Awkward questions about a child's heritage, not sure how to answer.?
The only real answer is the truth However it doesn't have to be brutal or harsh. The only sensible and truthful thing to say is that you don't know. ( you know a little...but don't forget, absolute truth is something very few of us actually know..for certain.) And you can follow that up by saying "But I am helping look after you. I am here" This little girl will need a whole heap of love and support to get her through her young years. You give that unconditional love to her now and...who knows? One thing for Absolute Certain, she'll never forget your love and care for her when she was young. I am fifty and I can still remember the people who loved me/ who cared for me/ who kept an eye out for me. I would caution you against saying Anything At All to her about her grandparents. Certainly before she is an adult herself. Young children don't always hear...what we say. They mix things up Often And tbh, at her age she couldn't possibly be expected to understand it anyway. Even if she did, it would be tantamount to emotional abuse to give that sort of information to a young child., or even a teenager. She has no resources to process it + it could affect her development and her own sense of identity Young children in difficult circumstances have enough to deal with ...with the factual and actual problems of living. Throw in abstract talk of people she has never seen, in places she doesn't know about, with behaviour she doesn't comprehend.......and this poor little girl will be looking and feeling very bewildered indeed. No. Share your love with her. Make sure she Knows that your home is a safe place and that you are a safe person. That you will always want to the very best for her That you are so very proud of her THat she is special and loved and always will be.
Who is the most beautiful Pakistani woman?
Who is the most beautiful Pakistani women?None.There’s simply no woman that is or that can be “The Most Beautiful”.That’s my opinion by the way.Needless to say that beauty is subjective but if “beauty and attractiveness obtained after surgeries” is your standard and preference then you won’t find many beautiful women in Pakistan or it’s better to say that in that case a vast majority of Pakistani women won’t even fit in the category of beautiful.Following are images of some Pakistani women from different fields that I find beautiful.Aiza Khan, Arij Fatyma and Hania Amir respectively (actress)Aima Baig (singer)Ayyan Ali (model)Syeda Mahpara (soccer player)Sadaf AbdulJabbar, Neelaam Yousaf and Absa Komal respectively (news anchor)Maryam Nawaz (politician)Muniba Mazari (activist and current National Ambassador for UN Women Pakistan)Rafia (police)Huma Liaquat (pilot)Fazeela Abbasi (doctor)Rinam (army)I don't follow beauty pageants so I don’t know much about it but whenever I see news of “Miss World/Universe” I manage to spot girls standing at the back that I think are more beautiful than the actual winner so in my opinion, they’re all equally beautiful and if hypothetically they participate in “The Most Beautiful Pakistani Woman Beauty Pageant” and I’ve to decide, I won’t be able to crown one of them as winner.Image source:- Google and Instagram.
What is it like to be an Indian being mistaken for a Pakistani or vice versa abroad?
Well it happened the other way around, twice.My flight was probably one of the last in at Heathrow (yes, it shuts down for the night) and the terminal 3 was pretty much deserted after I had wasted much time roaming around. Being so late it was hard to find a taxi at a decent fare (Black cabs charged almost 15% of my air fare). Seeing me upset, a South Asian guy, well suited-working at the terminal, walked up to me and asked if he could help. We talked in English about arranging a mini cab(private hire/radio taxi) and London Black cabs being ridiculously expensive and something about the 'busiest' airport. I never thought about Pakistan until he asked me, "Hindi toh samajhte ho/Do you understand Hindi?", I said "Yeah I do" and he was "Kam se kam ab toh bolo/ Converse in Hindi now, at least" lol and then we discussed being so similar in London. He was from Peshawar.The second incident. This happened browsing a grocery store in west of London. The store had good Indian food and South Asian staff so I started talking to the guy at food counter about Indian food and it's demand among Britons except British Asians. He seemed uncomfortable speaking English at length so I initiated in Hindi with "Kaha Se Ho, Tum/Where are you, from?". Instead, he asked me back "Aap Kaha Se Hain/Where are you, from?", I admired his decency and replied "Haryana se near Chandigarh" and he said "Hum Azad Kashmir se hain/I'm from Azad Kashmir". I wondered reading about it and if it really exists in Pakistan or they just call Kashmir that, I had no idea until then. I said "Oh tum Kashmir se ho/Oh you're from Kashmir" and he sneered at me correcting, "Azad Kashmir se". I was on the back foot, I had no intention to hurt his feelings and he became least interested in talking to me after mocking those words. During the ten minutes walk to home, Kashmir being Azad or not was the only thing on my mind. I guess it's best leaving it to the people of Kashmir and decide for themselves.I recalled my first chat landing in London with a Pakistani identifying me as his "own people" and the most recent one ridicule our shared bond. For the first time I felt how sensitive this issue could be for the natives of that beautiful region and our two countries. Left me in a paradox. On top of everything, I realised the irony of these polar experiences involving an Indian and two Pakistanis happening in England! Now Mountbatten must be enjoying the crack.Thanks for reading.
