My boyfriends parents kicked me out of their house!!?
You obviously have many problems. Why are you living with bf parents. Why are you living with someone with 4 pitbulls. Why cant you afford your own place. Why are you dating a guy that does not have his own place. Why do you resort to name calling. What was the fight about. You need to look at the state of your life and ask yourself How did I get here. How do I raise myself up. School, making amends with parents, applying for social services, financial aid. Making peace with God. I just dont know where to start with you. You are going down a bad road and surrounding yourself with bad people. Rise above the traffic, even if it means being lonely for a year.
My girlfriend wants to rent an apartment with her guy friend. What should I do?
I lived in an apartment with 3 girls... while I was dating another girl. I also actively recruited another female friend who I was close with to move into the apartment when an opening occurred while I was dating my wife. We all had our own bedrooms, so privacy most definitely existed.I say this to point out that it should be really dependent on the situation. Lots of people find they can comfortably live in a platonic way with people of the opposite sex better than with people of the same sex. I was one such individual.Of course, you should not feel that you aren't allowed to be jealous. This is a natural emotion. Talk to her about it, but be open. Is the situation bedrooms on opposite sides of the apartment? Or are they sharing a room? All these should be factors in your conversation. Does she have a history with this guy? Be careful about ultimatums, but if you want your relationship to last, you'll need to be able to have an open communication platform that includes tough topics without judgement.To echo the others though, if she chooses to go down this road regardless of your feelings, it would be wrong of you to try and force her to acquiesce. If you did and succeed, it will eventually destroy your relationship. If you try to force her and she doesn't agree, that will be the end anyway. I know how this road goes from my own experience.
We rent from my boyfriend’s mother. She's mad and has kicked us out. What are our rights?
My immediate recommendation is call a tenant or renter rights organization or legal aid for your location, explain the situation, and find out what your local tenancy laws are and what recourse you have.Problem is, this question can’t be answered accurately without knowing more details, especially context and location. In many places, there are rental laws and ordinances that protect tenants even in the absence of a written lease or rental agreement. (Many areas of California, for example; I’ve had experiences with this firsthand, and my daughter and son-in-law once had to go through a brutal eviction process for a guy who had become a legal housemate when he overstayed what was supposed to be a helpful couchsurf!)For example, in some places, precedence matters: if you’ve lived and paid rent in a place for x number of months, you can’t be summarily kicked out without proper notice, or if tenant laws are especially strong, sometimes without proper cause. If you live someplace with good tenant laws, the landlord (even if a relative) may at least have to pursue an eviction process, which gives you time. If the eviction is found to be improper, the landlord can end up paying relocation costs.As a lifelong renter, who’s had my fair share of both good and bad landlords and rental experiences, I sympathize with how scary and frustrating this is. Find out what your legal rights are, and go from there. Sometimes it’s possible to negotiate once both parties are aware of the rules. You can write a calm, clear letter detailing what rights you have and what you’re asking for once you know.And a final tip: Put everything in writing from here on out, even when it’s family. If your bf’s mom won’t cooperate, make sure you have records: use a form of payment that can be tracked (check, online transfer, etc.—don’t use cash!), send emails and written letters confirming every agreement (whether she responds or not). The more documentation you keep in future, the better off you’ll be.
How do I handle my boyfriend's controlling mother?
I love you two already.First: You can’t do anything. You can not talk to the mother, nor confront the mother, nor debate the mother, or any of his family.He, must do this. End of story. He has to do this. If he doesn’t, then he will wreck your entire relationship. There is nothing you can do. He must stand up to his family, or you will simply go insane by the way his family is acting. That’s all there is to it.I had to do this myself. I’m 39 now, but when I was 20, I moved into my own apartment, and my mother continued to try and micro-manage my life. She would call me and demand I do this, or do that.Finally one day I had to say to her, very directly, without anger or bitterness “Mother if you do not stop doing this, I am going to change my phone number, and disappear, and you will never see me again”.After that, she settled down, and realized she was not mommy anymore. Women in our culture today, are very bad at being parents, because being a parent to to raise your kid so that you are not needed anymore. Mothers want to be mommy for life in our country.Again, you can’t do this. Do not try and do this to her. It MUST be him. If he isn’t willing to do it, then you are just going to be driven quietly insane until you break up with him. He has got to do it. He has got to man up, and confront this problem.Second, you said something about cancer and insurance. He has a job, get insurance through the job. Or get insurance off the market. Yeah it will be more expensive, but then you won’t be treated as slaves by relatives.Third, get married. Do what you plan to do, whether they like it, approve of it, or not. Stop screwing around. Life is short. You got a great guy, and he’s got a great girl, forget those parents, and make it happen.Sometimes, the very act of getting married, snap the woman out of the mommy syndrome. But even if it does not, why wait. You got a good thing. You are doing as the Lord commands. You following the moral law. Now follow through. Just do it. Get a small little place to live, and enjoy your time together.The only thing I would add though is… this assumes he grows a back bone, and confronts mommy. If he’s going to be tiny timmy, and just mindless follow mommy’s orders, when he’s an adult man, getting married isn’t going to fix it. You are still going to go quietly insane, and it will wreck your marriage. Tiny Tim, need to morph into The Rock, and do a relational UFC smack down. It’s got to happen, and he’s got to do it.
Can I refuse to show my apartment while I'm living in it?
My apt manager posted a notice that she will be showing my apt to prospective tenants (since I'm moving out in a couple months) until it is rented. I am a little angry at this because I don't want people coming in all the time and it's a little rude while I'm still living here. Do I have the right to refuse to show until I move out? thanks- it would help a lot?
