I have a 28 year old mentally challenged brother that lives with my mom. She is trying to pressure him into getting a vasectomy. Is this wrong?
She can’t legally force him without going to court. But “pressuring” him? Yeah, I’d be doing that too and here’s why:A 28-year old mentally challenged man is not likely to be highly responsible about birth control, nor is he likely to partner with a woman who is highly responsible about it. He is also not likely to partner with a woman who is self-supporting and competent, since as harsh as it is to say so, such a woman has better mating options.So he impregnates a woman who is just as incapable as he is of taking care of herself or a baby.Guess who gets saddled with that baby: Grandma. There are currently about 5 million children being raised in grandparent-headed households. This woman is already burdened with an adult son who can’t take care of himself, probably for the rest of her life.I’m shocked that one of the commenters on here says that it’s “none of her business” whether her son gets a vasectomy. In what conceivable (no pun intended) universe is it none of her business?
Can I live with my older brother instead of my parents?
Well my older brother is 22yrs old.he lives in GA and so do I.I can't legally move out yet,so my brother said he wants to take care of me.He had to go through the same things my mom puts me through,and he knows I'm not safe living in the same home.My brother and his girlfriend tried taking me and leaving with me but my mom called the cops and it is illegal.the cops said that I can move with my brother only by court.If that is right,how does that work?
Why should I live after losing my 22-year-old brother, who never smoked or drank, to blood cancer? Memories of him are killing me.
True,it is not so easy to endure the loss of loving sibling. Blood cancer /Leukaemia was deadly before. Many people survive for longer time with this disease. Any way you might have did your best to save him. Sometimes this dreadful disease is unpredictable. It could not be controlled by any available medicine on earth.Yet some survive for a longer time and some don’t. There is no particular age group is vulnerable to this illness. Sometimes we can not bear the sight of their sufferings. Character of a person has no bearing on this illness. But general health counts a bit for treatment. Loss of loved ones push people in to depressive conditions. Yet there is one reality we must realize that the sufferings end with death than living with constant fear,anxiety,sadness and pain. When conditions are out of our control we have no choice than resign to prayers and accepting the consequences.It is natural for any one to lose interest to live when too good loved ones die.We gain nothing by losing our heart to live. Many people go through such phase in life. Nothing is permanent on the earth. Every one of us has a destiny to face. Yet there may be your mother ,father,aunt,uncles,grand father,grand mother who are equally shocked and affected and mourning like you. They may not expressed it to you. Parents are the worst affected. You have responsibility to give them the hope to live. Don’t you love them too? You may be the only solace for them. Sharing your grief on Quora is the right thing you did. Share your grief with your friends. Stay close to your grieving parents. Death is like a deep sleep in which we do not feel anything for a little while. I lost my younger sister at the age of 23. A most beautiful soul on earth.Now no more. It pained us badly. After several years we overcame the grief. To day our life has changed with many new people in our lives we continue to live. We live by giving life and laughter to many around us. We believe in that way our prayers would have reserved a place for my sister’s soul in the heaven.The sufferings of my sister gave us the strength to face or endure greater pains in life. We now know there are several people like us serving world to live in peace.
How can you turn your dependent 19-year-old brother into an independent, and strong person able to take care of himself?
Surprisingly this is a similar question to one that goes "how to I get my brother to stop drinking". The answer is you can't. You are not responsible for your brother, and only he is responsible for his life. The only thing you can do is to set limits with him if he's doing something that is affecting you. You say you are taking good care of him. That's fine. He may be living with you, and if that's acceptable to you, that's fine too. It's not okay however to want him to change. You'll drive yourself crazy that way. Where you can draw the line is how he may be affecting your life. If he is living with you, maybe you'd like him to help with the rent. You could talk to him and say that you've been happy to provide a place for him to live while he gets back on his feet, but now that he seems to be feeling a little better, you could suggest that he find a way to help with the rent or do some things around the house or apartment so he could help out with chores as a way of paying for his way. That's a start. Then the next step would be to encourage him to get a job to help pay for rent. Negotiate with him, so that you and he agree on something that's reasonable. Set deadlines for him and stick to them, with consequences if he doesn't do what you and he agree to. Don't baby him just because he has depression. You care about him obviously, but if you let him take advantage of you, you'll end up resenting him, and that's not good for you or him. The best thing you can do is be honest with him about your feelings. It's best if you reduce your expectations of him as he recovers, and give him space to do whatever he needs to do to learn to take care of himself. But you should also protect yourself and live your life.
I’m 22 and live in California and my 13 year old brother lives in Florida and I work and go to school full time. What kind of things can I do to ensure I don’t lose our relationship?
Call, text, and video call regularly. If you both like to play video games, a lot of them enable you to play with friends online, make some time to play with him every couple of weeks for a couple of hours. Even better with headsets so you can talk while you play.Be a place where he can ask questions safely, with no tattling to your parents, and no judging. He probably has lots of questions about sex, and dating. Be a place where he can go for information (hopefully not sexist crap), and ask questions about his changing body.
Worried my live in brother is a child molester?
