What is the best thing to do when you are confused in Life?
I’m a 24 year old B.com graduate, persuing CA Course. I have so far completed only first group of my Intermediate examinations. I have another group in Intermediate and also two groups in final level. Finals are way too hard when compared to Intermediate examinations. I’m kind of stuck in my life. I do not understand if I should continue writing my CA exams or try something different in life. Another group of intermediate will take another 6 months. Finals will take another 1.5 to 2 years.I put my life on the line when I chose to study CA at the age of 21. Now, after 3 years, at this matured aged of 24, not knowing what my passion is, not knowing what I really want to do in life puts me on my wits’ end. When I think of where I want to be, three years down the line I imagine myself in a totally contradicting atmosphere. It’s too late & also impractical to start working on it now.I generally don’t write depressing answers on Quora. But right now, everything is falling apart. Career, personal life, social life & most importantly spiritual life. When I say spiritual life, it means my relationship with the greater power. The feeling of emptiness within, when you are surrounded with your loved ones… As if everything you achieved in life is fatuous.But then I always believe in order for everything to come together, things need to fall apart first. I have seen people hitting rock bottom before they bounce back. Staying positive when your life is crumbling is not easy. But that is the only option you have. Life is neither fair nor unfair; it is simply whatever it happens to be. Everybody experiences sorrow, heartbreaks etc. You are no exception. You just have to hold yourself together & continue pushing forward.I choose to stay firm. I’m going to take a hard look at the situation and I’m going to turn things around for myself because I deserve better. Life may not be willing to give me happiness, success & glory, but I’m going to take it anyway!!!Keep Trying. Keep Pushing. Keep Dreaming.
What should we do if we are confused between two things?
As I repeatedly mention in my other posts, we have two types of personalities one being our intelligence and the other being our desirous.Since both the personalities operate in different and independent domains, we perceive two ideas for the same input .Since the second personality is based on desire, we need to be careful and vigilant about the thoughts generated by the same.As we get older, we are supposed to unify these personalities into a single personality to get rid of duality.Till we reach that level if unification of our two personalities, we can just follow the following thumb rules to select the right input between the two inputs we perceive :Input that provides permanent resultsInput that is not injurious to us as well as othersInput that provides constructive outputInput that gives us peace rather then pleasureInput that provides us knowledge to upgrade our wisdomKindly go through my other postings that are related to Mind so that you can get a better idea about dealing with it.In case you need any further clarification, please don't hesitate to get in touch with me.
What should you do when you are too confused about something?
Look i get confused a lot.I love debating with myself on different topics and since i am a mediator i often tend to get confused.Earlier i used to get frustrated of my confused mind and get very negative about myself,thinking i am a mess.But now things have changed.I have accepted confusion as a part of life in which you want to do the right thing. If you dont work based on instincts and take decisions thinking what is right,then confusion is bound to happen. So to solve confusion firstACCEPT CONFUSION- Say to yourself that being confused is gr8 as that shows that you want to do the right thing which will obviously involve some brainstorming.IGNORE CONFUSION(for the moment)- Forget about what you have been thinking.Relax your mind,and maybe go in the fresh air.Take somed deep breaths. Just stop thinking and enjoy the moment.AGAIN BRAINSTORM- This time with a clear head,start thinking putting all facts and doubts on the table.Positively think which alternative suits u and ur nature.Still confused? Go to ur loved ones.They know u better than u in a lot of ways.they can guide u and help u.still confused??Go back to step 2 and relax. In some time u will automatically get the right choice.maybe a few days even but u will get it.hope it helped. Thanks a lot for asking
Am I doing the right thing by leaving my wife, I keep second guessing myself.?
