Help me please!!! advice or opinions best one 10 points?
Okay so I'm 19 and a young woman. Last month my bf of 4yrs( we've been best friends for 13yrs) proposed and asked me to marry him and I said yes. I'm really happy and excited. And so is my parents they tell me that he's perfect match for me and I agree, but other people in my life say different. They said things like I'm to young to get married, we won't last, he will leave me and things like that. What the heck is wrong with these people??? Why do they say or think this??? I don't know what really to do can u help me please??* advice or opinions P.s he's 20 and were both work and in college
PLEASE help give me your opinion .. should I punish a 19 year old for this. . or at that age is it wrong to?
she needs consequences. i'm only 25, but when i was 18, my dad told me if i wanted a phone i would have to buy one myself. he wasn't being mean, he just wanted me to learn responsibility. i worked and i saved up the money - including an extra $300 for my own plan so i could start building credit - and he went with me to buy it. it was all my own and i paid for everything, and that way when i went off to college, i already had something that was all my own and my responsibility every month. so i have no sympathy for a 19 year old who can't do the same. i would take away the phone and make her earn the rest of the $200. pitching in $50 doesn't make it hers, it means she helped buy it and you guys gave it to her. she's 19 for heaven's sake, she should be more responsible than that and she should have a job! -also, if this guy really has true husband-potential, he won't dump her because he couldn't text her. if he does, he wasn't husband material. when my husband and i were teens and dating (not so long ago), he called the house phone - my parent's rule - or he came over while they were home - also my parent's rule.
I am 60-something. A few things I have found that are making my 60's (and hopefully beyond) more enjoyable and fulfilling are: 1. Refusing to spend time under clouds. (My specific clouds included cancer, divorce, and diabetes.)2. Refusing to spend time with people who will not affirm me. (Those who find fault with me 'for my own good'.)3. Refusing to spend a day without 'wasting' some time. (Unconstructed moments when 'anything' can happen.)4. Refusing to pine for what might have been or what will not be.. (Materially, emotionally, spiritually.)5. Refusing to regret being who I was or am. (Forgiving myself for being human, and therefore less than perfect.)
Can you please give me your best advice and opinion on how to deal with a issue I have at my 20 year restaurant job?
I have been an employee (an opening cook at a major restaurant chain) for 21 years and counting. I have been in this role there for about 16 of those 21 years. Over those years we have been near the top in sales and food cost, labor etc. some of the time. I have been in the same role even when a former manger won manager of the year in the district for having best numbers. However right now we have missed food cost (not by a whole lot ) the last 5 months or so. The district manager has brought in an experienced manger from another store temperolariy to show one of our managers what she needs to learn to help the restaurant make food cost. He is going after food quality etc. throwing many things away. I myself am very patient with the less expereniced cooks. (most have been there less then a year. All the mangers who have been there show respect towards me and usually have me fill out my production chart, make calls on things etc. some of them can be loud and mean to some of the other cooks . I feel this transfer manger has been going at me he uses a different tone to talk to me sometimes. He works at another store in the district who at the time is making there numbers but has not always been the case. All m co -workers and new hires that I train say things like I was the best trainer I ever had in a restaurant. To finalize this, I think I am trying to ask you how I can not let this guy make me feel less about myself. How do I not let it bother me?
Can you give me advice ;))?
I am 17 and I love to spend time with friends except my best friend isn't fortunate like me.. I live in a big house with a pool and have a big allowance ( I never ever rub that in anyones nose)! I love her like my sister but in school (I am homeschooled) she is with "the looser crowd" and I don't want to hang out with the populars even though that wouldn't be a problem for me because I have the potential. Now my problem.. I used go for one semester in that high school (where my bff goes) and I started home schooling because I don't like people treating each other like that and didn't want to have any drama and deal with people like that. Anyway I really really really like one guy in the class I used to go but he hangs out with the popular crowd and since I don't he kind of thinks of me as "low" as a looser you know? But I'm not because I have good clothes money and I am smart and I have a good personality and I want him to accept me for who I am but then again if I don't get into the popular crowd he wont notice me ... So what do you suggest I do? And PLEASE PLEASE don't say move on forget him I need actual advice on what to do ! I wont get near him threw my friend becuase he just doesn't hang out with her or her crowd and I don't really want to hang out with the "other girls" because I don't want anyone treating me like a piece of **** and putting me down constantly... sorry it's long and THANK YOU ♥♥
What is the best advice given before marriage, to you?
they provide the suggestion they suspect is the appropriate. that's in basic terms an opinion. not something extra. not something much less. Take all of it with a grain of salt. i became into not a virgin on my wedding ceremony evening. My husband became into. became into it fairly fairly worth the wait? No. The intercourse we had on our wedding ceremony evening became into poor. Even he permit you to understand that. It did not get extra useful for months (6+ or so). It became into an entire mistake for us to have married "untested". gaining knowledge of what worked for us became into not a bonding experience. It became into an excruciating ordeal. Now what i don't understand is the human beings telling different people who're already sexually lively to offer up having intercourse. Too previous due. That boat has set sail. scuffling with intercourse interior the midst of a relationship will do extra injury than good often talking. If my husband pronounced, "Babe, i such as you yet i don't choose to have intercourse lower back till April (Our anniversary is in April) so as that we are able to concentration on construction a extra advantageous psychological marriage particularly than a actual one." i think of if he pronounced this it would fairly be a deal breaker.
Can you give me advice for dealing with my insecurities in my relationship?
