Very confusing unrequited love situation... im being selfish and i hate it?
Sorry to say this, but there is no way to get over jealousy. The only way to not be jealous is to stop liking both of them, and as you know, you can't just shut your feelings off at will. I am in a similar situation myself - I'm in love with a straight friend who is in a relationship. She knows I have feelings for her, and as a result tries to restrain herself from bringing up her relationship with her b/f with me cause she doesn't want to hurt my feelings. It helps somewhat, but it doesn't make me completely forget. I still know when she's with him from her status updates on different social networking sites and such even when she doesn't tell me directly about her plans, and so the jealousy and pain is still there. My first instinct when this situation arose was to stay away from her and try to forget about her, but that quickly proved to be a bad idea. Avoiding her didn't make me forget, and as much as jealousy drives me insane, not talking to her at all drove me even crazier. Plus the jealousy didn't go away while I avoided her either. It seems when it comes to unrequited love, it's a lose-lose situation. :( But I realized as much as I hurt watching her love someone else, I hurt even more not having her in my life at all. So, the only thing I can think of to suggest is to tell your friends how they're making you feel (or at least your guy friend). If they respect you, they should make an effort not bring up their possible blossoming romance with you, and also restrain themselves from flirting in front of you. Also I recommend avoiding situations where you hang out or chat with them both at the same time. Chat/hang with them individually instead. The jealousy won't go away completely, but at least not seeing them together may help ease the pain a little. I wish I could be of more help.
The most confusing situation ever....?
k so there are two guys at work. one we'll call m and the other c. so i like c even though he's not the cutest, he's really sweet, and i like his personality. i just met this guy m and he seems like your stereotypical jerk, but he's super cute and funny, and i love his confidence. m flirts with me a lot but then when we hang out with my other coworker (k) he completely ignores me and flirts with her, a ton (and right in front of me). does he or doesn't he like me? also there is an age difference. i'm 16 he's 18 and she's 17. does he just flirt with me cause he's bored or something? how should i act when m flirts with k? should i just forget m, and stick with c? how can i make myself stand out to m, as an attractive, mature girl?
How can I trust my boyfriend in a confusing situation?
Recently I and my boyfriend have had a fight, it all started when I purposely searched for his ex girlfriend IG account. I also snooped into his phone a few times ago trying to find something fishy about her. He concluded that I didn’t trust him and we are almost done at the moment. But the whole point is my belief has been shaken terribly, I want to get over this emotional crisis. When we first started dating, he wasn’t being straight forward about his former relationship, I only knew he had a 5 year old son (there’s a funny story about this, when I asked how many children he had, he answered 2 then corrected himself saying that he only had 1, I mean how could you don’t remember exactly how many babies that you have?). Time went by, we only met a few times during months because we were in a LDR, he stayed contact with his ex almost everyday when he was far away, I got suspicious because of the way they talked to each other, so I decided to sneaked into his phone, I found out he wrote her saying that he loved and missed her and he was checking out on their babies, we immediately got into a big fight, but he reassured me there was nothing between them and it was all for the boy, at this time I still knew nothing about he might have had another smaller one. And recently, after I found and saw pictures of his ex girlfriend, it seems to me she is living with him and they have two kids, all the pictures have background at his house and he is also there in a few ones. But he still insists that he doesn’t have kidS, there’s nothing between them and that I made things up all by myself because I have too much free time so I could over think, he said he had no energy to explain and had no reason to convince me. I have always trusted him as a decent man and respected him a whole lot, considering that I’m much younger than him. I never did anything wrong to him and I was dead serious about this relationship, we even planned to live together. I have decided to leave, but I’m not sure if it was a right thing to do
What is most confusing situation in your life till now?
