What should I do if it depresses me to see that my friends on Facebook have everything? I don't have a huge sum of money, marriage, travel, good memories and happiness. How do I come out of feeling bad about myself for being broke with everything?
I have been in the same situation as yours. I used to feel so bad looking at my feed seeing all those people having so much fun but I am sitting here in my room with dirty clothes and uncombed hair. This is the period where half of my friends have gone to US for higher studies and boy oh boy my feed was flooded with pictures of their first Dunkin Donuts to road trip to JCPenny. All those check ins and all those irritating selfies got the worst out of me . I felt so worthless because they are out there in another country having so much fun but I am stuck here.Now do you really know that they are having fun ? Do you know what they are going through? Not everybody's life is filled with happiness and parties. For every Yin there is a Yang.Then I realised I don't even have to feel bad for such things because I don't want to be a part of such callous projection of my own life.You are comparing your practise session with your friend's highlights. Now isn't that unfair to do to yourself. You have your wonderful and awesome life to take care . All those new wonderful things to try out and innumerable number of things to learn. Yes that's where my thirst of knowledge started . I wanted to learn and know as many things as possible. Starting from how to sew a shirt to why do people in space have velcro in their pants. I know that Facebook has become indispensable in our lives so de-activating is pretty much out of scope because you have to use Facebook to stay in touch with your relatives and your long time buddies. So I suggest you to try this out.Go to your Facebook friends list and unfollow all those people who were merely your acquaintance , specially all those selfie-obsessed people.Follow nice fun pages like 9gag, some news channel pages.(I usually follow Food related pages :P)And Voila now you have a curated feed of all the things that you like the most and from the people who really matter to you . Now that's the reason why you should even use Facebook ,for SOCIALISING not for SELF - OBSESSION. Check this answer out and you will feel you took the right decision ditching Facebook.Nivedita Muthusubramanian's answer to How is an upvote on Quora better than a like on your Facebook status update?Now happy learning!
Im depressed and bullied by my friends :(?
hey hunny, im mary, im 14. i know how it is wih sex and kids now, & trust me, it doesn't get better, but you shouldn't have to deal with this, but you have to. im a virgin still and so are plenty of the people i know, not all, but a lot. its not important at ALL to, and trust me, please please please please please don't have sex. your 11, and you need to enjoy your childhood while you can-have fun and live. it is not normal that people your age have sex but it is very extremely normal not to. they're not friends if they say those things.you are probably much prettier than they are and they are jealous. they have boyfriends and are mean and cruel to you because they are self-concious. they have sex with these people because it makes them feel better and important, just like when they hurt you. now this is what you need to listen to: girls like that are doing this to you for one reason, and although i don't like to hear it, it's true: they're jealous. you can avoid this violence and hurt by doing the following: -avoid them. if you avoid them, they can't bully you. -IGNORE THEM. they keep bullying you because they see you are hurt by it. like my mom says "never let em see you sweat" if they see you get upset by them then they're gonna keep doing what they're doing. if they insult you, instead of saying leave me alone or an insult, ignore it. if they step on your heels or punch you, NOW PLEASE TRUST ME ON THIS, walk away and tell someone. i know being a tattletale sucks, i do. so when you get home, tell a parent, or YOUR BROTHER. i'm sure he can help a lot, just some one that you can trust. never let some stupid jealous girl keep you from doing good in school. focus, study, and if some girl tries to distract you or say something, be loud and say "can't you see im trying to study?" or something. or as i said, ignore it. but don't let them ruin your future. the world will never be against you, NEVER. never let anyone tell you different. & don't get a boyfriend if you don't want to, because i did. &i regret it because i didn't like him really i just wanted to impress my friends & i regret it more than you could know. if you need someone to talk to about anything, email me @ artist530530@yahoo.com i'm here for you, & so are many other people, just look for em. good luck
Losing my best friend because of depression..?
Honey, I feel for you in more ways than you can believe. for the previous comment, depression is not only stress, but a chemical imbalance. I have depression and me and my best friendship seems like it is slowly draining because she has it REALLY bad. She is actually in the hospital right now being diagnosed for manic depression. mine isn't really serious and I may he out of it. Anyways, mything is that you are still young. Going through the same thing, I can tell you my best friend has cursed me out to the point where I wanted to fight her, but I backed off and role myself that she was sick. At the end of the day, when someone is in your life at this critical point, the main way that it works is if the other person understands. By you being younger, most kids that age just want to have fun. This is like having a baby at an young age. Everything will be cool whole you are pregnant, but once the baby is here and your friends want to do things but you can't because you have the baby, the relationship will start to die. Yes this is your best friend, but as a child your best friend wants to have fun too. This is not saying that she can't with you, but this just makes it harder. She may not be able to deal with kinds of complications. My advice is keep your options open. The more you worry about her not being there, the more depressed you will become. Once you get through the funk, you can get back to her when you are ready to smile and feel good. DON'T LISTEN TO MAIKO, people like that are what bring people down. Let it .out honey, don't hold it in.
