Help! MY 3 year old is CONSTANTLY Lying.. even making up violent stories!?
My 3 year old is lying, ALL the time, often making up violent lies...? She is 3 and almost EVERYTHING she says seems to be a lie anymore. I know children at that age will make stuff up and lie, but I am getting concerned over the fact it constant, and often disturbing... My 5 year old went through a stage of making stuff up but it was about games and things he did with his toys. She is making up stories to the point of saying the dog scratch on her forehead is from her daddy kicking her in the face with boots on... absolutely obscured! Not only would he never do that, but I watch the dog scratch her on accident while trying to get out from underneath her when she jumped on him… She did this in a hair salon and the ladies next to us almost feel out of her chair! I very quickly corrected her, but she insisted he kicked her and even got up and demonstrated what he did… heartbreaking… She most recently hid the fish food and refused to tell me where because she said she didn’t like the fish and wanted them to die. She also has made up a fake “princess school” she claims to go to (She stays home with her father since he works night and I work days) it was cute at first, but I reminded her often it wasn’t real though. She’s now telling people her teacher throws her down the stairs and against walls!!!! I have to then quickly explain to them it is a made up school. She has told my mother in law (her grandma) that her belly hurts because I punch her… It is extremely upsetting because when you try to correct the lie, she insists it’s the truth. We don’t even spank her I am scared to death the wrong person is going to hear her lies and child protective services will take her… Any suggestions?? Should I take her to a psychologist?? How long does this stage last?
My 14 year old daughter has had constant head and stomach aches for the past 4 years. She often misses school. What can I do to help her?
Rather than telling you how to make her better, since you said she has already seen medical personel, I would like to suggest ways to help with missing school and having catchup work.The first thing to address is wether the subject material is something she struggles with, or if there is any other reason why she might be slower at completing work than the average student (for example dyslexia or slow brain procession). This is primarily so you can help her learn the concepts and receive support to get up to average speed, but also if she is eligible for extra time teachers will be more lenient with deadlines. It makes a huge difference when you have lots of work overdue.Secondly, make sure you have a productive, comfortable studying enviroment at home. This includes removing distractions such as books, phones ect. (Make exeptions for when access to the internet is required). It is very hard to catchup work if you can hear your family talking in the background.Make family events or excursions optional wherever possible, and make sure she is aware of any. I have often handed work in late because of an unforeseen family event, it's just frustrating when you're trying really hard to get it in on time.Help her with study skills. As she will be doing a lot of catchup work, learning quickly and efficiently is crucial.try to boost self esteem when it comes to learning. There are plenty of studies proving self esteem plays a big part of achieving well.If she is off school but feels well enough to do work, encourage that. In a day I was too ill to be in school I wrote several essays and caught up with 8 hours worth of homework. But I stress ONLY IF SHE FEELS UP TO IT. For Obvious reasons.Finally, support her independence and make sure she doesnt spend her entire life doing catchup work. That sucks and will mess with emotional development ect.Hope that helped
My boyfriends daughter is a constant trouble maker,she steals,lies,hits others etc...she is 11 is it to late?
Sounds like your boyfriend needs to be more involved in his daughters life, and less time in a relationship. I know this is not your fault, men always feel like they need to be with someone, or need someone to take care of them. He needs to spend as much one on one time w/her as possible. She is begging for his attention. If this was your boyfriend asking the question, I would tell him to keep her on a short leash (not literally). He should be her leader, telling her what she is to be doing, using that firm deep dad voice. He should set out rules of what he expects of her, write them down, make sure she understands them, then post them up on the wall where she can see them. When she breaks them he should send her to her room, come in with the rule list and make sure she understands which rule she broke. Next, he needs to have a consequence in place. These should be taking favorite possessions away (ipod, tv time), time on her bed, grounding, and for serious offences such as lying, steeling, cussing, hitting... a good old fashioned spanking. She is not near to old for a good spanking. Mind you I don't mean a few swats, I am talking about a spanking right out of the 50s pants/underwear down over the lap for a good long time. I have a 10 year old daughter who I would have no problem spanking if required. He should take back his daddy power now before (like you said) its to late. Once there in high school forget it, your not going to get much results spanking them at that age, nor would I even try. For you I would step back from the situation, and the relationship. Unless he takes charge of her now, she will only get worse. And even if you two end up getting married, I don't think you should play a role with punishing her. Dad needs to be doing that. Best of luck to you
Should you punish your 8-year-old for consistently lying or do you keep reinforcing the consequences of being a liar?
