. Obviously, neither of you caused the other enough hurt to totally drive you away from each other. However, she's made a powerful choice in choosing to marry someone else, and I would imagine that this makes it very hard for you to accept, thus your seemingly tender feelings towards her. It's inappropriate for her to confide any details whatsoever of her relationship with her husband, good or bad. That's what female friends are for. It's almost as though she's keeping you on the string, just in case things go sour with him, so she won't have to be alone. As long as you allow the friendship to continue, your feelings won't have a chance to fade and you won't be able to find someone else to care about as deeply. You need a long, long vacation from her - not to be mean, but to take care of YOU. Best of luck, dear.