What is one incident in your life when you feel proud, sad and disgusted because of that incident?
I’ve stayed in boarding for 10 years now, currently doing my post graduation. Fortunate enough to have received education from the reputed institutes. My parents have always directed me to the thought that education is wealth.So one fine day, I come home after giving my final exam. Happy and joyful as ever. My maternal aunt comes to visit me, asking me about my well being. I answer to all her questions with zest. My parents join our conversation.Aunt : So what are your future plans?Me : Planning to take a year break. I want to experience the corporate world and then go ahead with my management course.Aunt : You still want to study? Don’t you feel you should get married now?Dad(intervening the conversation) : She wants to study ahead. We are more than happy on what she’s chosen.Aunt : You should get her married. She’s a girl. It’s obvious that you have to take a lot of debts for her upbringing. Education will not yield you any returns. You will take your entire life to repay your girl child’s loan.Me and my dad looked at each other astonished. We didn’t even take efforts to explain it to her. We realised that some things in life are better left unsaid.This one incident is stuck to my mind. The words she uttered that day has made me more clear in life.That very day I was proud that my parents were wise enough to trust me and let me choose my aim in life. I was proud that my aunt’s words were not a barrier in life.I was extremely sad on how a girl is treated as a misfortune and burden despite being successful in all the fields.It obviously felt disgusting as to how a woman could tell this to other woman who wanted nothing but to prosper in life.All such people with degrading minds, all I want to tell you is that, “we are given a life to grab the opportunity, not to seek your choices.”
If you dream repeatedly of your parents/siblings/friends/relatives death, what does that mean? What can you do to make these dreams go away?
Dreams are inexplicable sometimes. The conscious and subconscious mind constructs some visualizations based on the past and present life of yours and the way you want to see it in future, in your thoughts. Whatever you see in the dreams may or may not have any relation to reality, however various studies give various theories for the kind of dreams you possess and various reasons for it!The things that happen all throughout the day and few overlapped memories influence your dreams, sometimes its purely random and sometimes based on the things you were doing and thinking just before going to the bed.However i read the following possibilities of such dreams in an article i read somewhere.1If you find yourself talking to a dead in your dreams, this indicates that you are surrounded by people who are not compatible with you and this compatibility issue is causing a negative effect on your personality. This also symbolizes some kind of material loss and you need to get recovered from that loss as early as possible.2Dreams are an indication of what we are thinking. If you are constantly seeing a person who is recently died, this means that you miss that person and he had left some impact on your mind. It also indicates that you are adapting the problems similar to that of the person you are seeing in your dreams.3Usually you use dreams as a channel to talk to those people who are gone such as parents. The fear of losing a person also leads you to this path. These dreams may also mean that you are trying to understand their death.4Seeing dead siblings indicates that you miss the fun and time spent with them. You select dreams for reliving those experiences.5Parents who have lost their child in any incident dream of that child might mean that they want to keep their child through their thoughts and want to see him grow up in their dreams.6If you see a person dying who is already dead, then this is an indication that you miss that person on some special occasion which is related to that person such as birthday, anniversary, etc.
My friend said she saw my boyfriend hugging another girl at the mall..what should I do?
My friend said she saw my boyfriend hugging another girl at the mall..what should I do? My friend said she went to the mall..She said she saw my boyfriend hugging a girl that she didn't know and didn't go to our school. I went to his house and I slapped him across the face. He asked me what my problem was and I told him sarcastically "like you don't know!" He said, "no I don't know what the hell is wrong with you or what the hell has gotten into you. Did a bug crawl up your ****?" I pushed him away, and left. Why does he act so clueless?
What incident of your life changed you completely or your view towards people, in a good or bad way?
“Never expect anything from others.Expectation hurts d most.”I am pouring my heart out today.i am sharing u one of my experience that changed my views towards life.INCIDENTI had a friend with whom i had a very affamable equation.slowly he became my bestie (i think it was in 10th std).then we gave entrance exam of dav school and i got selected.i went to another school yet our friendsip continued.then the time came to leave for college .i got selected in nit jsr and he rvce bangalore(one of d top colleges).we promised that we will be in contact no matter what happens.Its been 1 yr of college life and i have realized dat he has changed a lot.i always used to call him but he never did.i always used to remember our long talks on phone but he never did. He would not pick up my calls.he never called me back.i had thought that we will travel the world together.But this seem far from reality.a silence has crept into our friendship.its really dishartening to see how people change.“no body will remain with u in ur bad times but ur parents will.No body will want u to be successful but ur parents will.No body will sacrifice for u but ur parents will.”
What do I do if my dad denies ever having molesting me?
I'm 22 years old and today I confronted my dad for the first time in the 11 years since he molested me. I remember the incident like it was yesterday and I am 100 percent sure that it happened. I just never knew how to deal with it. I told him today and he looked incredulous. He told my mom and she was incredulous too. My dad and I have always been really close but there have been incidents of anger that he has taken out on me in a very inappropriate way. But nobody in my family admits any of it. They just pretend like it never happens. And for this particular incident, I remember being in my brother's room sitting down on a beanbag chair and my dad grinding his private area against mine. My brother was there. I saw him see it. But he didn't say anything. My dad didn't say anything. So I didn't say anything. I didn't know what to say. So I confront my dad 11 years later and my dad vehemently denies doing this and my mom is saying that he is "heartbroken". My mom has a tendency to gossip alot so in fearing that she is going to broadcast this situation to our entire family. I know that I will have no allies because my dad has spent my entire life being the doting father. Everyone sees it. In public he is the quintessential loving father. But behind closed doors he has flashes of a completely different man. I am just afraid now because I KNOW that I will have NO allies to turn to. My brother who witnessed it will NEVER admit that he did. I have a feeling that this situation is going to backfire on me in the worst way when all I wanted was closure from it. What do I do?
Is there any incident in your life that taught you a very important lesson?
NEVER LIE TO ANYONE, SPECIALLY TO YOUR PARENTS.This incident occured in 2012 when I was in 10th grade. It was around mid of Januray and the boards were after a month. I told my parents that I am going to my coaching and that day I bunked my coaching classes and went to play snooker with my 2–3 friends. That day my coaching sir called up at my home and told that your son is absent today and inquired about my being on leave. My mother told the tutor that he told he is going to tution as i told them this. The sir denied telling he didnt show up today and informed about all to my mother. My everyday coaching was from 2pm to 5pm, so I went at home at 5:15–5:30(not remembering the exact time) not knowing about the situation at home(that my coaching sir called and all the truth is known by my parents).As I walked in, my mother offered me a cup of tea and talked with me very politely and asked me what I learned today in coaching. I told her this topic and all that i leart (knowing she doesnt know) . She was like Okay. And i thought everything was fine. She went in the kitchen and got a stick and started to hit me. First 5 minutes i was furious at her saying why are you hitting me. She said tell me the truth where had you been since 3 hours bunking the coaching. She told me the whole scenario about the sir calling and was very furious. I was very afraid at that time and told the truth where I went. She was angry and beat up for a more time. She got tears in her eyes and was bit tensed. I was crying and making my mother tell that I would not do such a thing in future, I promise and tried to make her calm.She wiped the tears and calmly explained me that if u didnt want to go coaching,you should have told me. And then had gone to play snooker or watever you had to do.That day i learnt a important lesson on telling you the truth and do not hide anything from your parents.But the fact is we lie in our day to day life. But we should try to be transparent as much as we can.The photo explains all in one.