To begin with not to boost much I would like to give you a brief idea about my life till date:Since kindergarten I use to secure first position in my class.I am currently at one of the prestigious institutions of India that is, DTU(formerly DCE) and I am currently Rank 1 in my department and as I choose to describe I am not exactly the geek nerdy type person.I have been offered internship at Samsung Bangalore as SDI in my 2nd year of study only and have received a pre-internship offer for next year as well.But the problem or as i would like to describe it a tragedy I myself had chosen this option though I have no inclination towards studies. I always aspired to be a singer or an orator but the sense of security led me to chase this current path. And right now being a role model for my younger siblings and a reason of pride for my parents I am not sure that should I really follow my passion or should i continue my life as it is now. It is not my parents who forced me to be an engineer but now i am not brave enough change my life goals but surely want to!!
What should we do if we are confused between two things?
As I repeatedly mention in my other posts, we have two types of personalities one being our intelligence and the other being our desirous.Since both the personalities operate in different and independent domains, we perceive two ideas for the same input .Since the second personality is based on desire, we need to be careful and vigilant about the thoughts generated by the same.As we get older, we are supposed to unify these personalities into a single personality to get rid of duality.Till we reach that level if unification of our two personalities, we can just follow the following thumb rules to select the right input between the two inputs we perceive :Input that provides permanent resultsInput that is not injurious to us as well as othersInput that provides constructive outputInput that gives us peace rather then pleasureInput that provides us knowledge to upgrade our wisdomKindly go through my other postings that are related to Mind so that you can get a better idea about dealing with it.In case you need any further clarification, please don't hesitate to get in touch with me.
I am unable to take any decision and get confused every time. What should I do to improve my decision taking ability?
This is a very common problem and you are not the only one facing it. We have all felt this problem.Here are some of the most important factors you should take into consideration before coming to a final decision.Is the decision you are taking going to affect another person in any way? If not, this makes the decision taking process easier. Now you only have to think about yourself.Now its only about you. So how to make a smart decision? Well, as it happens, more often than not, its not the decision taking ability that fails us, its this thinking "Is this really the right decision"? When your mind is tasked with taking a decision, it automatically begins to anaylse all the variables involved. And then the logical part of your brain comes to the best decision taking into consideration all the ramifications of your decision. So far, no problem.The problem arises after you have already reached a decision. You now know the best route to take. But you can't convince your mind that its actually the best route. Its this "convincing" that you should work on.I suggest what I call the "No regret method". Stop thinking about the things that could have been. Instead focus on what you have chosen. Whenever in doubt, just remember that you took the best decision you possibly could at that time. No need to reflect on it any further.Someone rightly said " Think twice before taking any action, but dont think thrice".And yes, if your decision has repercussion for other people, its best to consult them all before arriving at any final decision.Hope this helps. :-)
What is the best thing to say in stressful situations?
Well, first of all, stress is not what happens to us. It's our response to what happens.Just because we're in a stressful situation doesn't mean that we have to get stressed out. You may be in the storm. The key is, don't let the storm get in you.Whenever you're in stress, always remember that, Your current situation is not your final destination.Nothing is permanent. Don't stress yourself too much because no matter what how bad the situation is… It will change.The next time you feel slightly uncomfortable with the pressure in your life, remember, “No pressure, no diamonds.” Pressure is a part of SUCCESS.So, my friend, the best way to manage stress is,AVOID unnecessary stress.ALTER the situation.ADAPT to the stressor.ACCEPT the things you can't change.Above all, a simple SMILE can reduce stress.That's it.~Breathe and Smile[math]\huge\color{green}{\ddot \smile}[/math]
Confusing Algebra Problem (9th grade)?
Half life equations are written in the form: I = ie^(-at) where I is the amount remaining after t periods and i is the initial amount at t=0 You determine the constant a for I-131 by knowing that at t=8 I=i/2 This gives you the equation: 0.50=e^-a(8) now you solve for a using logs ln0.5=-8alne = -8a = -0.693 ==> a=0.0866 Essentially, you remember 0.693 (ln 0.5) and divide by the half-life to get a So now you have: I=14e^-0.0866(24) = 14e^-2.079 = 14(2.718)^-2.079 = 8.95mCi Pretty tough for the ninth grade!