Does a person with bpd feel bad after hurting someone?
No, a person with BPD will not feel bad after hurting someone, at least not immediately.First of all, people with BPD will generally hurt someone they have devalued. Remember, while you are idealized, a person with BPD will believe you can do no wrong and therefore will go out of their way to avoid hurting you. Once you are devalued (and it's important to remember the switch can happen overnight), then the person with BPD will treat you badly and hurt you, but in their minds you are all bad and do not deserve do be treated differently. In their minds, they are doing nothing wrong by mistreating you.Second, it's important to remember that BPD causes intense emotions that are hard to control. When someone with BPD is overwhelmed by intense emotions they do not have the luxury to worry about you or your feelings. They are doing their best to control these intese emotions. That is why BPD is many times confused with NPD, because both disorders are consumed with self and act like they do not care about others (but for very different reasons).Finally, it is important to note that BPD causes a distorted view of reality and affects memory of interpersonal relationships. When a BPD is acting inappropriate, in their minds it feels right and they are not doing anything wrong. They might not even realize they are hurting you.Nevertheless, with enough distance and treatment someone with BPD can become to be able to see their behavior when it is innapropriate and feel bad about it. People with BPD are not hurting others on purpose. Of course they feel bad when and if they realize what they are doing. If you know someone with BPD you should try to convise them to get treatment. BPD is a serious and dangerous mental illness if left untreated.
I want to get ill enough to get hospitalized. What should I do?
Well that is fairly easy to do if you’re sure that’s what you want. You don’t state what part of the hospital you want to be in. Do you want the psychiatric ward, the surgical ward, the ER, isolation, etc. Have you ever been in the hospital before? Are you aware that they don’t just let you lay there and sleep? No matter what part of the hospital you are in, it ain’t no picnic! It’s noisy, there are many interruptions, you may be required to do physical therapy or worse yet, group therapy. They may make you walk laps around the floor or spend an hour with a social worker just to figure out what your ‘deal’ is.Once they figure out what your real problem is, then they work on getting you better and then they drop kick you out the door! There are no longer the days of staying indefinitely and lounging all the while. They may restrict your visitors, they could alter your diet, they can even force you to take a shower.I’m not going to get into what you need to do to get hospitalized, as you can easily figure that one out. Just think about where it is you want to end up. Then think about how much this is going to cost someone….. in oh, so many ways, not just financially. Then give some thought to the level of humiliation you will feel after you get out and how well prepared you are to handle that.Whatever part of the hospital you end up in, it becomes a part of your permanent medical record and trust me, years from now, this will be the very last thing you want potential employers to be reading.If you just want to be sick for a weekend, eat or drink something you shouldn’t and you might get admitted. But you really won’t like it! And that is a fact! Your time might be better spent locking yourself in your bedroom and doing some serious soul searching as to what is really going on with you here.Good luck!
I'm afraid I'll cheat on my girlfriend?
You cheat for insurance? I just have to ask...if your girlfriend did cheat on you after you obtained "insurance", what kind of benefits would you receive? I sounds like you have trust issues regarding relationships. The answer simply stated is not to cheat. However, the practice of that isn't so simple is it? Cheating on someone because you think they could cheat on you is really insulting to the girl and to yourself. If the girl likes you the way you like her, you should give her a chance to be faithful to you and you need to be faithful to her in return. If you continue to go about this practice of getting insurance with every relationship you have, you will eventually find yourself by yourself. The female gender is a wonderful creation. They will put up with all kinds of BS from the male gender, much more than they rightfully should, but if you continue to press the issue with them, they will leave you alone or totally shut down around you. You stop yourself by giving your girl the benefit of the doubt. She won't cheat on you if you treat her like she wants to be treated. Generally, the only time a girlfriend cheats on her boyfriend is if she is treated badly. So treat her nice and you should have nothing to worry about.
What is the naval term for feigning sickness?
The official term is malingering. SIQ is the term for someone who is assigned to remain in their quarters (or rack on a ship) due to illness. The sailor's wife is right about that and people on SIQ are often referred as getting "rack ops". Normally people with "rack ops" are considered to actually be ill, while we referred to people who were feigning illness as "SIQ", because they would cry about either being SIQ or on limited duty to get out of work. A less polited term we used was "broke dick". "Goldbricking" is an older military term.
Could I be faking depression?
I used to ask myself this question a lot. Yes, I genuinely felt miserable a lot of the time, but sometimes I felt OK. I rarely felt like I couldn't do stuff, but somehow I would just… not do it.I would wonder if there was some sneaky part of me, hiding somewhere deep down in my mind, that was choosing to be that way. Like I had deliberately chosen to avoid doing chores and homework and all that stuff, and then chosen to lie to myself and pretend I didn't really have a choice. I wondered maybe it was because I really was just lazy and didn't want to admit it to myself.Is that anything like what you feel? Does that sound at all like the thoughts that run through your head when you wonder if you're somehow faking depression, even though you aren't consciously deciding to fake it?Well, maybe your thoughts are like mine and maybe they aren't. People are really different in lots of ways. So maybe this won't help you, but maybe it will.In order for you to be faking depression without intentionally choosing to do so, some part of your subconscious mind would have to be influencing you, convincing you to feel miserable and to stay in bed and all that stuff.But, you know what?That’s exactly what depression is.Now, if you're anything like I was, your brain probably just made a million excuses in three seconds, for why that isn't true and you don't really have depression and maybe you are consciously faking because there was that one time…But even if I'm wrong about everything I've said so far, here's one thing I'm pretty sure I'm right about: you aren't enjoying your life a lot of the time.That's reason enough to get help. You don't actually have to know whether you have depression. If you are faking it, there must be something going on in your life that motivates you to fake depression. A counselor can help you discover what that might be. If you have some completely different illness, a counselor can help you discover what that might be. If you have no illness at all, but something entirely different is happening, a counselor can help you discover what that might be.Seriously, go talk to a counselor, a clinical psychologist, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker… whoever is available. Tell them what's going on in your life. Heck, tell them why you think you might be faking depression. I can only guess what's going on with you. Somebody like that can actually help.
My mom might be hurting my nephew?
So here's the deal. My mom has a history of hurting herself / making herself sick for attention. Now she's out in California with my sister who is in the navy to "help" with the baby. The baby is now very ill and the doctors can't find anything wrong with him. He's losing weight, vomiting, and has severe diarrhea. There is no concrete proof that she is hurting him but it is very convenient that suddenly she is well and the baby is not. It's just a suspicion but I dont know what to ask the doctors to test him for? Any ideas? Who should my sister talk to about this? What happens if we accuse mom and it turns out that the baby really is genuinely ill? Please help!