What should I do when I'm about to go to prison, maybe for a long time, and my parents are old?
It blows my mind how so many people on Quora just have an opinion they have to share without a damn clue.Listen... I've been to prison. I know what you are about to go through.Here's what I would do:1.) Ask the court to be located near your parents so it doesn't put a hardship on them to visit you. You're going to need them more than they are going to need you. It will be good for both of you that you get to see each other as often as possible.2.) Accept this fact: Your parents and possibly 3 others in your life will be there for you. Forget the rest. Spend as much time with your parents and the top 3 as possible before your surrender.3.) Accept this fact: Your life as you know it now is over. Prison will be the buffer between your current life and the new life you are going to start building.4.) Accept this fact: You will begin building your new life the day after you surrender. The first day you will cry and it's going to hurt.I don't care what you did to get yourself in this situation, we all make mistakes.Draw close to the people that truly love you and more importantly, draw close to GOD.You will get through this. How you get through it is up to you.Key advice once you're incarcerated:1.) Don't go to prison thinking you can still have your outside life—you can't.2.) As fast as possible, establish a routine. It will make your time fly.3.) Stay away from the gambling, drugs, alcohol, gangs, etc. Keep to yourself.4.) Not everyone in prison is guilty of what they were charged for, but believe me, we are all guilty of something. Don't trust anyone.5.) Spend time in the law library and help others with things like their GEDs/Reading/Etc. You will earn amazing loyalties that may protect you when you least expect it.6.) Don't count the days, hours, seconds, microseconds, picoseconds—it will drive you crazy.7.) You will make some friends. Just don't put your faith into them too easily.8.) Write to one person in your life every day. Stay positive.9.) Start building your plan for your new life once you're released. Execute what you can and schedule the rest.10.) Take good care of yourself physically, get plenty of exercise and watch what you eat.I don't have to write "Pray everyday" because believe me, you will do that one on your own.Good luck and if you have more questions, ask me and I'll be delighted to answer.
Can I get in trouble for talking to a prisoner?
That depends on if you knew who you were talking to, if you knew he had an illegal phone and what the topic was. If you knew you were talking to an inmate on an illegal cell phone, then yes you could very well expect a visit from a police agency with a ton of questions such as #1) Why were you talking to him #2) Did you supply him the phone #3) Do you know how he got the phone #4) How did he get your number (did you somehow get it to him) These are things that you will be asked, and if you in anyway had anything to do with the inmate having an illegal cell phone, you could find yourself with a trafficking charge which is a felony in most states. On the other hand, if he just called you as a random number and you were unaware who he was, then no, unless you accept anymore calls or you call him. And you would be better off to report him to the Prison just to remove any suspicion form you
Can you sleep all day in prison?
Yes. Well it depends on what the prison policy is. At the prison that I work for the inmates are allowed to sleep all day. But they can't be under a blanket. The only time we do wake them up is during count. When we do our rounds we only check to see if they're breathing normally.
Has anyone ever spent over a decade in prison? What was it like to be released?
Well, I didn't do the time, my husband did. He was in for 30 years. So I'll tell you what my observations were when he came back into society.He went to prison at 19 and was released at 50. So, culturally, he missed quite a bit. He couldn't believe all the people walking around with phones. Using an ATM card took some getting used to. He brought out a ton of prison lingo, which is fascinating somehow. He referred to our bedroom as our "cell" and our neighbour's homes as "their cells". Prison food is a strange concoction of foods from the kitchen and the commissary, and he still eats "breaks". They're basically Ramen noodles with things added to them to make a meal. My husband adds crushed cheese puffs, pickles and tuna. He loves to take baths and will walk up and down every aisle in a store and marvels at the things for sale. What was strangest was, we'd lay in bed on a Saturday morning and he'd say he had to go to the store. Later that day he'd walk past me, out the door, without saying a word. He'd come back with bags and put the groceries away and again not say a word. I would ask why he was upset and that confused him. He wasn't mad, and he told me he had to go to the store that day. We had to establish relationship etiquette so he'd say hello and goodbye and eventually it became natural to him.He still has dreams about prison, usually they're borderline nightmares. He is always scanning when we're in open areas - eyes darting around - always looking around for a threat. He gets concerned about his mom and I just doing something simple like going out to walk the dog. I believe he has (had) something like PTSD. He developed a very direct communication style which, once I got used to it, I learned to appreciate. Having a husband that spent time in prison is probably like having a pet pit bull. Some people believe all ex offenders are dangerous and some are. Some don't want anything to do with him. But some people are willing to look past labels and see the individual.In short, it's an experience.EDIT: I want to add, since this comes up, I did not wait 30 years for him. I married, and divorced, 2 other people, got an educating, and moved to other states while he was locked up.
Transfer title of a car, car owner is in prison?
My aunt is in prison, and soon will be deported out of the country. Is it possible for the title of her car to be transferred to myself with my aunt's permission? What are the steps we would need to take?
How long does it take a person to go from a jail to a prison?
In Texas, figure about 40 days to get from jail to prison. The state has to start paying the county to house you after 45 days, which is something they don't want to do. If you're ever stayed overnight at a jail, you know what intake is there. It's everything that happens from the time you first walk in the door and someone asks you if you have medical problems to the time you reach your bunk...fingerprints, mug shot, interview, etc. Intake for prison is a little different. You strip and change out of your jail uniform into a transport uniform, get chained up, and get on the van with any other women going to prison. They take you across state to the intake facility. Intake then takes a couple of weeks, after which you sit around waiting to get transferred to your permanent unit. The whole process takes about a month. In Texas, the first thing that happens is a strip search and property inventory...you get told what you can keep, what you have to send to relatives, and what gets thrown away. They inspect you head to toe and note all your scars and tattoos. You shower and dress, and go to a place called the "dog pound" (because it has open cells that resemble a giant dog pound). I think it's about 4 women to a cell. From there, it's just like checking into a jail...hurry up and wait, hurry up and wait...except that every time they take you out for something, they return you to your cell when you're done. During intake, you'll get complete medical and dental exams, various psychological tests, an IQ test, tests to see how much high school stuff you remember, etc. The idea is to see if you need any particular classes and such. Part of this is the Sociology I and Sociology II tests. They are the exact same test...questions about your crime, your family life, you history, how you get along with people. The difference is that during Sociology I, the questions are "straight"...they just ask, and you answer. During Sociology II, they try to push your buttons. Same questions, but they try to stress you out to see how you act under pressure. To pass Sociology II, just give the same answers, and don't lose your cool. After about a month in intake, you'll go to your assigned unit, where you'll spend most of your time. Near release, they may move you to another facility to do "pre-release classes".