First of all, please DO NOT FLAG this question, it is very real and I have no where else to ask it. Also, serious answers only please, this is not the time or place for trolls. Ok so, my 22 year old brother came to live with us (myself, hubby, and three kids aged 6,5 and 13months) a couple of months ago and I just do not trust him. My gut tells me not to. When he first moved in, my 6yo daughter accidentally walked in on him in the toilet and later he told me that "she was looking at his crotch or something". I found that to be an odd and innapropriate thing to say. Then last week, the older kids were playing a video game and my brother was in the room with them, the curtisns were closed, and I just came in to check on them, etc. my daughter was laying on my brother in a way that was odd because she doesn't know him that well, and they aren't particularly close. He also had one of our big oversized pillows covering his front and when I moved it, he got very fluttered and went red in the face. Last night my son came in to my room (dad had already left for work) and he came in crying that his pyjama bottoms were missing, and also his underwear were on back to front. I found this odd as I tucked him into bed and generally supervise the kids when getting dressed, sometimes they still need a little help with tags, etc. On top of this, my brother talks about pedophile related jokes a fair bit, and I've told him they make me very uncomfortable, and I don't find them funny. Yet again today he regained me with a supposed story of friends of a friend who are brother and sister and sleep together. I felt sick. I haven't discussed my feelings with my hubby yet, and I'm not sure if I'm imaging or overreacting. I generally trust my gut instinct. Before he moved in with us he was living with my Mother who is mentally ill, and spent most of his day online and looking at porn. I feel bad but for peace of mind I just want him out of the house. Any insights please??? I really need some help on this one.
Family: What can I do to my 22 year old brother who torchers my parents?
As you've not completely mentioned the situation like what is your & his age difference & what degree of torture your parents are going through from your brother, I'd answer it in a more generalized way. As long as it is under the hand, try to be strength of your parents, talk to them, motivate & encourage them why your brother's behaviour is completely wrong & unacceptable & once you had taken them in confidence & encouraged them enough then further plan what course of action to be taken to stop his behaviour. Either going full savage on him ferociously or retaliating him fearlessly. Once your brother will understand that now his days of being a torturous bully is over, he'll have no choice than squeaking like a timid rodent. That's how such kids are handled, attack the psychology & break his confidence. And you've to constantly be the support system of your parents. Now what if the things go out of hand? By which I'm referring to constant physical assault or violent behaviours like that, then buddy you'd have no choice left than taking legal actions on him. But for that too you need to take your parents in confidence & convince them because no matter how spoiled a son is no parents would want to see their own kid suffer so bad but you've to make them understand that sometimes it gets necessary to be harsh.
Family: What can I do to my 22 year old brother who torchers my parents?
As you've not completely mentioned the situation like what is your & his age difference & what degree of torture your parents are going through from your brother, I'd answer it in a more generalized way. As long as it is under the hand, try to be strength of your parents, talk to them, motivate & encourage them why your brother's behaviour is completely wrong & unacceptable & once you had taken them in confidence & encouraged them enough then further plan what course of action to be taken to stop his behaviour. Either going full savage on him ferociously or retaliating him fearlessly. Once your brother will understand that now his days of being a torturous bully is over, he'll have no choice than squeaking like a timid rodent. That's how such kids are handled, attack the psychology & break his confidence. And you've to constantly be the support system of your parents. Now what if the things go out of hand? By which I'm referring to constant physical assault or violent behaviours like that, then buddy you'd have no choice left than taking legal actions on him. But for that too you need to take your parents in confidence & convince them because no matter how spoiled a son is no parents would want to see their own kid suffer so bad but you've to make them understand that sometimes it gets necessary to be harsh.
Christmas present Ideas for 22 Year old brother.?
I got my 22 year old brother in chris kringle and I don't know what to get him. He is after buying himself everything he wants, he bought workout out equipment 2 weeks ago and he's getting the new Iphone in a couple of days. There's no show/movies/singers he's really interested in and I don't want to chance buying him clothes. I have a €150 price limit and don't want to get him a voucher. Also I live in Ireland.
At 14, my 23-year-old brother developed schizophrenia. At 22, my 24-year-old sister developed paranoid schizophrenia. Their illnesses have consumed my family's life. How do I reclaim my will to live?
I’ve responded to this question with the assumption that you’re concerned about developing the disorder yourself.Reading this may give you some comfort: Schizophrenia Genetics and HeredityIt helps to have a relatively clear idea of how the percentages are calculated; the way some people word them is designed to garner attention. We need to keep in mind that roughly 1% of people develop a form of schizophrenia (which includes a primarily aged demographic). When a report suggests that having a relative with schizophrenia doubles your chances of developing it, they’re really saying you have a 2% chance. And in most cases, this occurs much later in life.Having a sibling (and no parents) with the condition, gives you a roughly 7% chance of developing schizophrenia. When looked at in terms of odds, your chances of not developing it are great.Importantly, being genetically predisposed to schizophrenia doesn’t mean that you will develop the condition. There are a wide range of environmental and behavioural factors that have an impact on this… which is where a possible solution for you come into the picture.While we’re not yet at the stage where we can determine whether someone is going to get schizophrenia, efforts are being made towards early detection and treatment; with some promising results. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc...You are able to take steps now to improve your outlook on life, and the way you perceive and respond to challenges. Speak to a psychologist, explain your concerns, and have a discussion about whether you would benefit from treatment of some kind. With early support, and trust placed in the right person, you may be able to avoid the condition with minimal (or no) detriment to your own future.