Can I have constructive criticism on my short story?
I know this will sound strange, but thank you to those who are being harsh. Its a good harsh, though. The kind that helps. That "constructive criticism" part. And to who ever kept ranting about the "adopted father" bit- adopted father means HE adopted HER, not that he himself was adopted. Oh, and I am a young teen. I only could (by Yahoo! rules) get my account this year.
Am I an a**hole or a constructive critic?
I struggle with this question very much because I honestly think that what I criticize has some sort of positive value to it. I never criticize somebody out of spite or negative feeling towards them. As Nietzsche says “The man of knowledge must be able to not only to love his enemies but hate his friends” Which means that we ought to play devils advocate and not take anything in too passively. For example, I would criticize somebody who is anti-social and see the weaknesses of the person’s character but I would see the flaws of the flashy narcissistic who cant live without attention from others. Both have their flaws. I might not like Hillary Clinton, but perhaps she can be a wonderful person to go to a museum with. I certainly know that the Clintons are strong art admirers. I may judge a friend because he is being too workaholic, but likewise reprimand the lazy friend who is shy and insecure. Very very few people see this motive in me. They think Im just an a**hole when I say something about someone or something. For example I have judged adult couples who go to Disney World/Land because perhaps they never truly matured. But then again, I’ll criticize the stuffy traditional couple who have no sense of fun and spontaneity. In short, I see pros and cons everywhere
Why can't my son take any kind of constructive criticism?
My son is 14 and I cannot tell him anything is wrong with his looks. He always answers back "I don't want to hear it". For instance, he started getting some stretch marks, I told him I had noticed and would help him with the issue. He just blew up saying he did not want to hear it, "don't you think I know" and bla bla.... Why would he act this way and how can I help him see that he must accept constructive criticism?
Can constructive criticism cause more harm than good?
Can constructive criticism cause more harm than good?The phrase “constructive criticism’’ is an oxymoron, just like friendly fire, acting naturally, deafening silence, or being seriously funny.It is nothing more than a politically correct excuse to being openly rude and critical while hiding behind a shield of a noble sounding action. It just doesn’t work that way, you can give constructive feedback, or you can be ruthlessly critical, but you can;t be both.So can criticism do more harm than good? A big, huge, resounding YES!A critical spirit has long legs, for someone to inherit that spirit, the person has to be around people with a low self esteem, people who find solace to their shortcomings in constant criticism of everyone and everything.The damage stemming directly from this behavior is a non-existent social circle, inability to form true friendships despite being surrounded by people, and just becoming a plain obnoxious person that noone wants to be around.There is also a milder form of that spirit of criticism, and that is constantly proving people (ever so gently) that they are wrong, and pointing out their mistakes (in the most well-meaning way of course).The damage from that is not as wide spread as the previous form of criticism, but it shows its ugliness nevertheless. If done frequently enough with people, those people tend to become silent, keeping their views, opinions, observations to themselves rather than sharing them in the open. Soon what used to be fun conversations in car rides, social activities, shared meal times, or random moments turn into long stretches of silence.Yes, there is damage in the critical spirit, and both parties suffer due to the implications.
Ever give or receive constructive criticism?
yes, i have both given and received constructive criticism/feedback some of it was beneficial, some of it was not for the receiving end... for giving it, it was beneficial in that it helped me to express myself to people.. i often dont tell people what i really think..
How do you learn to be more acceptive of constructive criticism?
Any criticism, constructive or otherwise, is near impossible for us humans to accept graciously. See, I am someone who has committed their life to truth. I want to be the keenest learner in the room. I want to become the best possible version of me … and I still hate constructive criticism when it is given to me. I am also 60 and so if it was possible to be more acceptive of constructive criticism, you would think that I would have learned how by now. So don’t beat yourself up. It’s hard for everyone.Take comfort from the words of the UK’s wartime Prime Minister, Sir Winston Churchill who even in his 60s said:"I am always ready to learn although I do not always like being taught."Having said that, constructive criticism is one of the best things that can happen to us, although none of us can acknowledge that fact when “being taught”. But first we must make sure that the criticism is constructive, which is impossible to do in the moment of pain.So what I have learned to do is not react in the moment of criticism and so cause more pain than I am already feeling. I then ‘sleep on it’ and so allow my own conscience to decide if the criticism is warranted and designed to take me to a better place.See your conscience is the guarding angel of the soul. It is still life’s most powerful motivator for change. It wants you to become the hero in your own life story, so if it calls for change then change we must, just like Sir Winston Churchill identified:To improve is to change; to be perfect is to change often.So don’t accept any criticism from others until it has been first judged as warranted by your own conscience. If so, we then have no option but to summons the courage to change, because of all the meanings to life propagated since man gained consciousness, none stands higher than just being true to oneself. That is, acting always according to one’s still small voice of conscience and being answerable to nothing else.
How do I give constructive criticism to my friend without making her think that I believe I'm better than her?
Frame your suggestions at to questions rather than statements. That way any suggestions are being generated through a discussion and not just lobbed from the trenches “over there.” You can also use “I Statements” as in “I was expecting …” or “I thought …” as opposed to “You Statements” which always sound negative.And, if you are better at some things than she is, I suspect she is better at other things that you are. Why is this topic, then, a hot one? Are you often giving advice? If so, you might want to rethink that.Often conversations between men and women go awry because they are discussing something a cross purposes. If a problem is being discussed, males usually think they can help solving it. Females generally are not looking for solutions so much as commiseration and understanding.This shows up in some simple phrases. For example, when a woman says “I’m sorry.” she is commiserating and it generally means “I am sorry that happened to you and wish it had not.” When a man says “I’m sorry.” it is usually an admission of guilt. When a man hears a woman say “I am sorry” and accepts it as an admission of guilt, nothing good will happen after that in that conversation.
What's the best way to give constructive criticism to coworkers?
What's the best way to give constructive criticism to coworkers?If:You are in a position to comment from a position of direct knowledge, andYou have a particularly strong relationship with him/herThen you might be positioned to do so. While no one can stop you from proceeding if you wish, be aware that most people perceive criticism from a peer rather than a manager as meddlesome at best and an announcement of hostility at worst.Think this over very carefully before proceeding.