I am depressed because I don't have children, do you have any advice?
Remember, the urge or need to have children is programmed in us- to propagate the species, not give us happiness. What I mean is, it is a false hope that marriage or having children will bring us happiness. It might bring us some moments of joy, but it also brings us many moments of misery and sadness, like anything else.When I was in my 20’s, I had this urge to get married and have children. It was all I could think about. I had to do it before I was 30. I can’t explain how innate these urges were. it wasn’t logical, it was something I felt I was meant to do. Years later, I realized that this was just hormones controlling me to propagate the species. My hormones were programmed to make me feel this way.In my 30��s and 40’s, these feelings slowly dissipated- so I can tell you that if this truly is the cause of your depression, you won’t always feel this way. It’s just your hormones pushing you to procreate. Once you turn 35, it will be over and you’ll feel better.Also, I’ve been married and had children, and both of those things give a person goals and reasons to live for a time; then all of the problems, challenges and tragedies just take a toll on your mental and physical health. Try to enjoy life knowing that your won’t have all of this added heartache and strain. Enjoy other people’s kids and volunteer to work with children at church or in schools. There are many children who need someone to talk to and pay attention to them. You are that special person that can make a difference in a neglected child’s life. Maybe this is the special purpose that the universe was saving you for.
Im 19 and ALL my friends are pregnant!?
Okay, Im freaking pissed. When i found out that my cousin (whos my age, and we grew up together but we were always very competative with each other) is pregnant, it was funny. When i recently found out that my old buddy from middle school is pregnant, its sad. When i found out that my four good friends from high school are ALL pregnant, i was shocked. But now that my best friend of life is pregnant, im freaking furious. Have they never HEARD OF BIRTH CONTROL?!!??!?!?!?! Im so upset. I never thought in a million years that my bestfriend would be that dumb. Im engaged and my fiance and I are 19 and 20 and were in college, meanwhile her and her fiance are 19 and 23 and he already has a child with another woman, and I thought that THAT was bad, but now that shes pregnant, i dont even know what to think. she dropped out of high school to move in with him at his parents house. my fiance has no kids, were waiting until years after weve graduated college and have been married for years before we even think about starting a family. i thought that my best friend would have a future ahead of herself, and now shes just like all the other girls i know. im depressed and disapointed. and part of me feels like theyre all joining this "club" that im not apart of, but the thing is, its not a club that i want to be a part of, not yet at least. im so depressed. how old were you when all your friends started getting pregnant? how did you feel?
Is anybody else feeling depressed about not having a baby?
I know six people that are pregnant and it is so depressing. First my cousin got pregnant, then my stepmom, then my future sister~in~law. All 3 are due within a month of each other. Next was my cousin's on and off again gf, then my uncle got his gf pregnant, and the latest one is my friend. 4 of them are on their 2nd or 3rd kids. 3 of the couples can't afford a baby. I've been wanting a baby and am getting married in 2 and a half months. My fiance and am on planning on kids between when we get married and our 2 year wedding anniversary. I feel so depressed right now. Does anybody else feel depressed that everybody else but them seems to be pregnant?
Is it normal to be jealous of people having babies?
The last few weeks I've found out that ALOT of the girls I went to high school with are having babies. With all of them having babies I've noticed that I've been getting kind of depressed and jealous. I'm honestly happy for them, but I want a baby too! I know I'm not ready and all, and the fact that I work at a portrait studio taking pictures of NEW BABIES all the time is kind of getting me into the whole "baby fever stage". Is it normal to feel like this at times?
Depression from baby fever?
Yes, you are feeling depressed, you are specifically telling yourself that you cannot have something you really want and dream of and while your reasons are sound and logical. And makes me congratulate you on being so level headed at the same time it hurts to realized that your not ready yet. So i would say since you know the cause start looking for ways to help your boyfriend get on the same level you are, and renew your focus in school. If you write down on paper your plan, your budget, and what all you need to do between now and when you feel you would be ready to have a child then start working toward that you will start to feel better because it will no longer be the denial of your dream instead it will be you working toward it. and the first thing to put on the list is eat right and take a folic acid suppliment. That is two things you will need to do that you can start doing imedialty regardless of when you actually concieve. so you can have something to cross off your list in a couple of weeks instead of months or years. It will make you feel better and will put you one step closer in the right direction.