What do I tell my 12 year old daughter? She wants to know why I change from pantyhose to stockings at night.?
If she is 12, I'm sorry to say in today's world, right or wrong; she probably knows lots more about what is going on than you even want to think about. I think you need to confront her with the "found" stockings and ask her why she has them, and what she was doing with them? Don't let her give you any lip about being in her room. Why are you cleaning her room anyway????At 12 years of age, she needs to be learning to take care of her own room...are you her maid??? What else is she hiding??? I don't mean to sound harsh, but you have to be the adult here, and make her realize that although all teenagers think that they are all-knowing....we even did when we were younger...although we probably don't like to admit it- THEY ARE NOT ALL KNOWING UNTIL THEY ARE EIGHTEEN OR whatever the age of adulthood is where you live. YOU are NOT OVERREACTING !!!! You are the parent, please do not be one of the wimpy parents of today that want to be friends first, although if is fine to have friendship as part of the relationship with your child you have to be the adult first, even though all of us have had times where we would rather pretend we don't have to be the adult. There is a small chance that she was just admiring them, thought that they looked good on you, and wanted to try them on out of curiosity...if this were true, would she have "hidden" them under the bed??? I doubt it, we generally hid things when we don't want others to know about it. You should definitely get your husband in on this discussion also, so he can back you up and say that you two are adults, and are married to each other and have a good sex life (I'm sure you have had the talk with her, by this age) and sometimes dressing up with stockings is part of that sex life. If you do not discuss this information with her she will find it elsewhere, I cannot believe some of the things I see discussed in this forum at times, considering this is supposed to be a "family friendly" site. Wouldn't you rather she learn from you and your husband, rather than a friend or a book or a website etc.? Hope this helps, I did not mean to sound harsh, but I think you probably already knew what you had to do; and just needed someone to give you a bit of a nudge in the right direction. Talk to her ASAP, and you will all feel better about it. Good luck to you and Have a Good Night!!
How would you react if your 16-year-old daughter got pregnant?
Three weeks ago My wife sent me a text while I was at the supermarket asking me to get a pregnancy test for our 15 year old daughter as she was saying that she was late for her period. We thought that she had her dates wrong as she told us that she had not had unprotected sex.I brought the test home and gave it to my daughter, telling her to do it when her younger siblings were not around. a little later our daughter called my wife from the bathroom. As my wife was on the telephone I went instead and knocked on the door. When I entered my daughter just pointed at the test, a very clear two lines confirmed that she was indeed pregnant.My reaction was shock at first but, then I went into autopilot. My wife and I sat down with our daughter and asked her how she felt about it and what she wanted to do next. We didn't get angry and we made it clear that whatever she wanted to do we would support her. My daughter said that she definitely would not have an abortion and that she wanted to keep the baby. We spoke to her about the stigma that she would face and the issues her boyfriend might face with the police with her being underage.Three weeks later I am still in shock and not sure of what the future holds but, I am sure that whatever happens, both my wife and myself will support our daughter and her boyfriend throughout the pregnancy and beyond.EDIT: To answer a concern that has been raised in the comments. My daughter and her boyfriend have met with the authorities and there will be no charges. With their ages being very close and my daughter being very close to 16 it was judged to not be in the interest of any parties to prosecute. Here in the UK due to her being over 13 the charge would not have been rape but would have been the lesser charge of sexual activity with a child.Also as to why we left the overall decision on keeping the baby to her is because it is her body and her life that will be most affected. Also a friend of mine growing up got pregnant at 14 and was forced to have an abortion by her parents and I saw how badly she was affected for the next few years until we eventually lost touch.
Do you think most teen couples have sex? I thought most did... but apparently a lot of couples don't?
I'm also eighteen, and save one or two all of the couples (of age 16+) I know have regular sex, regular in this case being at least two times a week. Some people have higher libidos than others and like sex daily, others are happy with once a week, others have no interest in it whatsoever. Whatever your attitude, embrace it and don't question it. My boyfriend and I average about three times a week, but we do plenty of other stuff together and are perfectly secure in our relationship. If having sex multiple times daily is what's best for your relationship, fair enough, as long as you're both happy!
How can I convince my mom to let me stay home during my period?
My period is so freaking heavy that I have to change at LEAST once an hour-and in addition to the thick pad I wear I fold up about 6 Kleenex for extra coverage. I have an hour and 20 minute long busride both ways and I have about a 9 hour long school day (I go to a magnet school in a different part of the state, I'm not making this up). In the past I have feigned sick, but last month my mom figured out what I was doing and told me to suck it up because it would t happen again and I'm thinking of making myself throw up in the morning so I don't have to go to school? I have no way of getting tampons before school because I have to leave the hous at five forty five in the morning and I am at a complete loss and won't be able to sleep tonight PLEASE HELP ME IM FREAKING OUT!!!
How does sertraline (generic zoloft) work for anxiety and panic?
In English: Seratonin is a "chemical" in the brain that is responsable for a sense of well-being and helps regulate sleep. In your brain, these chemicals are released, float around for a bit, and then re-absorbed by the brain. It is while the chemical is "floating around" that you feel the effects of it (well-being, calmness). If your body re-absorbs the chemical, seratonin, too fast you may feel anxious and have a sense of feeling anxiety or non-well-being. What Zoloft does is it prevents your brain from re-absorbing seratonin too fast so you can feel the effects. I take it and it seemed to help a lot with my anxiety but didnt change my personality at all. Hence the reason it is called a SSRI: Selective Seratonin Reuptake Inhibitor