Should I continue to ignore my sister?
I am a 17 year old girl and my sister is 21 years old (let's call her A). We had a (verbal) fight 3 days ago. I didn't care much about the fight, I wasn't upset or anything. That was until I heard my other big sister (22 years old - let's call her J) and my 21 yr old sister b*tching about me. I wasn't eavesdropping but I was walking by her room and I just heard my name. I didn't want to listen anymore but I was compelled to stay there a bit longer. It hurt to hear what they were saying about me, it really did. I thought J wasn't two-faced, I thought she liked me better than my other sister did. I guess I was wrong, but what pissed me off most was the patronizing tone J spoke to me with (after she realized I wasn't going to speak to her). So, I went to the bathroom and cried until I felt better, then wrote in my diary because I hate speaking about my feelings. They both helped... BUT I caught J digging around for my diary the next morning. I was FUMING. I kicked her out of the room and haven't spoken to her or A since then (which was two days ago). Yesterday, A saw me outside the tube station. She smiled at me and came over to say "hi" and "where are you going". I looked around me as though she was speaking to someone else and just gave her one of those polite smiles strangers give each other. She felt embarrassed and just walked away. I felt a little bit bad about what I did but I think she deserved it. That's not where it's going to end, this is just the beginning. She asked for it. I would have appreciated it if they both had the decency to say all those nasty things about me to my face and not behind me back. It would hurt but it's the right thing to do. I have a lot of dirt on her and I'm going to use it to blackmail her. She may be older than me but she had better not underestimate me. I don't know whether I should continue to ignore them (because we live under the same roof and all) or speak to her and try to find out more about what she's been hiding? I feel like such a b*tch for doing this but at least then I'll have something else occupying my mind instead of hiding indoors and being depressed for weeks. Yes, I am hurt but I will not let myself become depressed this time. I have a tendency to become depressed about the smallest of things - these bouts of depression last for weeks and I don't like it one bit.
My husband is very short with me lately should I ignore him for a couple days?
I think you are right. He has forgotten your worth, value, and who you are. Let him miss you for a minute. The reality is that you are maximizing your relationship. Men are created to pursue anyway...it's not your responsibility to maintain a mans desire and want for you. On the other hand, he is at war in another country. Therefore, you arent' in front of him. Men are visual people and they already conversate half of what women do. So, he is probably all conversated out. You definitely need to let him miss you. Don't resort to the old female manipulation of starting poop just to get words out of him. You are worth more than that. Your conversation is too valuable to sell it short for made up nuisances. Just find something to do all day and at night because it sounds like the emails are meeting more of your needs than his. You are supposed to meet his needs, right. Apprently he doesn't need emails. So, let him know this. (not in a rude way though). He has probably stated how he misses you, etc. and any and everything else is a repeat and it's redundant. The one thing we as women have to understand is that men are SOOOO SIMPLE...REALLY. When you go beyond the norm - it becomes work to them. So, let him pursue you, let him miss you...see how you feel. **LESS HARSH STRATEGY...email him, but keep it short. Email him some jokes and funny forwards. Don't conversate with him and give him 10 paragraphs about how much you miss everyday. Maintain contact but don't require the converstation. See how he responds to that. (you don't want to accused of cheating or punishing him or being manipulative...that's another argument yall don't need)
What is making my husband ignore me! He is so stressed BUT i feel very unloved by him?
I talked to him this past weekend and told him how i feel and his reply was i'm not doing that and yes i do love you baby! We have been married for 14 1/2 yrs and have 4 children. He works nights and stays tired and stressed. I do all i can for him to make his day better. I don't ask him to do anything for the kids, etc. I massage his feet and back for him on the weekends and we have sex daily but he doesn't give me the respect i feel i deserve. I know sometimes you can get caught up in daily life and forget and don't acknowledge that you are doing something but he seems so short tempered with me and the kids lately and just yells all the time. Please someone tell me what i can do or say to try to make him understand how he is making me feel so unworthy! He works hard for us but i just want to scream, I NEED ATTENTION OTHER THAN SEX!!!
How can I confront my husband's ex-wife, who won't stop trying to make our lives impossible?
It's not just your husbands place to talk to her. I'm so sick of people telling married women to mind their own business when it comes to the ex. If there are children involved YOU have every right to say how you feel. You are now this child's step-mother, you have a responsibility because this is the life you chose when you married him. I am a step-mother and it's the hardest thing I've ever had to do in my life. It has shown me how to be confident & strong. My husbands ex is a nightmare as well and believe me, I speak my mind to her. If my husband don't like it, well he can speak up and do something about it but he won't. If your husband is not willing to stop the madness then step in and do your part. Just don't ever, ever, say or do anything negative to this women around her child. Try talking to her like adults, tell her she is driving you guys crazy and it's a hard enough situation as it is and her being immature about it is only making things worse on everyone, including her son. If you ask me the only person who needs to stay out of it is your mother in law.
Ex keeps texting me. Should I continue to ignore him?
We've been broken up for 4 months now. He treated me like crap. I feel really bad ignoring him, because I really cared about him and it is his fault we are no longer together because he didn't care about me enough to work things out. there was a point where our relationship could have been mended, but he chose to ignore me and walk away instead of face me to discuss things and try to work them out. so far he has tried to contact me twice. i'm still not over him and i still feel very hurt. i am convinced that this is just an ego boost for him. he started to contact me because i bumped into him on the street, and i completely ignored him and walked away when he tried to speak to me. i feel really bad for ignoring him, but i know it would be a bad idea to give in to him - i just KNOW that he will treat me like crap again. so should i continue to ignore him? at what point should i tell him off? if he contacts me a third time? what should i even say? and why do i have such mixed emotions about it? like i still feel hurt and angry and i wanna cry, but at the same time i miss him, but i know this would forever be a bad idea. and never ever in my entire life have i taken back an ex, and i don't plan on changing that now.
A married man (former friend) calls me "peaches" and continues to talk about our past...?
even though we live 5,000 miles apart from each other. i am happily married, he is married. i will find messages on IM, phone calls, text msgs, etc, from him, and although they do not contain innapropriate material, it concerns me. i am fine w/ it. i love my husband and nothing could get in the way of that. but is it healthy for HIM? he talks bad about his marriage, calls me "peaches", and only talks about us hanging out in the past. i do know that he used to love me in a romantic way, but it was not reciprocal. i hate to do this, but should i cut off the friendship? i refuse to be a barrier between another man and his wife, even if i am unwittingly doing so, and mean no harm by talking to him.