I am an american citizen and was refused entry to the UK?
"I have a job and LIFE here in America and want to be able to visit my mother when i please" Did you know you sound just like my 7 year old son? He whines a lot just like you do. In these days of increased security and harsh economic times, you would do well to STOP expecting the world to give you anything you want. YOu are NOT a baby. SO DO NOT expect to EVER be able to waltz into any country you choose for the rest of your life. Now that you have been denied, you may find it very difficult to ever get back into UK (or any other country other than your own) to visit. You are NO longer eligible to use the VWP. You must always apply for a tourist visa. Now about what you said. What do you mean by EVERYTHING?? What exactly did you SHOW the immigration person? Did you SHOW PROOF that you had a job? A letter from the boss is excellent proof. paystubs are NOT sufficient proof. DId you show PROOF that you own or rent a house/apartment? Copies of your mortgage contract or the lease are good for this. Did you show proof that you have bills to pay? Copies of recent bills are good for this. If you did not do anything like that - then thats why you were denied. Every country has a RIGHT to DENY anyone they choose.
How do I deal with uninvited house guests (boyfriends parents)?
My boyfriend I have have been dating for over a year now. We made a major step in our relationship and moved into our own apartment (without our pesky room mates) in November of 2008. My boyfriends parents have seized this as an opportunity to come and visit often, which I have no problem with... within reason. 1) They never call and let us know ahead of time let alone ask if they can come and stay over. My own parents always call and ask, they don't want to impose. 2) They invite a whole bunch of other guests over when they come up (ex: his sister, her baby, her fiance). We simply do not have enough room to accommodate all of them in this tiny two bedroom apartment. I have tried to talk to my boyfriend about this, but he got highly offended when I talked to him about his own family. It's driving our relationship apart. I just don't know what to do about it anymore. I would really just like his family to call and have show some common curtsey towards us. Currently his sister, his mother, his sister's baby are staying with us. His sister failed to inform us that she had invited her friend to come and stay with us. I'm just so peeved because it's midterm week for myself in university and I'm trying to figure out how I'm going to accomdidate and feed everyone without going nuts. A little help here would be wonderful! I'm open to any advice , i'm totally lost at what to do! :(
My boyfriends a felon, but if my name is on the lease, can he live w/ me in an apartment thats gov't based?
It may vary slightly by area. I live in Texas and I know that here anyone 18 or over has to be on the lease if they're living in the apartment. Also, if your apartment is income based, your boyfriend probably will have to get a job as a condition of his parole, which would count toward your income for the apartment if he was living with you. So basically your boyfriend probably can't live there with you legally. If the apartment owners find out he's there, they'll tell you that you have to add him to the lease. If you're living there with your kids and he moves in, it might put you over the occupancy limit for the apartment, depending on how many kids you have and how many bedrooms too. If it's important to you to keep being able to live there, the best thing to do is to ask the apartment owners how you can add your boyfriend to the lease, and just take it from there. Not all apartments will refuse to lease to someone with a criminal record...if you think about it, even people who have been busted for something have to have a place to stay.
What do I do if my parents refuse to see me as an adult or talk without a huge fight?
Well honestly, emotions are a disaster. Do not live your life by your emotions, or you are going to have one heck of a terrible life.That said, if your parent refuses to see you as an adult, there are two possible reasons….One: You are not acting like an adult. Being adult means acting like one. If you act like a teenager, even if you are 40 years old, I’m going to treat you like a child. Because you are acting like one. I’ve met men that were 40, but acted exactly like they were 15.Two:, and this is more and more common, you parents simply don’t know how to stop being mommy and daddy. Usually it’s the mother that in our feminist culture, thinks that it’s all about them.The solution there is rather brutal. You just leave. You move out. Get your own place, and live your own life.I actually had to do this… almost. My mother was doing this to me, and finally one day I told her straight up, if she didn’t cut it out, I was going to change my phone number, move to a new apartment, and she would never see me again. And I was dead serious too. She knew it. Broke down in tears, and then after that she lost her mommy syndrome, and we’ve been fine ever since. But it required me standing up to her face, and telling her that she was finished with that.
How to take EX- Boyfriend name OFF LEASE?
Could someone please help me figure out how I can remove my ex-boyfriends name off of the lEASE? We rent an apartment in NYC on a 2 year lease, both of our names, it's been 1 year into our lease. I want him out - YES I WANT HIM OUT (If I sound selfish then OH WELL be it). We have been together 5 years, we have a 2 1/2 yr old daughter, and I am 5 months pregnant. This man has made a 360 change and is heading out from vacation to vacation with lord knows who, he says he has another woman pregnant who is a far better woman than I am, and now he is denying that the son I am carrying is his. He says he does not want to be with me but does not move out. He is currently on a vacation and I messaged him that I will be packing his belongings and taking it to his mothers house, and he could do as he pleases from there. He said if I touch his "property" he will call the cops on me. I cannot stand being in this situation 1 second longer. He is mentally very abusive, calling me a bad mother, a cheap woman, a gold digger, a whore, a cheater, a ****. I cannot take this any longer. I am a terrific mother, I paid to move our family into our apartment, I make more money than him - so how am I a gold digger, and I am not the one with anyone else - he is. Is there a legal way I can get his name off? I would like to continue my pregnancy healthy and at peace, and I need my kids to have a home... I cannot leave him the apartment and have to pull about $5,000 AGAIN to look for another place and move... I would appreciate some advice.. Thank you all.