18 and no direction in my life?
Im 18 and just graduated from high school this last year and have no idea what i want to do with my life..... I am working in a gas station right now but thats definitely not what i want to do with my life although i enjoy it..... what should i do? Any help would be appreciated as this is kinda starting to stress me out
I'm not sure what to do with my life?
This is not a depression note. It is a note of confusion. At this stage in my high school career (senior) I have no idea what I want to do. I fear that I will never decide on an occupation that suits me. I fear there is no job out there that I can ever be truly passionate about. Is this true? Will I always be just a hard-working stiff? This is not the only problem I am having. I live in a very religous community. However, despite all the tugs and pulls of the christian baptist extremists of which some of whom I call friends, I have not developed the same radical ideals as they. The only thing is, Im not quite sure what my own beliefs consist of. And what's worse, I dont know how to come up with my own. I know it sounds easy, but I can never decide upon certain issues to decide where I stand. How can I come up with them? Thank you for taking the time to help me with this. I truly appreciate it.
What does two arrows going in different directions tattoo mean?
Not sure, but I think it means this... "An arrow can only be shot by pulling it backward. So when life is dragging you back with difficulties, it means it’s going to launch you into something great. So just focus, and keep aiming."
I am 28 I don't know what to do in life, what to do?
Your background and problem is similar to mine in some respe 'so At 28 I felt as you do. It was esxasperating. I had to do something. Anything, but do something. So, unable to make a logical, sensible decision because nothing inspired any passion and it was all getting so overwhelming, with all the expectations people had of me I decided to do something perfectly crazy, random, illogical etc and live with the outcome. Just to ease the agony of uncertainty and indecision. To shut my mother up with her endless questions about when I was ever going to “settle down", I married the first guy who asked me. No prior dates before the wedding, 10 years my junior, no uni education , poor etc etc. It was a success. Then I would take the first job I was offered. Anything at all. And just work it all out somehow. Well, I landed in this highly technical work place building aircraft, sitting in front of a computer when I had no idea how to even switch it on and everything was coded etc, for military security etc reasons. Not exactly what I was trained for. The manager came up to me and told me he was so glad he had managed to get me because, being a linguist I could figure out how the system worked because everybody else had a nervous breakdown trying, vbecause it is a very responsible job, blah, blah, blah… I felt like running away because he seemed so confident about my abilities. But I knew I didn't have a clue. But I was in there and somehow, I had to figure it all out and make the system work for him and solve his problems. I finally did get it all figured out, up and running, though it tested my communication skills to the extreme limits and nearly drove me insane, too. I felt so proud I could go where others dare not and do what others dared not.. I ran into some former arts uni colleagues who nearly died of shock when they heard what sort of work I was doing…. “But, but, you studied languages… And you were one of the top Honours grads…. How come you end up making aeroplanes, working with technical mumbo jumbo stuff, machines and stuff… That's for engineers and the likes…” they commented. I shrugged my shoulders and said “Arts grads can't pick and coose. Or maybe they can, if they are flexible and adaptable enough. I couldn't decide so I took the first job that came along and I got to explore a completely new world and I learned so much from this experience, though it was so hard… “
I'm 30, depressed, unemployed, have no fun in life and basically can't stop thinking life will be over soon. Since 30 is really a grown up age - what is your best advice about what to do with my life?
I am sorry if this sounds simple. But sitting here at nearly 60, still coping with the depression I had before I was a teen I suggest this:The most important thing you can do is work to expand your social network. Find the friends who can tolerate someone that has ‘down’ days or weeks or months. There are people that are okay if you aren’t cheerful. But, you do have something to offer!I don’t know much about you. But I do know that one of the biggest problems a depressed person can have is loneliness. It means that what few interests you have are more likely to be shared with some who you know and trust.I speak from some experience. I wish I had been able to keep up my social network over the past few decades. Even though I have friends I have had for 50+ years with many I have known for 30+ years, many have moved on in life and I am only in touch via social media. Other health issues other than the depression and anxiety that I suffer were a handicap. I couldn’t keep getting out to be with my friends and I couldn’t keep making new friends.HOWEVER! I am trying new things. I joined a writer’s group. I made 5 good friends through it. They are also invaluable when it comes to proofreading my writing.It can be done! Even at nearly 60.When I was 30, I think I wish someone would have pushed me a bit more to maintaining my social networks.If you have those social networks, then being able to build trade and employment networks will become second nature to you. You will be able to stretch what skills you have and make use of them. You will know how to walk up to a potential employer and say, “Hello. Are you hiring?” Potentially followed up with, “Do you know of anyone that might be hiring?”Good luck! Coping with long term depression isn’t easy, but it is possible. It is easier with the help of your friends!