Why do Pakistanis and Indians hate each other?
I will just tell a real life story. I was travelling from singapore to US.I got a middle seat in plane where on left side a different nationality lady aged 35 sitting and on right side 70 year old pakistani man was sitting.He was diabetic patient with problem in knees,over weight, not able to stand by his own.He required two seat belt to strap himself.After seeing me,he asked in hindi (will translate in English) 'Are you from Pakistan?'I smiled and said 'No uncle, I am from India just beside Pakistan '.He gave me surprised look and said 'I know where is India' and smiled. As he was a diabetic patient,he had to go washroom in every half an hour.He was sitting at window seat.Every time,I was helping him to stand up and make sure he reaches to washroom easily.Lady who was sitting next to me, had to get up and clear the way when he was going to washroom and she was super pissed off with this.She used to make faces,mumbling etc. After many time finally she asked me ' I thought Indian-pakistani don't like each other then why are you helping him so much'I politely said ' When I was born, my parents first taught me about humanity and respect.Hating each other do not change our this culture value for both the nations for sure '. She was embarrassed and did not talk to me afterwards.
What about Sarah Palin?
I am tired of all the personal attacks on Sarah Palin, with stupid questions like.... - Is she a good mother? - How can a woman work and have time for a family? - How can she bring special needs (Down syndrome) child into the world? - How can a working mom be there for her special needs (Down syndrome) child? - How can a working mom be there for her teenage pregnant daughter? And many more horrible questions like this. I am reminded of passages from "The Holy Bible" that says..... "If you think you can judge others, you are wrong. When you judge them, you are really judging yourself guilty, because you do many of the same things they do. " - Romans 2:1 & "Don't judge other people, or you will be judged. You will be judged in the same way, by the same standards, that you judge others, and the amount you give unto others will be handed unto you. Why do you notice the little piece of dust in your friend's eye, but you don't notice the big piece of wood in your own eye. How can you say to your friend, 'Let me take that little piece of dust out of your eye'? Look at yourself! You still have that big piece of wood in your own eye. You hypocrite! First, take the wood out of your own eye. Then you will see clearly to take the dust out of your friend's eye." - Mathew 7:1-5 & Luke 6:41-42 The truth of the matter is, no one would ever ask these questions of a man, including Obama (who has two young daughters), Joe Biden (who is a single dad and has teenagers) or John McCain. I am tired of all this, are you? If you're going to ask questions about Sarah Palin, let it be on substantive issues, such as political character, experience, governmental management and the like, not personal attacks on her and her family. Like it says above “who are you to judge”? “Do you even have kids”? “Are you’re a perfect parent”? Only if you are perfect, then you can judge. “He who knows nothing can learn everything but he who knows everything can learn nothing” – Unknown Author What do you think about all of this???
Have you ever defended someone from racism?
I've mentioned before in a different answer that I grew up in a very small conservative rural town.While most of my school and town were predominantly white, my core group of friends was very mixed. I was the only white kid. My best friend was black. He was also one of the smartest, most athletic and most popular kid's in our school.He loved basketball and was one of the best in our state at the time. Many of the other schools in our league were predominantly white, rural conservative school's. The amount of racism in these areas are, still to this day, baffling.During a basketball game between us and a rival school in our league, I was sitting with my small, mixed group of friends at an away game supporting our friend and the team.We were surrounded by the other school's fan's. Which in itself was fine. I was a fighter back then and it didn't take much to set me off. But, I wasn't usually too dumb about fighting either. I knew starting a fight when it was only a few of us against a whole town would not be smart. So, I was not there to fight and even tried to keep others calm and focused on enjoying the game.That is until one fan started chanting something with the N word about my friend on the court. It started with just a couple kids, then grew to being almost their entire fan section, parents included. This was not in the 50s. I graduated high school in ‘03.I lost it. I grabbed the kid that started the chant and threw him from where we were sitting down to the court. Following him and had every intention of beating that word from his mouth. I was so enraged that I couldn't tell you how many people I fought hit or knocked out or even how many times I got hit myself. It turned into a huge brawl when our basketball team jumped in.Police were called and they had to clear the entire gym. By the time the police got there though my friends and I were long gone. On to another adventure.I found out the next Monday at school that the entire thing, including the other teams fans chanting that shit was on the game film. Luckily it was because I think thing's could have been much worse if it were not. As it was, I was suspended for a few days. To this day though, even being the non-violent advocate I am today, I don't have any regrets in that fight. With the exception of, I wish I could have hit more of those racist f#%$ even harder.
