Did i really provoke him to hit me?
Any man that would hit a woman, slap a woman,call her names, or throw things is an abusive person! A man is, by far, much stronger than a woman and for him to hit you even if you pushed him out of bed or not really shows what type of guy he is! He's abusive and insulting! why would you want to stay in a relationship like this! You realize you can get a restraining order on him and he wouldn't be allowed anywhere near you! Abusive men always try to make you feel as though it's your fault! They make you feel as though you caused them to hit you or slap you! You pushed their buttons therefore you provoked their rage! It's a farce and a lie! He is turning the tables around on you so he feels better about what he has done! He's a bad person on the inside and you cannot change a guy like this! Once they start hitting it gets worse. I've been in two different relationships like this and they get worse with time until the point they really hurt you bad! I've been choked to the point I've almost died and it started with little things like you are saying! You need to get rid of this guy! Get away from him and don't look back! Do not let this man make you feel responsible! You are not at fault! You are human! You ask him to leave and he wouldn't so you shoved him and he fell! That did not provoke him! a real man would have got up and left! He's not a real man! He hit a woman which makes him a monster! Get away from him and do it quickly! Don't think twice about it! Men like this eventually lose their temper so bad that you'll either end up in the hospital or dead! The best thing is to get out before this happens! Tell him to go and stay away! Go get a restraining order on him so he can't bother you! If he comes anywhere around you then call the cops and he will go to jail! Be firm and stand your ground! He's the bad one not you! Trust me I've been there! They twist things around and you honestly start feeling like yeah maybe I did provoke it! But you didn't! No man should ever raise his hand to a woman! Those guys don't need women! They can't control themselves! Good Luck!
"Can a white woman marry a Somali man?"?
I've just started dating a Somali man who I work with. I am white. Already, we've hit some rocks as far as his family goes with not approving. My boyfriend went as far as to get a new phone and making sure no one would go through it again. He tells me that he loves me and it seems like he really cares about me. I'm wondering if he'd still marry me someday even if his family doesn't approve. I really love this man and would do almost anything for him. I feel like he really wants to be with me, but I'm worried he'll buckle under the pressure of his family and religion, although he's already gone against both just to spend quality time with me. Does this prove he really loves me, or is he going to change him mind later on?
I don’t see myself marrying him?
Listen to your gut. You are fooling yourself if you think you can change him, and he has proven to you he isn't going to change on his own. While I know things can be great some of the time, you have to face the fact that he isn't the right person for you and admit it to yourself and him. Its hard to do so since things aren't that bad, and going back to finding someone new is so difficult, but sometimes the more difficult path is best. This sort of thing is actually very common and many just make the mistake of moving forward and marrying under the belief the other person will eventually change making for a short marriage when it doesn't happen. And something tells me that isn't what you want to happen. Good Luck. PS. The right one to marry will be your best friend as well as your lover. They will be just as generous as you if not more and you will not have the gnawing feeling you have now. The future will be about possibility, not about what you hope will change in your present life.
What should I do when a married guy tells me he likes me?
His marriage, his in-laws, the type of car he has - not your concern. If he wants to be unfaithful to his wife, fine. Wow! Americans are so moralistic. Do what both of you want.
What to do about a married man (from church) hitting on me?
Hi. I'm a Catholic, so I suppose I'd prefer answers from other Catholics about this. There is a man at Church, who is an Altar Server and married. He has two children, a daughter and a new born son. I always considered him a friend, but a little while ago I came back to Church after being away for a couple of months and he made sexual advances to me. It started I went up to him to say hi and he led me out to the car park and asked for my number so “we could maybe catch up”. He told me when he was free from work. I thought this was a little strange, but I gave him my number anyway. He hugged me as a welcome and his hand felt up against my breasts. I thought it was just an accident so I pretended it didn’t happened. He then told me how he’d been through a “dry-spell” because his wife had been pregnant and just had the child. He told he the hug hadn’t been an accident and asked if he could do it again. I said yes because I was so shocked at what had happened, and honestly a little frightened at what would happen if I said no. I allowed him to do it two more times. He called me a couple of days later, but I didn’t answer the phone because I knew it was him. Honestly, I’ve always had a bit of a crush on him, but I didn’t expect (or want) it to go any further than that because I respect that he is married. His own wife played Mary in the Christmas Nativity. I feel like it’s all my fault. I haven’t told my parents about it, only a few close friends. Someone suggested I tell his wife, but I don’t want to do that to their marriage. I haven’t been back to that Church and I don’t want to tell the Priest about it, but that would destroy his family’s life. Should I tell someone? And should I go back to Church?