Is this abuse? :/ my boyfriend leaves me bruises?
my boyfriend likes to play around alot, but sometimes i get the impression hes not playing around.. he pinches my arms alot and now i have a bruise on my chest from him pinching me.. also he pretends to choke me but hes pushing kinda hard so my neck is red.. i tell him to stop and that hes hurting me so he laughs and then kisses me and says hes playing.. im kinda scared to get him mad because i dont know how he'll act,.. is this abuse? or how it starts?? please dont say "break up with him" its not that easy... any advice on how to talk to him about it?
I woke up with my boyfriend having sex with me.?
Im 17 and he is 21. We have been together for two years now, before anyone says anything. Hes my first seriouse boyfriend and i lost my virginity with him and im finding it a stuggle to get out. He doesnt hit me, but he does bruise me by throwing me about and grabbing me when we argue. The first time it happend, i woke up when he was pulling my bottoms down, and the other day we were stopping over at my friends and i woke up, with him on top of me and my bottoms around my ankles. I pushed him off and said what you doing, and he just grunted and we argued and he was saying he cant help what he did in his sleep, but i know he wasnt asleep cause i felt him doing other stuff to me aswell, when we were arguing he grabbed me by my neck and put me in a headlock i screamed for my friend and after that, we havent spoken about that night. But i feel quite violated and insecure around him now. I dont really know if its normal for someone to try have sex with someone while they are asleep. He was trying to snog me aswell and put his tounge in my mouth while i was asleep. We dont live together.
I'm scared of my daughter's boyfriend?
Hello, I would first like to say that this is a completely serious situation. I am a happy single father of a beautiful 16 year old daughter. I've always been overly protective and try to scare all of her little boyfriends as I am a big guy myself, 6'2 and pretty muscular. All of the other guys she has gone for are these tiny scrawny kids I have no problem scaring off, which I know sounds bad but these boys don't treat my daughter right. My daughter said she was going to have her boyfriend over for dinner and I thought it would be another skinny runt. When this boy showed up at the door I was shocked, this 17 year old was 6'8 and was jacked, he showed up in a tank top. This kid looked like Goliath. Throughout dinner he was very polite and kind but after dinner I tried to have a talk with him in the garage, try and scare him. After saying a few borderline threatening things, the kid looks down at me and says, Haha sir you don't scare me one bit. He's an MMA fighter and our family went to one of his fights and he knocked the other guy, that was the same size as meout in the first round. This kid is scary and since then I feel like my authority has lowered due to the fact that I am fearful of him, I feel like I can't have any control over them and he is starting to take over my masculinity. What should I do about this situation, he is very kind and polite but uses his size against my authority. My daughter is 4'11 and this kid is 6'8. I have no idea what to do in this situation.
How do I get over the fear of my parents dying?
Thanks for the A2A!I can totally relate to this as I've spent a lot of time crying over this as a kid - it used to freak me out to think I'll be all alone in this world one day as I don't have siblings.Like most of the answers have already mentioned, there is nothing much that we can do about it other than accepting the fact. Remember that you are not alone, we all will lose our parents some day. I've seen my parents losing theirs - it hurts a lot but they did cope up with the loss. One has to move on in life, there are other responsibilities to be fulfilled as there are others dependent on your existence. Here are some things you can do when your mind is flooded with such thoughts:Value their presence at the moment. Avoid thinking of the future, nobody has seen it. Give them lots of love today so that you have no regrets tomorrow. Listen to what they have to say, give them a hug!Try meditation or reading some of the ancient scriptures - most of the religions talk about detachment. It is definitely easier to preach than to practice but reading such things brings (temporary) solace to mind. Take care of their health - see to it that they are leading a healthy lifestyle. Help them in getting rid of bad habits, if they have any. That way, you'll get to keep them with you a little longer.Resolve conflicts with them as soon as possible. There will be differences of opinion but wasting time sulking over them or not resolving them due to ego-related issues is foolishness. Our time is limited, you don't want to waste it by indulging in meaningless activities. Remember that wonderful vacation you had with them or the perfect birthday party they threw on your first birthday and try to recreate the magic now so that you can hang on to these lovely memories later on.As a child, remain empathetic towards the changes going on in your parents’ lives as they age. As hard as it is for us to face the realities of aging, it’s a process our parents are living with every day.Life events such as illness, death of friends and loved ones can take a heavy toll on a person’s well-being. Make sure they’re feeling okay.Be positive and strong - they taught you that, don't let it go down the drain!" Goodbyes make you think. They make you realize what you've had, what you lost and what you took for granted. So appreciate what you have before it becomes what you had. "
My bf hurt me taking his anger out during sex. I want to talk about it without playing the victim or making it into a big deal. How?
My bf has a temper and usually when he gets angry he just yells and occasionally throws things. The last time we got into an argument he broke my phone and I told him that, that kind of thing would have to stop. Well everything was fine but the other day he didn't like that I had been in the library with some guy working on a group project. He yelled for a bit before saying we should just drop it So we did drop it but I knew he was still angry. Next thing I know he wants to have sex and I figured he was just trying to get his mind off of the anger. Everything started off normal but he started being rougher than usual. At first I didn't mind but it started to get worse and worse that it was becoming all pain no pleasure I told him to slow down but he wasn't listening. So I finally just told him to stop because he was hurting me. He told me to shut up and kept going until he was finished. He apologized when he saw that I wanted to cry (more because I was scared than hurt). He said he didn't think it was actually hurting me that badly since I didnt try to push him away I know some people are into rough or angry sex and its pretty normal for people to do. But I do feel a little weird about it since he didnt really listen when I told him to stop. I think he may have been trying to find another way to get rid of his anger. I don't want to make it into a huge deal if he doesn't see it as a big deal but I also want to let him know not to do it again. How can I talk about?