How to deal with insecurity over his baby mama?
I am engaged to a man that has a son with another girl. And it drives me crazy that he had a child with her. I'm the kind of woman who believes that a man should only have a child with a woman he loves and at least plans to marry. The fact that she's in the picture makes me feel very insecure and paranoid. because even though he hates her and never loved her, i believe she is still not over him. they've been split for almost two years and a few months after she gets married and pregnant. and ever since she found out about me, she uses their son as a pawn to try and get between us. like telling him I'm a bad person and not to talk to me. also she does little things to try and get his attention like flirting and trying to catch him alone. he never notices. i trust him and we love each other very much but don't trust her at ALL. i have been nice, done everything and she still does this crap.also when we got together he still had mix tapes and pics of her. (He got rid of them, says he forgot they were there) i have been through a lot in life so already am paranoid in relationships even WITHOUT ppl involved. we are planning a wedding and baby ourselves and i am setting up marriage counseling. it just bothers me he has a child with her i feel it should have been just mine. i just want to know how to erase these insecurities we've talked about it but it doesn't seem to help me. he is worth it we love each other and he's amazing. i need advice from other women who dealt with this
Guy insecure about his looks (pics)?
I'm 19, getting ready to start college tomorrow. I've never kissed a girl, never been close. I'm not sure what it is, but for whatever reason, I have very low self esteem. I am very insecure about a lot of things, especially my looks. I'm getting into acting/theatre/drama, so I know I have to get over it eventually. I'd like to become an actor. But the fact that I have issues with girls leads me to believe I'm ugly. I'm somewhat of a shy person (especially around girls) and I don't know how to get over it. anyways, here are my pics: http://i13.photobucket.com/albums/a267/FsM_ArKiVe/Photo7.jpg http://i13.photobucket.com/albums/a267/FsM_ArKiVe/Photo11.jpg http://i13.photobucket.com/albums/a267/FsM_ArKiVe/Photo19.jpg If you guys don't mind, list your age.
Am I just insecure..??????
Who cares about how many picture's you're tagged in? Who cares how many people like your status? You shouldn't. Do you really think that's what's important? Do you want people to judge you by how many friends you have on Facebook, or by the content of your character? I don't understand the dilemma these days in seeming "uncool" just because you don't have 1,000+ friends on Facebook. These insignificant matters aren't going to shape who you are as a person--and you shouldn't let them. Will you be more successful in life because people tag you in pictures and like your status? No. These things shouldn't matter. You have to remember that everyone goes through this stage--the stage where you dress for other people, behave in a way that you believe is socially acceptable, and leave yourself vulnerable to influences from your peers. The thing you have to remember is, people are so busy being self-conscious about themselves, they'll hardly notice what you're up to. I guarantee that a good majority of the people are your school are going through the same thing. I'm sure you're not the only one who feels misplaced. Furthermore, please, don't let this bother you. These people you see with over 1,000 friends feed off attention and praise from others like parasites. What exactly does this social network consist of? People that post pictures with comments saying they look ugly just so that their friends can tell them otherwise. If it's so ugly, why did you post it? It's better to have a few real friends than a ridiculous number of "friends" on Facebook. My advice to you is to keep your personal life and emotions separate from any kind of social network. Do anything other than that, and you can and will end up getting hurt. Don't put feeling into something that really isn't worth it. Not everything that glitters is gold--things aren't always what they seem. Something that might appear valuable to begin with may turn out to be worthless, and you'll realize that what you sometimes see with your own eyes does not accurately represent the real substance of the matter. Try not to be be fooled by what you see. Don't lose yourself, but remind yourself of who you are.
How can I learn to smile for photos if I am very insecure about it?