The insecurities are not in your relationship, they are in YOU. They have nothing to do with your bf. Imagine if you were totally secure and your bf, kept saying things like "you are going to find a better guy than me!" and he said that to you all the time, and acted as if he didnt deserve you. Wouldnt that get on your nerves? Wouldnt that get old? And yes, after time gores by, you'd think "wow this is a lot of work and annoying, and wtf already!!" Then yes, you'd eventually seek out another guy who IS secure with himself. Men always say, "well she was accusing me of someone else all the time, I thought I may as well make it worth it..." You need to work on yourself. Start with asking what you are so afraid of, and what's the worst that can happen. Then go to the Library and read self help books on this. DONT tell your bf what you are reading or learning about yourself. Men dont want to hear the details; they just want to know that its helping you. And the way to do show them that is to smile at them more, and STOP saying things like "your going to find another girl!" Good luck. P.s. You can do as the other poster suggested and "tell him exactly whats going on and how you feel" but if you keep addresssing that over & over and he doesnt know what else to do to make you secure, it's not on HIM.... its on YOU. That will just make him really uncomforatble, esp since he cant help you. He doesnt want to be "addressed" about something all the time if it's not anything he can help. Thats really frustrating for a man. Good luck.
There is a very very slim chance that you will end up marrying the person you are with or has a crush on. Especially in the age of Tinder. So don’t lose your time over heartbreaksStop killing yourself by constantly comparing yourself to those posers on Instagram and Snapchat. Be patient as a 16 year old. Don’t let anxiety get the better of you. The toxic Instagram/Snapchat culture is fooling young people into believing that they are a failure for not being famous or recognized by the time they are 25. You are not a failure. The culture is failing you.This is an age to shut up, keep you head down, and work your ass off! This is a common mistake that a lot of teenagers make – keep thinking about success instead of spending time doing shit. If you really want to be someone who matters in the world, then don’t waste your time thinking. Do something. Anything.If fame is the main goal why you are passionate about something then forget it. You are not going to make it too far. This is because you need to put in at least 10 years every single day to produce things that people will actually care about and pay money for. Only if you truly love your craft will you stick with it for 10 years without getting much social recognition for itHave a financial back up plan to support your passion project. Understand that your passion project is not going to pay your bills from day 1. So to sustain your endeavor to be world class in field of passion you need to have a plan to make money during this period.Surround yourself with people that inspire you and set a high benchmark for yourself. Often the number reason someone fails to become world class in what they want to do is because they hang out wasting their time with people who don’t have the same drive or ambition as them.Procrastinate lesser by finishing the most important tasks first thing in the morning rather than avoiding it till the last moment.Do not let anyone friggin shake your self esteem. Guard it with your life. And fuck all those who try to screw with it.Read, read, read like it’s your last day on earthTry to read and learn about productivity. The best way to improve is quantify your progress and track it all the timeHope this helps!Take a look at similar topic in the video below to get more dopeCheers.Jim, https://www.youtube.com/channel/...
Could you please give me some advice on a refinance of my mortgage? Details...?
I bought my home 14 months ago, it was a foreclosure, and we got a heck of a deal. It appraises at about $160,000 or $165,000 right now, and we paid $142,000 for it. Since it has only been 14 months, the principal is still at about $140,300. BUT...we are paying like $133 a month for PMI (Property Mortgage Insurance) since we don't have enough equity in the home at this point. We are also paying an interest rate of 6.75%. I really don't know how that compares to other people...but I didn't think it was all that great. So.....I was just calling around to a few different mortgage companies, and not hearing anything real intriguing until last Friday. I talked to a guy who said he could lower my mortgage payment by $60 a month, lower the interest rate to 6.35%, pay off $3000 worth of my student loans (which equates to about a $75 monthly savings), and we would get to skip 2 mortgage payments. Skipping those 2 mortgage payments would then allow me to pay off a laptop lease I have, which would save approximatley $90 per month. I would then have about $1500-2000 cash left (from skipping the 2nd month of mortage payment, and getting the remaining balance of my current escrow account), and I could save that, or pay another small student loan off. So...in the end, we could likely knock out close to $300 of monthly expenses, and have 3-4 less bills to send off every month. I really like that idea. He told me all of this, and I was pretty excited......UNTIL I saw that our new loan amount would be $152,000.... It's still under what the home appraises for, but I just kinda hate seeing it jump to over $150,000... I'm not sure how long we will be in this home, but I would guess at the VERY minimum, 5 more years, but who knows, we could be there for another 25. We haven't really put much thought into it. Can anyone lend some advice on this? I would appreciate hearing another opinion. ps- It would be refinancing a 30 year fixed, to another 30 year fixed. And I am 25 years old. Just throwing that out there.
We need to know the objectives of life.We need to know the success factors.We need to know the measures of success.It is not enough to know the guidelines of success, it is also necessary to know the risks of failure so that we can identify the risks and avoid the failures.God does not predetermine plans for us.God has delegated that task to us, it is up to us to be blessed or to be cursed.The guidelines of God as taught by all prophets are:‘Blessings for obedience and curses for disobedience’We should consider life as an important project; a project that we cannot afford to wait till the end to know our mistakes for it would be too late for correctionsA project that we should carry out successfully and accurately right from the startWe know that things are not improved automatically; when companies want to improve their business, they bring consultants to analyze the business and recommend the best systems, procedures and measures in order to improve business and increase profitsThe success of companies depends on the efforts to use good systems, to follow good procedures and to have good measures to evaluate the productivity and the qualityCan we apply such approach to improve our life?Here are some more answers with verses and teachingshttps://www.quora.com/How-do-we-...https://www.quora.com/What-makes...https://www.quora.com/How-can-I-...https://www.quora.com/Who-I-am-W...https://www.quora.com/How-can-we...https://www.quora.com/Is-eternal...