Problem with my 17 year old son, help please?
As someone who was until about a year ago a seventeen-year-old son myself... I would wager that he was at least as mortified as you in all these situations. If the main issue is embarrassment, just ask him to keep his door closed and volunteer to always knock, as it will save both of you future embarrassment. If you have an issue with him masturbating, I would say that this is very silly. Masturbation is perfectly healthy and not in any way harmful. If you have an issue with him having sex, I would suggest you have a conversation with him about it (yes, it will be awkward, but it will make you feel better in the long run). Forbidding him from having sex would be a bad idea and probably make him more likely to do it (did so for me). Do make sure that he's aware of what he's doing. Do tell him how important it is to use protection (both against pregnancy and against STDs). Make sure that he is educated.
I need help with my 17 year old teenage son!?
Our 17 year old teenage son is totally out of control. He moved back in with his father and I When he was 14 due to a bad situation back home with him mother. He was left alone for a week at a time. He did horrible in school getting D's and F's. We took away privelages and grounded him sometimes months on end. He has been caught sleeping with 14 year old girls and to top it all off will disappear for days at a time and then come home like nothing has happened. He burns himself and has lost a lot of weight. He is 6 foot and only weighs maybe 145. He dropped out of school because either his friends did or graduated. They are all moving away. We tried to get him counseling and he ran away. We now think he is using drugs and he has refused a drug test. We want to kick him out. He will turn 18 in a few months. We are at our wits end and are desperate for any advice. Our son is on self destruct and we cant even force a drug test per the law of our state without HIS (?!?!?!) consent. HELP!
My 17 year old son is so moody ? Anyone have this problem?
Don't have a son but was 17 and am a youth director. Yeah. It's normal. I have about 6 17 year olds in my group and no one can ever say for sure if they will be in a good mood or bad mood. You have to remember when you were 17. For the first time, most likely, your son is realizing he doesn't have to be exactly like his parents. He wants to be himself and not a mamam's boy or daddy's boy. Every teenager comes to the realization that he or she gets to grow up now. Some early, some late, some at 17. He is probably trying to find his groove. He wants to be an adult and is trying to figure out how. Eventually his moods will level out and he may come to you (God willing) to figure the things out he wasn't able to on his own. I know that sounds like a bunch of psycho babble crap. But that's my own answer, really. The best I can recommend is to grin and bear. Obviously you'll have to put your foot down if his rebellion gets out of hand. But he'll grow out of it. Remember you put your parents through the same crap. You don't see it that way, but ask them (if you can) and find out.
My 17 year old son punched me, was I wrong to threaten to kick him out of the house?
He turns 18 in November. The 2011 2012 school year will be his senior year in high school. I thought a spanking would make him come to his senses. He hadn't been spanked since he was 14. A spanking always cured any bad behavior that he had. He started being disrespectful and acting like he runs are house when he turned 16 in 2009. I thought it was just a phase and that he would out grow it. I thought he was a young man and he was too old to be spanked, but after he hit me, I decided that a good spanking would cure his bad behavior. I didn't tell him he had to leave, I just got angry and lift. He thought that we wouldn't welcome him back in our house. He works at Walmart on Saturday. Working at Walmart doesn't pay enough for him to live on his own. He came to his senses after he lift and realized he couldn't survive on his own without a high school diploma. He wasn't crying because of the spanking. He was crying because he didn't know where to go and he was afraid we wouldn't let him ba
How can I get along better with my 17 year old son?
well your biggest mistake has been letting your son be the boss of your house. all kids need to hear the word no sometimes and sparing them that does no favors for anybody. your son obviously has no respect for himself, because he shows absolutely no respect towards others. i bet you do his chores for him on a regular basis or they don't get done. i bet his friends have even done his chores for him because they are embarrassed for him the way that he treats his parents. you need to have an open and honest communication session with him where you let him know that you are a family and in order for things to function the best they can everybody has to do their part and treat each other with respect. do not give your son money or privledges if he is not complying with your rules or if he disrespects yourself or your husband...maybe take away his computer until school starts when he'll need it for homework.
How can I help my socially immature, 17 year old son.?
Try to get him involved with a social group where there are similar people. Try to get all your friends talking to him using open questions where he cannot just answer yes or no or give one word answers. Maybe have a word with the staff at the college as there will be SEN trained staff who are trained to deal with people with specific needs.
Please Help, 17 year old son is sneaking out and drinking?
My 17 year old son is sneaking out of the house, drinking , smoking, and hard telling what else. Straight F student. Capable of at least C. Please help. Have alarm on bedroom door.He has 12 year old sister at home. Don't know what to do except quit my job and can't afford to do that. Please help me.
Why is my 17 year old son always angry at me for no reason at all and I hear him in the room crying all the time but he doesn't want to talk to me, what do I do?
Your son does not want to hear what he THINKS you will say. You will need to re-build trust before he will talk to you.Here are some things that well-meaning parents do that unintentionally erode trust:Being quick to criticize. Most young people develop confidence by solving problems and mistakes with the guidance of adults, not through yelling, carping, demanding, and criticizing.Being judgmental and jumping to conclusions about others. If your young man is having relationship issues, will you just jump to conclusions that the other person is a “bad influence?”Not listening. We are all under so much pressure to perform so many tasks every day that we often speed through oppprtunities to have relaxed, meaningful conversation. We unintentionally communicate, “Just tell me what I want to hear: your grades are great, your friends are all supportive, you are building a great resume, etc.” We don’t want to hear, “ I am struggling with my sexuality,” “My girlfriend abuses me,” “I do not want the future career you have planned for me.”Instead of asking your son why he won’t talk to you, tell him you want to go to the state park and take a hike, just the two of you (or something similar.) DO NOT PRESSURE HIM FOR INFORMATION while the two of you are together. Just enjoy his company. The only thing you want to communicate is unconditional love. Ask absolutely NO PROBING QUESTIONS. Let the conversation unfold into what HE wants it to be about. Then, LISTEN. Do not comment without first saying, “Would you like to know my thoughts on that subject.”Give him permission to say NO. He is becoming a man. He needs to develop confidence in his own thoughts, feelings, and opinions. Do not say patronizing things like: “You can talk to me about amything,” because obviously he can’t.I know you love your son like crazy. This is obviously killing you. You have tried to be a great parent. You care and want things to be better. These are all great positives that you will take with you into overcoming this bump in the road,