I feel like i'm done with life?
I'm only 22 but i feel like my best years are far behind me. I have been nomadic for most of my life so i never really had true friends, i just have acquaintances, and they are meaningless. I use to have a live in girlfriend and she left me, my only real friend was my cat, and she took him as well and i can never see him again. I have no money, no job, and i can't shake this negativity that causes me to have crippling depression. I feel like a waste of space, and everyday i just want to end it all, in numerous methods that always circulate across my mind. The only reason i don't is because i'm a coward... but i have a feeling that one day soon i might just get brave and that will be the end of it... i drink heavily just to numb the pain but it's starting not to work, non of the drugs work anymore... everyday i wake up crying, i only try and sleep about two hours a night for i can no longer deal with my nightmares. no one needs to answer, i just needed to get this of my chest...
How can you cut the crap out of your life, and just get stuff done?
Often we think about doing a certain thing and then just pass the thought. So when you think of “hm, I could do this thing” then immediately get up and start doing it. That’s how you get it done.If there is the added thought of “I should do it but it’s too hard/don’t feel like it now/does it really matter” then just ignore this part and add “but if I start doing it, it might feel better than I think and I can stop if not”.Also add music or something else on the background, it distracts you from the initial doubts and unpleasantness, if those occur.
What do I do if I am just done with life, like I can't seem to get better and I can't end it?
You should go and talk to someone. I am sorry that you feel that way. Things can get better.
Do you make your whole life just about JESUS?
Not always, no. It is true that he is to be on our minds at all times, but for man, that's just impossible. The worldly things that we are busy with gives us many limitations from our free time, one of which is prayer. Unless you are aiming for sainthood, it's impossible in the world we live in to make ALL our lives about Jesus. Thankfully, our task is to make it about him as much as we can, so something relative to the person, not something absolute.
I wish I could just sleep my life away?
Hey, I'm sorry you feel this way about your life. I have had similar feelings when I was younger from around 12 to 17. The feeling of just wanting to be alone and not bothered by anyone. I mean you would be surprised how many people have and still do feel that way.And the parents that don't understand. Listen though, killing your self would never give you an opportunity to change this. You obviously don't like the feeling because your telling people about it. I want to be hard on you and tell you that theres always someone who has it worse and we can't be selfish we have to be greatfull for the things we do have. Its hard but its the only way to get off the pitty pot. At the same time I want to feel for you and be a shoulder to cry on for you but everyone works in different ways. Im going to give you my email address because I know I can help. I'm 21 now and I wanted to get into helping young adults because I know it sucks when a "shrink" that never had a struggle tries to help you. We have a lot in common but when you get through the tough times life is actually a beautiful thing. Theres more to life than bad times, like a higher power, love and peace. I too have many issues in life but as long as we are alive we can do something about it. You do not want to be a statistic do you?? As some girl who killed her self because she was "weak" or needed "attention" B.C thats all you will be rememberd as. so please message me email me or something. I also live in NY don'tnt know if this is close to you but I am willing to help. NadiaJohannes@aol.com and johannesnadia@yahoo.com I have yahoo messagnger as well. Take care hun. Hope to hear from you. and God Bless
So I've done some terrible things in my life and I just want to move on and forget about it all, but I can't forget about it. What should I do?
This question could have a lot of different answers depending on what specifically is the cause of your guilt and regret.We’ve all done things in our lives that we regret. But we suffer within our own perspective. Some of us feel great emotional pain from just having said something horrible to someone we love in the heat of the moment or betraying a close friend or family member. But there are others with far more traumatic events like causing someone to lose their life or a violent act that they feel regret and guilt about. Certainly there are different degrees of guilt.Obviously we cannot change past events but quite often past events have a continuing effect. For instance if I attacked someone and crippled them, the attack would be the past event. The victim being crippled is the continuing effect. So I may not be able to go back in time and change what I did but I DO have the ability to try and change the continuing effect by “making amends” in any way possible, like paying for medical bills etc. among other things and importantly a sincere apology.Until you make amends in some way I’m afraid your guilt will follow you.HURTING YOURSELF IN ANY WAY WILL NOT RESOLVE THE PROBLEM.Like i said, I don’t know specifically the source of your regret but if you want to move on with your life you must find some way to “convince yourself” that you are human and we humans are known for making mistakes. Sometimes really big ones!If there is no way of directly making amends to the source of your regret (ie. someone you’ve hurt etc.) then seek out someone who is suffering from an act similar to the bad act you committed. Help them. Be creative. There IS a way for you to make amends and to simultaneously forgive yourself NO MATTER WHAT YOU’VE DONE.In fact there are many stories of people who have been transformed in this whole process of making up for past wrongdoings and it ended up defining their lives. They became teachers and social workers or doctors. They use their horrible guilt to propel them into being their greatest selves.They are humans.You are human.You can do this.
I'm 45 now. I feel like I'm done with life. I mean I'm tired. I want to know what life is like until I'm 80?
I get where you're coming from. I'm 50 and I'm so, so tired. I've been fighting this battle for decades and I'm just really done with it all.Then a few weeks back, I finally figured out that I'm tired because I am fighting. I've wasted so much energy trying to hold on to something that isn't really mine.So I let go.I let go of ego.I let go of results.I let go of my training and my skills.I let go of my pain and self-loathing.I let go of my intention to do something important in this world.I let go of my need for approval.I let go of my dreams.I let go of my worries for tomorrow.I let go of the experiences that have shaped who I am.I let go of my fear of being unknown and unloved.Letting all these things that used to seem important pass from my life, at the very bottom of it all, I found myself. Buried for decades under mounds of meaningless crap.So I hope you can take this lesson to move you ahead: you are unhappy because you are afraid to be yourself.You've lived as the socially acceptable version of yourself far too long. That person isn't you. That person is miserable. That person has obliged themselves to wear a mask every day just to survive.But from inside the mask, you cannot see clearly. It's time to shed the mask and see what the real you looks like.It starts with letting go. Let go of everything you think defines you. Let go of your expectations and intentions.Let go of everything you think is important and you will find your joyous, enthusiastic self has been there all along, waiting to be set free.