I’ve always hated my smile on photos, until one day I understood that it wasn’t my real smile. It was a fake one. And actually, I have never seen my real smile before. Even when I smile into the mirror I use my fake smile. People can’t smile for real when they don’t see an actual reason for it – and who finds a camera funny?So, in order to show your real smile, you have make yourself smile/laugh for real.Last year my boyfriend took a couple of pictures of me at a lonely beach in Bulgaria. He also struggled to bring out my real smile (the one I don’t hate) so he used a little trick. Just before he started shooting, he told me something hilarious and unexpected, so I couldn’t help but laugh naturally. It was something like “Imagine your grandma dancing naked at the beach…”.It felt great smiling that way in front of the camera, the insecurity was gone, and the picture became one of my favourite ones and my best smiling picture ever:Depending on the reaction you want to get, you can say different things: “Imagine your grandparents having sex, right now.” Now, you’ll get a shocking look. Just like mine, when I heard that sentence.Tip from my boyfriend: Photographers often tell their models to stick out their tongue as far as they can. This, usually, cracks them up.Try it out – let your boyfriend take a couple of photos of you and use the techniques I told you about. Would be happy to see your pictures afterwards! :)
I'm 14 and i'm a insecure about my vagina,will the appearance of it still change or will it stay like this?
(don't send pictures to the guys -_-) Mine is like that too, sadly it doesn't change, and my boyfriend saw mine and said it looks perfect (lol vagina romance) xD so don't worry about yours, guys like any type of vagina ... As long as there is no diseases o___o but I'm pretty sure you don't have lmao. Best of luck ;) xooxoxoxoxooxxooxoxoxoxoxoxo gossip girl
Is it bad to get mad at your boyfriend for liking other female's pictures on Instagram?
This is how I feel about my boyfriend following girls and liking their pictures:You can do it.Liking pictures means nothing. Also the chances are low that the model he insta stalks likes him back are low.My boyfriend follows a ton of girls on social media and nude model accounts too. The girls on that have zero interest in him and probably don't know he exist. But another thing, I have him, they don't. He will like their photos and an hour later he will be hanging out with me laughing and smiling.
Why do i get insecure when guys look at me?
I think it's because when they look at you, you get self conscious because you think you're ugly. Which is the wrong thing to think in so many ways. 1st of all, you're insulting God, your parents(they made you) and yourself. I'm pretty damn sure that you're beautiful and you just need more confidence in yourself and that's why you feel that you're ugly. Try going to the mirror everyday and find one thing, just one thing that you like about your self or face. Each day go to that mirror and focus on that one thing and try finding more things you like about yourself until you're satisfied with everything. Try wearing a little makeup too that usually enhances your looks if you put it on the right way. But try to slowly gain confidence and get out of your shell a little bit. You are not ugly, okay?? :) Best of luck!!
My girlfriend gets mad when I like other girls' Instagram pictures. What should I tell her?
The truth. It isn't a difficult situation, in my opinion. Reprimanding or making her emotions seem invalid by stating its a matter of trust or her own insecurity is manipulative. Especially if you are liking posts by other women, that isn't a picture of food or their dog, but their scantily dressed beach bods, or a pic of a provocative outfit before a night out. If you aren't liking pictures that are unreasonable, then reiterating that fact, and having a collected conversation about you being willing to build trust, but unwilling to be irrationally controlled is valid. There are too many unknown circumstances though, to say she isn't justified. Whether it be exes in contact with you or “friends” that honestly dont exist in your life apart from social media, you need to decide which you value more. Its really simple to understand why someone wouldnt appreciate that though.
Lateley i've been extremly insecure and depressed.....help?
Don't worry! Everyone has some insecurity about themselves. The insecurities range from "I feel too skinny!" "Her haircut is better than mine!" to "I don't think my clothes match!" "I think my feet are too big." Remember that everyone has insecurities. And I'm glad you recognize what is a 'red flag' when it comes to insecure thoughts. And I think a great piece of advice is this: Don't focus on just being 'pretty.' Personality, Wit, Charm, Intelligence, Humor, Manners... etc. These are things that are often forgotten in the teenage years. Try and strike a balance, you'll find life a lot easier! Remember the lessons of the extremely beautiful Miss South Carolina: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lj3iNxZ8Dww