If your parenting merhod is about punishment, I understand why your 8 year old is lying.If my parents punished me instead of teaching me and discussing right and wrong, I would also lie about everything to avoid punishment.I have never lied to my mom. Because I knew that no matter how bad I'd behave or what accidents that happened; I could trust that she would help me doing better next time and making it right, instead of just hurting me.So I actually agree with the other answers:Psychologist visits for the whole family might help. You can discuss how you can gain trust in the family and stop hurting each other.
A continuous line of charge lies along the x axis extending from x = +x_0 to positive infinity?
It's infinite. This problem is best tackled using Gauss' Law and a Gaussian surface of a cylinder, centred at the x-axis. I don't know if you know how to do this or not, but it's a lot for me to explain...so here's a link: http://webphysics.davidson.edu/physlet_r... Giving the equation: E = 2kl/r which of course approaches infinity as our point in question approaches the origin.
How do you handle an 11-year-old who won't stop lying? His lies range from little obvious untruths, to things like whether he turned in the homework.
If you know he is lying, you are really saying he is doing something wrong, yes? What do you do when he does something wrong?Many parents today do not hit or spank but instead, take away something he likes. It may be tv time, video time… Add in admitting or owning up to his lie and being accountable for his words. You would be amazed at how many adults cannot admit they lied and apologize for it - not even little ones! Teach the children how to be better. Own up and apologize! Do better than the adults punishing you. Present company excluded, of course.
So my ex wife decided to tell our 8 year old that Santa is not real how do i convince her otherwise?
Who does that? Is it really our 9 year olds fault that she has no f*cking Christmas spirit? So she told her that Santa is not real and that parents bring the gifts at night for the kids. She drops her off at my place and i asked her if she had written up her list of things she wanted and she started crying and said that i lied to her and that mommy told her Santa is not real. I was shocked, what next? There's no tooth fairy? the Easter bunny is a lie? just strip her of her childhood. I know its silly but i want my kid to experience all of that stuff. Is there no coming back? Or can i find a way to convince her that he is real? I need to keep my ex wife away from our 4 year old. she's a dream killer
My 47 year old mother won't leave my father despite his cheating and constant verbal abuse because she's afraid of being alone. Thinking she's too old to start over, what advice can I pass on to her?
Take her places to socialize: church, groups where she might fit in, to visit a friend with you and the friend’s mother, a nice park,. What are her interests? That might help you think of other things she might enjoy.When you get a bit closer to convincing her to leave I strongly recommend a boardinghouse for the elderly. I live in a great one with appropriate food (special food for this vegetarian), rooms at several price ranges, from single room shared by two people, to two room apartments big enough for comfortably inviting friends without sitting on the bed. And activities ranging from exercise, games, church services, socials and more. I have made many great friends here, supported by activites, meals, excursions, and just sitting in the lobby. She can also do things in her room. Besides my IPad, which is a treasure, I have a stereo, piano, some books, old scrapbooks, photos on the wall, and a very small kitchen that I rarely use. There are pictures my daughter (good) ant me (bad) painted in an activity here. I have a phone in my room so I can call out whenever I want to. To me is a perfect solution, and you may be able to do this without him being able to find her unless you think she will try to contact him herself.I recommend you check it out. And here I go to breakfast, made, served, and cleaned up by — NOT ME!