Teen refuses to go to school. What to do?
He sounds very depressed. Did something in his life change before the anger and depression started? He needs an outlet for all his anger, maybe a physical sport, or a punching bag in his room, or anything the two of you can think of to give him an outlet for the anger he carries around. The reason you and your daughter get so much anger is because your "safe". He know that no matter how angry he gets at you, you'll always love him and be there for him because your his family !! As for not getting up for school, that's depression, is he on any medications? Taking away his T.V. and musical instruments might seem like a good idea, the whole it's a privilege and if you don't behave you don't get it. I understand where that comes from but hes depressed and having trouble getting up and being motivated, taking away all the things he enjoys and make him happy, is only going to further his depression and make it harder to go to school !! You have to fix whatever issue is making him depressed, not just take all his stuff away. When my depression is at it's wost it literally feels like climbing a mountain just to get out of bed in the morning. Stop looking at your son as some "bad kid" who gets mad at you and won't go to school. He's an emotionally damaged person who needs your love support and understanding. I hope you take my words to heart. I wish someone had of gave my mom this advice when I was 14 because she handled everything so wrong !!
My child refuses to go to school. Help!?
My 6 year old daughter is generally a happy, kind and compliant little girl until it comes time for school. While she tolerates school when she's there, she hates the thought of going and often outright refuses to go. Last year it became so bad that I ended up pulling her out on recommendation of a councilor. This woman said that since Kindergarten is not mandatory we should take her out and try again for grade 1 when she would be more ready to attend. At home, I successfully homeschooled her so that she would be more prepared for the next year. Now, one year later, my daughter is refusing to go again. She becomes hysterical if we force her (kicking and screaming) and it is traumatic for everyone. I have a young son and a baby to care for who are not in school but must accompany us for the drive down to the school. I am at the point now where I refuse to forcefully make her attend for this reason. My husband and I have spoken to her teacher and the principal about the situation but there is nothing we can see that is causing her difficulties at school (bullies etc.). When we ask her, my daughter cannot provide a reason for not wanting to go. We are at our wits end. She is normally very agreeable and we never have these battles around any other activity. I am considering home-schooling her again if this continues. Could anyone offer any relevant suggestions or advice on this matter?
Does Schools have the right to refuse childrens needs?
Schools can refuse a student's right to go to the restroom, within reason. Many schools (mine included) have policies where a student is not allowed to use the restroom within 15 minutes of the start or end of class. This is to cut down on the number of students who might otherwise hang around in the halls during those crucial minutes, all under the pretense of using the bathroom. Of course, if a student has a documented medical condition that makes it absolutely necessary for them to use the bathroom whenever they need to, the teachers must allow them to do so. The bathroom rule is easy enough to understand. Any teacher knows that just because a kid asks to go to the bathroom, that doesn't mean they REALLY have to use the bathroom. If we allowed every kid to use the bathroom whenever they say they have to go, we'd have a constant stream of kids walking out the door. It's good to have some control over that. Now the lunch issue...that's something different. As far as I know (and I'm no legal expert), I believe that each child HAS to be given an opportunity to eat if that child is in school during normal lunch hours. I THINK it is against the law to prohibit a child from eating lunch, although I know there are teachers who do it. If a child chooses not to eat, that's one thing, but I as a teacher cannot and will not keep a student from eating lunch. So it really just depends. I hope that helps. Good luck!
What can be done if a parent refuses to enroll child in school?
My cousin is married, but separated from her husband. She lives in Michigan with their youngest daughter. He lives in Pennsylvania with their oldest daughter. They have been separated for almost 5 years now I think. Their daughter has been with him for about 3 years. To make a long story as short as I can: they got together, moved to Pennsylvania where all his family lives, got married, had their first kid, she got pregnant again, he went to jail, they separated and she moved back to Michigan with their daughter. He was ok with the separation and her moving back. Afrer he got out of jail He asked if his daughter could come visit for the summer and never returned her. My cousin had her 2nd child by this time and wasnt financially stable enough to support both children. She agreed to let her daughter stay for the time being. Now it has been 3 years and he doesn't let her have any contact with her daughter. She gets a phone call once every couple months if she's lucky. And she just recently found out that her husband pulled their daughter out of school last october (she was a 1st grader) and hasn't re-enrolled her yet. She is 7 and should be in the second grade by now. She's been out of school for over a year now. Could anyone give me some advice on what my cousin should do? Thanks.
What should I do if my 15 year old daughter refuses to go to school?
First of all you should not become panic or make it a big issue.your daughter is in adolescent stage sometimes mood swings & behavioural problems are commen in this phase of life, so be patient with your daughter.second thing if she don't want to go school , & study them ask her that why she don't want to go school if there is a pressure to perform better which scares her or she has certain fear from teachers ,if there are any such issues ,they can be resolved .After knowing all these things it will be easier to understand her problem,and if she simply don't like to study at all then don't force her for that . you just gradually make her understand that she is in 9th standard so it is only one more year to complete her 10th class, and also you should discuss with her that there are so many vocational courses like theatre dance, music cooking interior designing fine arts etc which one she likes ,just let her go and encourage her.More over make her understand that it is very important for everyone to be financially independent and have some goals in their lives .It is my belief that it is not necessary that a child should study only medical, non medical or commerce for being successful in his or her life so give her some time to think over it,many a times patience pay a lot . One more thing ,encourage her to make some friends because for normal development of a person , it is necessary to have at least one friend so that she can vent out her emotions & also besides giving her company they may give her good suggestion New ideas & sometimes motivation too. I am sure your daughter will definitely find her way. ,.you as a parent , be more patient & sensitive rewards her take right decision for her future , without obssesing about higher degrees or taking other's advice, just be with her & support her. One more thing I like to suggest that don't humiliate or give frustrated or sarcastic remarks ,deal this situation with utmost care.
Child with special needs in my classroom, however parent refuses to realise her child has special needs?
First off, the school I work at is a private English preschool in Japan, so many of the rules that would apply to the US or public insitutions would not pertain here. Our school does not have a main principal or any special institution to deal with problem behavior. I am just wondering if anyone would have a clue as to what problems this boy may have. I have a 4 year old boy in my class of 11 children who from day one has needed lots of care and attention. His parents claim it is because he is "spoiled" at home and not used to a social environment, however I am convinced he has other problems. Some of the problems he has include; Has a hard time speaking his own native language (Japanese/Korean) and only repeats after other children or the teacher most of the time. Not able to follow a routine smoothly after 4 months of being in class. Cannot chew or swallow his food properly and needs constant supervision while eating. Will make himself throw up if put under pressure.
13 year old daughter refuses to go to school?
It is physically difficult to get her to do anything. She starts busting the walls threatening us and she just yells me down so much that I just loose the mental ability to stay firm. Also, she uses a lot of profanity such as F***, B**** and C*nt. She says its normal and that everyone her age and everyone on TV is doing it. She also says that we only mind it when she says it to us and not other times. It is getting very frustrating dealing with her as she just continues to abuse us and there is nothing that we can do about it. If we tell her to stop, take away her electronics, she takes her bike and runs away. I don't know what to do anymore. Thanks, Moria