Loneliness and depression in college?
SAME HERE! :D OMG! I LOVED YOUR STORY! i have the same story too! i feel you. i have been through a lot in my life, also and i have cried inside and out, whether it was to myself or out to people. And i got stronger when i had to deal or cope with every situation or circumstance i had to face. Facing the world myself, basically. I know if was tough, but i still did it, even though i wasn't perfect, but i tried my best. my mother and father always gave my the best advice that i would never forget....ever in my entire life.:) I will always be there for you too. :) GOOD LUCK with your life! :D
Depressed before college even starts?
It's normal to feel homesick and nervous. Just give it a chance. Once you meet new people and start your busy schedule you'll be fine. This is all new, but it will be one of the most rewarding times of your life. A time that when you look back you'll actually miss it at times. Collage is the first step of becoming an independent person. So hold on to your hat and enjoy the ride. Take care and don't give up!
How to cope with pre-college depression and extreme case of nostalgia?
This is a major step for you and your development as a human. Several young individuals feel the same way. You have invested so much time and energy into the city, your relationship with your mother, etc. it is only understandable that you would feel sad to leave it all behind. Because in essence, it is your old 'self' that you are leaving behind. The shows you watch, the music you listen to, your belongings... You have attached so much value to all those things. There is no true remedy. Nothing anyone says or does will make you feel less saddened by leaving. Remember, you can always be in touch with your mother. You can always call, write, email, or use video chat. Express your feelings to your mother but be tactful about it. Tell her that you are going to miss her very much. Ask her if she has ever been homesick and tell her you are concerned that your grades might suffer IF you get homesick. There are several things you can do to help ease your mind. If you have any close friends in the area, get their contact info and give them a call when you get to college. Read your local newspaper every morning. Build a support group from home that you can depend on while abroad. You can set up meetings with the school counselors if necessary. Hold your head up. The first 2 months could seem unbearable. But you WILL fall into a routine and develop meaningful relationships if you are willing to try. Believe in yourself.
Sad/nervous/depressed to go to college? Help?
I'm a current high school senior living in NYC. I've sent off all of my thirteen applications to colleges, and won't learn for a couple months where I've been accepted/rejected. I have good grades, etc. and am confident I will be accepted somewhere "good," but I am very sad, every single day, when I think about leaving. I love my parents, love my brother, and love my home...the idea of leaving behind the life I have led for 18 years makes me extremely sad. I do not know what I will study/pursue in college and I am not interested or excited about any of it––learning, meeting friends, living away from my parents, etc. I have never cared about independence from my parents, although I realize living separately from them is part of being an adult. I want to go to college so I can make a good living and be an educated adult, but I am, on some level, dreading it, and the college application process has been difficult for me partially as a result of this. I realize, lastly, that I am EXTREMELY fortunate. My parents are wonderful and i have had the privilege of attending a highly-regarded, rigorous high school. I know that many people do not have the chance to attend college. So I am lucky, and I recognize that. Regardless, I am sad. The thing I enjoy most in the world––a quiet movie night with my parents––will no longer be with me. I have struggled with depression throughout high school, and knowing that the things i enjoy most will not be available to me makes me cry.
Depressed college student with boring life?
