Does my mother have narcissistic personality disorder?
Sounds like a total nut. Self absorbed and narcissistic and obviously has no idea how to communicate with her children.
Could my mother have undiagnosed borderline personality disorder?
I can only speculate on this question and I am certain you understand why. That said your best bet is to look at the list of symptoms and see if you think that her behavior appears to line up with the list. However seeing that you are not a qualified professional you are unable to diagnose anyone with a personality disorder. So in that regard there is nothing you can do. There is something you can do to help yourself. If you are an adult you can try your best to establish healthy boundaries. My mother was diagnosed many years ago and blew it off saying that the doctor was crazy. I tried for decades to establish boundaries for myself and my children like not putting up with her ranting and raving. If she started in on me I would hang up the phone or leave the premises if it was in person and similar boundaries for her manipulation and other unacceptable behaviors. At the end of the day none of that worked because she always found away around it and would blast me anyway. So several years ago I went no contact and that was that. Now I know your asking yourself why would I suggest you do something that didn’t work for me? The answer is simple she is your mother and I wouldn’t cut somebody loose with at least trying to develop a healthier relationship first. The one thing I would like to offer as a warning is if you approach your mother to discuss this without a qualified healthcare professional you will likely find yourself in a shitstorm of epic proportions. Untreated Borderlines can be merciless in their retaliation. You can also seek counseling for yourself to help you deal with this situation. I hope this helps and I wish you the best of luck.Sincerely,Hank Tahelluride
If not Borderline Personality disorder, then what?
My 22 year old niece flies into uncontrollable rages when interacting with her mom, (my sis) but does not have many of the traits usually associated with BPD like fear of abandonment etc. She just treats her mother horrible and downgrades her terribly, really mean. I think she has some kind of disorder, what else could it be?
Is it possible for a person with Borderline Personality Disorder to have a functioning relationship?
It depends. There are many variations of BPD. The fact that you accept you have BPD makes it highly more likely that you can work your way to a functional and consistent relationship, but it will take therapy, and a very understanding partner. I was in a nearly 9 year marriage with a severe BPD, who had issues with abandonment, trust, self-esteem, etc., but the big barrier was that she did not accept that there was anything wrong with her. That's why BPDs are so hard to treat, because their self-esteem is often so low that they can't accept there's a problem with them, because that's an attack on what little self-esteem they have left. As I said, the fact that you acknowledge you have issues that could be a problem puts you way ahead of the pack. Everyone has issues of some kind, but BPD issues usually keep BPDs from accepting help. So, yes, if you are willing to work on it, you can get there. Hope for the best and keep trying.
What does a mom with borderline personality disorder look like?
Hi, my name is Kimbriana. The included image is what a mother, with BPD, looks like.I don't think I look much like the succubus as pwBPD are commonly referred to. LOLI don't think I look terrifying, or, shielded. I don't think I look like an identity/energy thief. I don't think I look like I have BPD at all. Funny, isn't it? I don't know if you can tell either. Is there a tattoo on my forehead, only visible in black light?I am a mother. I have at times struggled with not inflicting my emotional angst on my son. I've had to work to better myself so I could be an effective parent. I have also made sure my son is in therapy.Why? Because, I was committed to making absolutely sure that the abuse cycle I was born into, and was perpetuated on me, ended with me. That, and, due to the abuse cycle, I was emotionally stunted. I had to learn to grow up emotionally, while also trying to BE a parent. I made a lot of mistakes. While I am proud, really proud, that I spared my son the agony I experienced, I am aware that my lack of emotional boundaries and extreme emotions had an effect. I am responsible for raising a WHOLE person, despite the fact that I am not one myself. At the age of 19, so far, I think my son has done an amazing job of discerning his emotional IQ.While I know my son loves me, I also understand that due to my disorder, and the way I behaved in the past, has him keeping me at arm's length. It is something I have to accept, as a consequence for my behavior. Time will tell if my whole person son will ever have a whole person mom. What I hope he does see, is this; despite my deep flaws, despite having to grow up emotionally alongside him I never quit trying to be better, for myself, so I could be a better parent for him.I am a mom, who, also, is a pwBPD. I don't know if you can SEE that. I couldn't see it for myself for years. But what I hope people do see is a lovely person, with a warm, genuine, smile. That's who I see. I may not feel that way about me, but that's the work that remains for me to do. I feel, and think I did a good job raising my son. Now, let's see if I can finish the job of raising myself.
I need treatment info on covert narcissistic personality disorder(and borderline personality disorder)?
I was diagnosed with a severe case of both. I am self aware and want to change and get better. it feels so impossible:( I have a 2 year old and want to be a good,loving mom. not the monster that I am. apparently the kind of narcissism that I have is covert narcissism. can anyone explain if and how I can recover from these? apparently,according to personality disorder expert Dr Sam vanken, a personality disorder causes you to create coping mechanisms by protecting your true self with a false self. the false self is very dysfunctional,destructive,and terrible. he said that your true self "dies"....he is usually spot on with every single thing he says about personality disorders and he says because of your personality being altered and your true self dying, it is impossible to treat a personality disorder...you justt have to accept it. he said narcissists should never have any custody of kids.I wanna know if anyone else has any other answers. thanks! I need some hope. facts,not opinIon