How can you turn your dependent 19-year-old brother into an independent, and strong person able to take care of himself?
Surprisingly this is a similar question to one that goes "how to I get my brother to stop drinking". The answer is you can't. You are not responsible for your brother, and only he is responsible for his life. The only thing you can do is to set limits with him if he's doing something that is affecting you. You say you are taking good care of him. That's fine. He may be living with you, and if that's acceptable to you, that's fine too. It's not okay however to want him to change. You'll drive yourself crazy that way. Where you can draw the line is how he may be affecting your life. If he is living with you, maybe you'd like him to help with the rent. You could talk to him and say that you've been happy to provide a place for him to live while he gets back on his feet, but now that he seems to be feeling a little better, you could suggest that he find a way to help with the rent or do some things around the house or apartment so he could help out with chores as a way of paying for his way. That's a start. Then the next step would be to encourage him to get a job to help pay for rent. Negotiate with him, so that you and he agree on something that's reasonable. Set deadlines for him and stick to them, with consequences if he doesn't do what you and he agree to. Don't baby him just because he has depression. You care about him obviously, but if you let him take advantage of you, you'll end up resenting him, and that's not good for you or him. The best thing you can do is be honest with him about your feelings. It's best if you reduce your expectations of him as he recovers, and give him space to do whatever he needs to do to learn to take care of himself. But you should also protect yourself and live your life.
Can I claim my brother as a dependent?
I am filing Head of Household, I have two children that I am claiming on my tax return. My older brother has also lived with me all year. He did not work, I supported him. Am I able to claim him as a dependent? I qualify for the Child Tax and Earned Income Tax Credit with my two children. Would claiming my brother affect that? I did not make much last year by working. I also received child support but that is not taxable. (not sure if that is relevant.)
Why would a father make his son dependent on him?
I’ve come across this numerous times, mostly when the men are reasonably successful creatures who are proud of their achievements.At first I thought they were just control freaks to be pitied but experience has shown me otherwise.On the whole it seems that these men have become used to being in charge of everything, their wives, children and employees. They’re successful so they know better is the maxim. In many cases they do.When it comes to their adult sons if you look carefully the father has provided for more than just their needs. He has given them things others are not fortunate enough to ever get.But the sons ignore this, it never happened! When pushed they say they understand and are grateful, but I want to go this way or that.Unfortunately, this way or that entails the use of more of their father’s hard work, his money. It’s not a lot in the greater scheme of things but it’s his.Frankly the father’s demands in return for less than was asked, come over as control, often in the form of dependency.Is this unfair? Maybe, maybe not. The son could go out and do his own thing but no, money is required. The son could go out and earn a living independent of his father and gain some respect. But that will take time and the rewards are not so great and his fights have to be lowered considerably.So the son allows dad to bankroll him and complains about the conditions, forgetting that no one else would do it for him.So dependency is the lesser of the two evils. Dad maintains some control and son accedes to his demands.
Are parents and brother considered to be "dependent" and "beneficiary"? I am filling in Cognizant 1C portal and PF details.
Thanks for the A2A.For Dependent: You can make your Spouse, Children and Parents if not working like Mother as Housewife or Retired from job.Your siblings can not be your Dependent.For beneficiary:You can make beneficiary any one means Parents, Spouse, Children and Siblings.
Can I claim my Godson on my taxes as a dependent?
The only person legally entitled to claim a child is the person who provides MORE THAN HALF HIS SUPPORT for the year. Is that you? It sounds like Grandma is supporting him. Whether she gets a W-2 or not doesn't make any difference. Nothing you say indicates that you're legally able to claim him.
How do I deal with my already-adult son who is still dependent and is in a bad relationship? It’s causing me, my husband, and his sister extreme anxiety and worry. We really want him to end the relationship, but he just won't listen.
Well no wonder he is still dependent if you are treating him like that. Go back in time and do things differently. Ok you can’t. But you can change now.Apologize for trying to run his life. Sincerely. Tell him you know his life is his, and you know you have made mistakes by trying to run it for him. Explain it was out of love that you tried to control him, but now you see how unloving that was, so you are going to change now.Now start supporting his decisions for himself. If he tells you he wants to be an astronaut, a dinosaur, Batman, whatever, ask what you can do to help him on this path. Same for relationships. Accept his choice. Try to love and accept his partner. It is none of your business. It really isn’t. No matter what. If you support and love him fully he will come to know what that feels like, and seek that in partner. Because you haven’t done that, he doesn’t know. He doesn’t know what healthy love feels like because that isn’t what you taught him. Fix that now.
