If a 16 year old tells you he’s sleeping with a 30 year old woman do you tell his mom?
I dont agree with any of youIf he is 16 and sleeping with a 30 year old whats the worst that can happenhe can have his heart broken - thats going to happen anyway whether it be with a 30 year old or another 16 year old its part of growing upHe is probably going to learn how to be a lover and learn about sex and a woman's body and how to please itHe is living what most teenage boys only fantasize abouthe will also learn about peopleHe is not being forced into anythingHe is maybe going to bump his head “figuratively” a bit but that is in the school of hard knocksShe being 30 is probably not going to get pregnantWill he have any serious psychological trauma - I dont believe so unless some do good-er phones the police and tell his Mom and it all gets blown out of proportion and the woman goes to prisonI accept there is a double standard in this in the sense if it was a girl of 16 and a man of 30 then the man is a predator and taking advantage of her youth and inexperience but I dont believe that 16 year old girls fantasize about shagging older men as much as 16 year old boys fantasize about shagging older womenAlso he might be having fun whereas a 16 year old girl would probably be in loveWarn him that he might get his heart broken but otherwise leave him alone dont make trouble because of some strange morality which the do good- er’s have tried to enforce
Is it ever okay for an uncle to sleep in the same bed with his 14 year old neice?
Super creepy. Any way you can talk to the 14 year old and ask her if she's feeling ok about it? In that situation I would have had all the females in one bed - Mom and the two girls in one and the two guys could have slept in the other bed. No way would I ever let a grown man sleep in the same bed as my 14 year old girl - not even my own brother! You are not silly to think bad about that situation - it was inappropriate for this to happen. Edit - for littleJaine - pedophiles are more common than you think, dear. Even having the parents in the same room does not make it ok. It is inappropriate to subject a 14 year old girl to this - better sleeping arrangements could have been made. The parents made a poor choice and left their little girl in a very vulnerable position. 2nd edit - Midnight - what cultures are you talking about? In my studies I have never come across this idea that older men of a family sleep in the same bed as girls. In most of the cultures I have studied there are very strict rules or taboos separating the sleeping and sometimes eating rituals of the females and males in a group. Even if there aren't these types of taboos - then there is usually a hierarchy about who sleeps in a bed (adults) and who sleeps on the floor (children). So, Midnight, I'd love to learn more - please feel free give some names of culture groups that allow older male relatives to sleep with younger female relatives.
22 year old sleeping with 17 year old?!?
I have a friend he is twenty two he slept with a seventeen year old girl. It was consensual. If he decided to break up with her how much trouble could he get into? If she decided to tell the police or her parents?
Caught my 16 year old daughter sleeping with my ex-boyfriend? Illegal!?
I live in a small town in Iowa with my daughter. I split with my ex-boyfriend around a few months ago and just the other day I caught my daughter having sex with him in her room! I feel so disgusted right now, as a parent I should have been more aware of what my daughter was doing. I also should have known that my ex was a pedofile! It's sick, a 46 year old man sleeping with a 16 yo child! Can I call the police and have this pedofile thrown in jail?? He's a grown man sleeping with a little girl. My daughter told me it was legal, bull crap!
Is it legal for a 16-year-old and 13-year-old to kiss?
Original Question: “Is it legal for a 16-year-old and 13-year-old to kiss?”Kissing and holding hands is legal, but sex and intimate touching is not. Are you sure that you can keep the boundaries on this? She’s not old enough to consent. It’s easy to get carried away in the heat of the moment, and that’s you committed sexual assault. If you have sex, you are guilty of rape, even if she appears willing. If the relationship works out, you’ll need to refrain from sexual activity for three years until she is sixteen. Three years. You’ll be 19. Think about it.You say you’ll do this “no matter what people think”. Is that fair to your potential girlfriend? Thirteen year olds can look mature, but they really are not. At this age, a three year age gap is significant in terms of experience. Her parents may be very concerned (I would be). Your parents might be worried about you if this all goes wrong (I would be). I expect you’re not caring much about what your parents think right now, but it’s not great to build a relationship based on sneaking about. Especially so when, at 13, she should be building trust so her parents willingly give her more freedom.So, be careful. You’re legally an adult, she’s legally a child. If this relationship goes too far, you’ll get the police calling and could easily end up on the sex offenders register. If you, or she, take sexy pictures and distribute them, then that’s a child pornography offence.And damage limitation. carry a condom at all times just in case. She can get pregnant first time, at any time of the month, even if you don’t have full sex. She can conceive if you ejaculate near her vulva or if sperm are transferred on someone’s hands. Be wise, if the relationship is heading in that direction, both of you should use contraception - and double it up. Pill and condom. If that goes wrong, or a condom bursts, remember the “Plan B” emergency contraception from a pharmacist. Be wise and talk about this possibility.I suspect you won’t listen much to my words of caution. Perhaps you’ll listen to this. If you do go out, do it visibly and be responsible. Show the people, who will inevitably be looking on with concern, that you can be trusted. Get her home on time, every time. Make friends with her father.Prove you are reliable. Best of luck.
I'm 16 years old and I'm dating a 25 year old. Do you think this relationship will last long enough?
Last long enough for what? For him to be arrested?Because 16 is still a minor, and if you two have sex, no matter how much you “love” him - it is statutory rape.I know what its like to be a 16yr old girl. You have all the answers, you probably know what you want from life, and all the boys your age are just that - immature boys. UGH - who’d want to date them???But, aside from you relationship being potentially illegal (oh, and he’d be put on the Sex Offender registry FOR LIFE), you have to look at why HE is looking at a 16yr old girl.This will resolve one of two ways. Either something is wrong with him, and women his age won’t date him (meaning he is immature and childish); or THERE IS SOMETHING WRONG WITH HIM, and he is attracted to girls.If it’s the first, stop dating him now, and get back together in two or three years. His immaturity could have resolved itself, and 19 and 28 are not only LEGAL, but are a little bit closer in experience.IF, however, it’s the second, and you keep dating him, you’ll turn around one day, you are 20, he’s 29 - and he’s scoping out the next 16yr old girl to groom.Maybe he’s not a creep, maybe he is genuinely attracted to YOU, not just the 16yr old you happen to be. But your relationship is a problem simply from the fact that you, no matter how mature, are not an adult. ANYONE who finds out about your relationship - your parents, your teachers, your neighbors, a 16yr jealous girl or boy from school - it will get reported to the police. Even if your parents don’t want to pursue arresting him, it won’t be up to them. The prosecutor will go after him for Statutory Rape. And it won’t matter how “in love” you two are.
My Wife's 18 year old son hit me in the face?
Well, he'd definitely have taken a few well-placed shots (well placed being the operative phrase here), but I think when you beat him to "a bloody pulp" you overdid the situation and negated any educational value a creative a s s whipping might've conveyed. You reacted to getting punched (which was normal) but you lost sight of your larger duty to your household. If you had balled him up and tossed his butt onto the front lawn you'd have communicated that you're in control of your own household and won't tolerate disrespect. He'd have known that defiance will be met with swift suppression, but you are still a loving member of his family network. Instead, you became merely another guy he was having a fist fight with. The cards were already against you because you're stepdad in the equation....you have to be smarter than that. You basically tore your house upside down trying to save it. (Figuratively) 18 or not, your wife can't be happy with seeing you damaging her son. You have a lot of damage control to perform. Good luck.