Lately I've been feeling alone and sad (past few months). It's a Friday night and I was out with some girls but I chose to come back home and now I am sitting at home contemplating my life. I have one "close" friend, but she has so many other close friends and people that like her so it almost makes me feel not very close to her. I have a few other “friends” (I'm in a sorority), but lately I am just feeling like nobody likes me that much or takes me very seriously. My mom is the only person I feel like that cares about me. I feel like I just have this boring life watching everyone else live exciting lives and have good things happen to them. I recently deactivated my facebook because I was sick of seeing how awesome everyone’s lives are and how sh*tty mine is. I just feel lost, alone, and like my life has no purpose. I see everyone studying abroad and on all these fun trips or having BF/GF's. and I have none of that. I know it's not good to compare your life to other people but it seems like my life is at a decline, not just a "stand still". I'm trying not to take for granted the fact that I am lucky enough that my parents can afford college and things I need, but at the same time I find it so hard to avoid feeling like my life sucks and that I have nothing to live for. I’m not suicidal, but I’m worried that if things don't get better I might become that way. I don't want to take medicine I am just wondering if there's anything I can do to "make my life better"? I’m taking a class this summer and might apply to a Master's program after I graduate to become an Anesthesiology Assistant, but I am having doubts. What if I don't get in? What if I can't stay in? What if it's too stressful? Is this what I really want? Yeah, they make a lot of money and that is what I've always wanted, but is it worth it? I am just wondering if anyone else feels or has felt this way and how they got over it. I know it’s kind of subjective but, how can I make my life less boring? I feel like it's too late to start a new hobby nor is there anything I really think I'm interested in…
I just moved into college and I feel the most depressed I've ever been. What can I do?
In 2013 I moved into my brother’s apartment where I was given a tiny living space and an inflatable mattress to sleep on. For the next 2 years, I would be going to college.I was going into pre-med, so I had classes like molecular biology and chemistry. I dopped those before they even started. And then I decided I didn’t know what I was going to do.Fast forward a year and I was living with my other brother. He had a bigger apartment, but it was a 1 bedroom, so I slept on the couch. The couch turned into a bed, so it wasn’t too bad.At the same time I was working two jobs, which began before the buses—my only means to get around town—started running, so I had to wake up at 4:00 AM and walk to work in my uniform.I remember walking to Starbucks and seeing a beer bottle get thrown into the street. The kid saw me and thought I was a cop and ran inside. I minus well had been a cop, I felt hardened inside like I wasn’t one of them. I felt like my college experience was work, not play.After getting kicked out of my brother’s apartment I had to find a new place to live. So I went on Craigslist and found a tiny closet to live in.This closet was inside a fraternity, so as long as I didn’t go into my room, I had a decent place to live.I continued to work two jobs, take overload hours, and live in a closet while walking several miles to get groceries, both ways.To be honest with you, I think many students are depressed in college. I think it’s easy to think everyone is having fun but you’re not. I think we all lie to ourselves that college was worth it, because how else can we rationalize how much we spent?If I were you, which I’m not, I would probably do the same thing I did when I was in college. Work hard, don’t give in to the judgment of other people, and pursue what interests you. I didn’t want to party, I didn’t want to make friends, and I didn’t want debt. So I studied hard, sat in my room alone, and stayed out of debt by working two jobs and living frugally.It definitely hurt to see students with cars—sports cars, new models, or even scooters. They were ripped—totally in shape. I felt like they must be living the life. Maybe they were.What can you do when you feel the most depressed you’ve ever been? I think this is a question we all face at one point or another, and for each of us, there is a different solution.Think back to when you were a kid and remember what makes you happy, and do that—do that as much as you can.
Why does school depress me?
in short, excuse my language, because school fucking sucks.we wake up freakishly early. as teenagers, our brains are literally not ready to think at 7 am. our circadian rhythms are different than adults and little kids, which is why we stay up late and sleep in. We aren't LAZY, we sleep the same amount, we just do it at a different time. But for school, we are forced to wake up, when our brains are being programmed to sleep more.We sit in our chairs and listen to someone talk at us for 7 hours straight. What ISNT depressing about that? We’ve had the same school system since the industrial revolution, where kids were basically taught to go into factories. Luckily theres more research coming out about hands-on-learning and stuff like that.after suffering through the day, we come home, sit at another desk, and do more work for three more hours. We already spent so much time learning stuff, and now we have to do more. Its exhausting, and its impractical.On top of the physical and academic hardships, we have to deal with the ridiculous amounts of social problems and drama. In high school this improves significantly from middle school, but god if it isn't still there. Our adolescent minds want one thing - acceptance from our peers. even us “weird” kids want that. People stress about who likes who, who’s friends with who, do enough people like them. and that is horrible in its own right.School is a terrible system. Learning is fantastic, and I love it, but our current school system is so fucked that instead it literally gives us all clinical depression.