What should a dependent 23 yr old son do when he finds out his dad has kids with two other women? Especially when I was a proud son and also no one else in my family knows.
Some people here have given you morally dubious and intellectually poor advice. Any of us would be disappointed if a significant other person, whom we believed to be a certain type of person, turned out to be very different to what we believed them to be. Possibly even what we have been led by them to believe. If you have been deliberately misled then you have a right to be disappointed. Another consideration, not taken into account by other posts, is that it is not clear whether these other kids came as a consequence of marital affairs, thus there is always the possibility it could all explode in your family’s face. Understandably you might have good grounds for concern and disappointment, so you have been given a great burden. If none of this is the case then you still could reflect that he should have been more open with his wife, your mother, especially if you believe she would be devastated by this news. I would advise you keep it to yourself unless these children are the result of affairs, when you might have a man to man with your dad and lift the moral burden off your shoulders, should it all go south. After that, live in peace with yourself and if the other kids are not the result of extra marital affairs, then do not think less of your dad.
Do you get 3500 dollars for a dependent?
You may or may not be able to claim your brother as a dependent. He is too old for the child tax credit, but if his income is less than $3500, he lived with you for at least six months, and you provided over 50% of his support, you can claim him as your "qualifying child", as he is a close blood relative. Don't believe everything you hear about other people's refunds. You don't "get back" $3500 for each kid. Your friends may have other situations that effect their tax refund that you are not aware of. Or they may just be lying.
How do I get long term German dependent visa for my parents?
As Shrushti Kadaganchi mentioned, There is no way you can get a long term dependent visa for parents. Dependent visa is applicable to only your spouse and children. You can not use the dependent visa option for your parents, siblings or any other relatives.There is another way if you have good financial means. There is something called investor visa (I do not clearly remember the name), Countries like Portugal and Spain have this visa provision. This will grant them with EU citizenship/Permanent residence. Then with the freedom to move within EU states, they can stay with you in whichever country you are in Europe.Please restrain from calling this faking system or coming to EU on illegal means. Because, a person is shelling out possibly half a million to 1 million euros in EU to get this visa. In other sense, they are investing and moving a large amount of money to EU which the government is using for the welfare of EU citizens. This is perfectly legal and approved approach.Downside of this approach is that either you or your parents should have a huge lot of money to spend to get this type of permit.
Can my brother sponsor me, if he is a Canadian PR?
Sponsoring an eligible relativeYou can sponsor certain relatives if you’re 18 years of age or older and a:Canadian citizen orperson registered in Canada as an Indian under the Canadian Indian Act orpermanent resident of CanadaYou must live in Canada to sponsor eligible relatives unless you:are a Canadian citizen who lives abroad andplan to return to Canada when your relatives immigrate andare sponsoring your:spouse orcommon-law or conjugal partner ordependent children who have no dependent childrenIf you live in Quebec, you must also meet Quebec’s conditions to be a sponsor after we approve you as a sponsor. This includes signing an “undertaking” with the province. This is a contract that binds your sponsorship.Your responsibilitiesWhen you sponsor a relative to become a permanent resident of Canada, you must:meet set income guidelinesagree in writing to give financial support to your relative and any other eligible relatives coming with them:beginning on the date they become a permanent residentfor up to 20 years (depending on their age and how you’re related)The person you sponsor must sign an agreement saying they will make the effort to support themselves. This includes sponsored dependent children 18 or older. Dependent children under 19 don’t have to sign this agreement.Who isn’t eligible to sponsor a relativeYou may not be able to sponsor a relative if you:are in prisonhave not paid your alimony or child support paymentshave declared bankruptcy and haven’t been released from it yetgot social assistance for reasons other than being disableddidn’t pay back an immigration loan, made late payments or missed paymentssponsored another relative in the past and didn’t meet the terms of the sponsorship agreementwere convicted of a violent crime, any offence against a relative or any sexual offence, depending on details of the case, such as:the type of offencehow long ago it waswhether a record suspension was issued (formerly called “pardons” in Canada)