Why do Christians bother with their religion?
Well, God made everything, so it's His, so he can kill it. You didn't make it so it is not yours to kill. I've never read a verse that says it is a sin to have a child outside of marriage. In fact, Biblical men had children with concubines as well multiple wives. Adultery is a sin because it breaks a vow. Mary was only betrothed and not married so it wasn't adultery and God had an understanding with Joseph. Moses wrote the first five books of the bible. The New Testament was written largely by Paul and attribution isn't really a problem for most books. However there is a condition on the acceptance of it's teachings and that is a condition of faith. The belief in that which you can not know, in order to obtain that which we can not earn. The Bible is an oracle and along with prayer, you can converse with a living Almighty God! Once you do that, you'll want to do it more and more because He is so good. And you can feel it! That is why we bother.
Having a really low day....?
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Very Confused please please help?
Dear Gavin and Mom, I have felt this heart ache when my Father passed the day before Father's Day last year. I loved him so and even being a christian my heart ached so bad, not to be able to hug him and talk to him, it hurt me for quite some time. I just kept asking the Lord to send His Holy Spirit to comfort me because I know His Holy Spirit is our Comforter and let the grieving process just run its course. Each day with my faith in God it got easier somehow, It is that peace that passes all understanding and my faith in Christ Jesus that kept me. In a natural sense, I realized that my Dad, who was very sick and often in alot of pain was not suffering any more and that helped. Sometimes we have to let go of the ones we love so they can be in a better place. To be absent from this world is to be present with Christ if we have accepted Him, that is the promise of the gift of eternal life that Jesus has provided for us who believe in Him. So I pray right now in the name of Jesus that you Gavin and your Mom will find comfort in this time of sorrow and that each day it will get easier for you as hold on to and cherish your fond memmories of your Grandmother/Mother and may you live each day holding on to Gods' unchanging hand so you can see her again when Jesus returns and we are taken to Heaven to praise Him forever more in a place where there is no more tears, sickness, sorrow, or dying, I pray in Jesus' name, Amen. Here is the words to a song that comes to my mind as I think about you and your Mom: Hold to His hand, Gods unchanging hand. Hold to His hand, Gods unchanging hand. Build your hopes on things eternal, and hold to Gods unchanging hand. God is the same today, yesterday and forever more and He cares about you, so cast all your cares upon Him and be encouraged, Grandma is at peace and she sleeps in His arms. Now its up to you to carry the torch and live for Jesus. I am sure all those that wrote you will be praying for you and your mom so keep your head up soldier. Much love & prayer, in Christ Jesus!
What was the most legendary “I quit!” that you know about or witnessed?
I am editing the hell out of this to protect the company (mostly so I don’t get sued) and people involved.I worked for this family of companies for over ten years and got out and am doing a lot better now. But it was a literally hell and my, and my coworkers, had health issues from the stressful environment. (I was one of the coworkers the boss had a vendetta against.)This was at their software development company. The person resigning was fantastic, a great addition to our team, but was treated very poorly. We had gone through several managers who were fired because of BS reasons. The team loved them, they were competent and experienced, but the powers that be only wanted that sweet money flow regardless of facts, physics, or legality.If, by some happenstance, the author reads this: I miss you my friend and hope you are well. Also, I will remove this post if you want me to.*Note: anything in brackets are things I changed for privacy.Subject: Resignation: Effective nowDear all,It after great consideration that I have decided to resign my position as [Position] for [Company] effective today, [Day], [Month] [Date].These last six weeks have been a great opportunity to learn just how dysfunctional one organization can be. While I have the utmost respect for my coworkers at [Company], I feel that our leadership has been non-existent most of the time, and when we did have direction, it was often self-contradictory and it appeared to shift as often as the wind.When you have a [Managerial Position] who openly holds vendettas against employees, and TELLS you that [they] holds open vendettas against your coworkers there is no trust gained. I hope that something is done about this because the people at [Company] work very hard with very little instruction or training only to find themselves taking the blame for lack of foresight on the part of management.[Awesome Person #1]: You’re a rock for this team and severely underappreciated[Awesome Person #2]: Same goes for you.[Awesome Person #3]: You’ve done a lot for this department, and I hope someone notices.Everyone else, keep on keepin’ on. You’re fighting an uphill battle, but I believe that with proper leadership you can win it.Peace out.