A little sad and depressed, high school?
well im starting to feel really bad about myself. im in high school, a junior and im 16. ive just gotten really depressed lately because i always felt like all through my high school years i didnt have much of a social life. i was never involved in many activities simply because i was afraid i was going to join a club alone and be by myself since most people join with their friends.all i heard in the beg. of high school was get involved get involved, i should have listened. i didnt have many in 8th grade either, but before that i did. i got bullied in jr high so maybe thats why because i became so shy and it was hard for me to trust people again. i mean ive gone to school dances, football games and stuff but i still feel like my social life is nonexistent, and i feel like this will affect me for the rest of my life. and i feel like ive missed out on my high school years because of this and i always have a fear that people will ask me in the future what things i was involved in and who i was in high school.i have good grades right now and im doing a million times better than last year and im happy about that but i talked to my dad about it and he said well you have your whole life to be involved in activities but the years in high school that you have to get good grades and get into college you will never get back. i mean i agree with him and he said he wasnt involved much in high school either but its just making me so sad and i have a job now and i feel liket hats all i do, just go to school and work, nothing else. i shouldnt be feeling like my life is over because i am only 16. this sounds rediculous but ive even been having suicidal thoughts because of this because i feel like i cant turn my life around, like ive already screwed it up or something. i also fear of never getting a boyfriend in the future because of my nonexistent soical life in high school. i also fear that its going to be the same in college and people will still have high school friends and i wont.
Is it normal to get really depressed after graduating college?
I think is is perfectly understandable you are feeling this way, whilst in education you are somewhat shielded from the ups and downs of life and what it holds. You are now at a crossroads and need to make the choice in which direction your life is going. Don't use your friends lives at a measure of success, getting married and home ownership will come along by itself, your main priority is getting a job that you will enjoy and excel in. You may think your degree is useless, but it is not. Not everybody goes into a profession that matches their degree. Obtaining a bachelors degree instills commitment, follow-through and an inherent sense of accomplishment. The degree is not about what you know, but rather always knowing you have the skills to figure anything out, the strength and patience to persevere, and the discipline needed to make solutions happen. I have a BSc in Applied Mathematics, MSc in Economics and Finance and a PhD in Mathematics yet I work as an Archaeologist, go figure.
How do I stop being sad/depressed and accept myself as a loner in college?
Let's start with the idea that being a loner is adding to your feelings of sadness/depression. It's also likely that your demeanor of being sad and lonely is putting some people at a distance. Thus we have a circular, self-reinforcing situation. If you truly want to be a loner and like being solitary, then it shouldn't make you sad. Since that doesn't seem to be the case, perhaps the way to address this is to stop being a loner. Unless your appearance is hideous, you have awful hygiene, or you're a completely nasty person, chances are you can meet people who enjoy your company. Is social anxiety getting in the way? Are you very judgmental of yourself, and therefore of others and find them lacking? There are ways to overcome social anxiety and learn how to positively engage other people. You can get coaching/therapy on this, or you can experiment on your own.Start by being nicer. There's a lot of suffering in the world, and many people feel battered by life, even just their day-to-day life of going to school or going to work. You may be surprised at the response you get simply by being kind and generous. It can start with something as simple as holding a door open for someone. Look for opportunities to help and be beneficial to others. Their appreciation will in turn help open you up. Talk to people. It doesn't have to be deep conversation. Give compliments. If a fellow student is doing something interesting, ask them about what they're doing. Most people enjoy sharing their enthusiasms. Make a commitment to not eat alone. This means engaging with others, even strangers. Be kinder to yourself. I suspect you have lots of positive qualities that others would enjoy. Don't hide these. It takes some vulnerability but allow others to see you and appreciate you.Don't settle for being a loner. Connections to other people are what truly define our lives.