I recently made the decision to separate from my wife of almost 2 years. We recently split because of many major problems, in addition to my suspicions of her infidelity and her constant [proven] lying. While I was away for training at my new job (over a month), my wife completely revamped her appearance. In addition to this, I noticed she seemed to be very distant from me, even acting differently in the 'sack'. Quite frankly, she changed quite a bit in many aspects of her life in a VERY short period of time. Anyway, I had my suspicions that something just 'wasn't right' but said nothing. Soon afterward, a guy she used to go to school with started paying WAY too much attention to her on facebook. I e-mailed him and asked him to leave my wife alone. As my suspicions were adding up, I did a little digging and found out through phone records that she has been secretly texting, IMing, and making phone calls to this guy, as well as one other. She completely lied to me about both relationships until I presented her with the phone records. For the record, we had agreed before marriage that she would stick to hanging out with girls, and me, guys and she would have KILLED me if I was texting, IMing, or making calls to another girl with such frequency. Anyway, it's weird, because at the time my gut was solid that she had cheated on me (in addition to the emotional cheating which was obvious from phone records), and I asked her to take a lie detector. She COMPLETELY freaked and said it was SO disrespectful and that if I tried to make her take one, we were over. After seeing the cost (way too much), I backed off and took her word (an oath before God) that she didn't cheat. One more extremely important thing, I said I was going to get copies of the text transcripts via a subpoena and she freaked out again! she said she absolutely did not cheat on me but I would be "very hurt" if I read them. Anyway, aside from all of this garbage she was actually a VERY sweet girl and one whom I enjoyed spending time with so much. I miss those good times like CRAZY right now, and am second guessing my choice to leave her. Also, my gut originally told me that she cheated on me, but now it tells me the exact opposite. What is going on here, and did I make the correct decision? Sorry for the novel, but this is extremely important to me, please help!
How do I make the right decision for myself when I'm really confused?
Let me share a hard truth - you would never know whether a choice is right for you or not, without really experiencing the consequences first.Life is about making decisions every single day. Some decisions are very straightforward and do not really have a lasting impact. Should I try a Cappuccino or a Cafe Mocha? Should I eat at McDonald’s or KFC? Should I buy the latest Samsung phone or should I buy an iPhone X?However, some decisions can have a significant impact on your life. Should I choose Engineering or Medicine? Should I choose this job or that job? Should I do an MBA or go abroad for a Masters?The prospect of making decisions can be daunting. Hard decisions lead to increased confusion. And increased confusion leads to increased fear. Fear about what might happen if things go wrong. Fear about the consequences.The primary reason why we get confused when it comes to making decisions, especially hard decisions, is the fear of consequences. We are afraid to make wrong choices. We are afraid to deal with the situation if things go bad.But the truth is, we can never really know what is right for us unless we experience the consequences of the choice we’ve made. We can try our best to learn from others’ mistakes and make better decisions by talking to people. We can do our own research and try to make a more informed decision.But every person is different, and every choice works differently for different people. As a result, even after gaining more information about the choices, we are finally left with only one option - we have to take a leap of faith.Taking a leap of faith can be daunting, but that is really the only way to move things forward. We have to go ahead with the choice that we feel really suits us, else we will be stuck in the same position forever. We have to move forward with the confidence that we are making the right decision.If we do end up making the right decision, we will gain more confidence in our decision making abilities. In case we make a wrong decision, we will learn from our mistakes and also help others make the right decisions. But unless we take a leap of faith, we would never find out if our decision was right or not.We cannot survive without making decisions. Those decisions can be easy decisions or hard decisions. But regardless of the impact, each and every decision involves taking a leap of faith. And whether we like it or not, taking that leap of faith is the only way to really move forward in life.
Did I do the right thing by having no contact with my ex-girlfriend who still loves me but has another boyfriend and says she's very confused?
It’s too messy. It’s just a guess, but it sounds to me like she is someone who has to be in a relationship because she is terrified of being alone. I’m guessing that her current boyfriend is a rebound boyfriend and that she isn’t feeling it for him. Instead of admitting that she’s afraid of being alone, it’s easier to glamorize what you once had together. Happens all the time. Stay away until she works on herself some and can be alone without being lonely. In a few months, after you both have clear heads, if you both end up single again, and you feel something authentic (not an idealized version of your prior relationship), check things out. But stay away until then. You don’t want to be “that guy” who broke up her relationship with the current BF.Fast-forward to this scenario: You hang around. She continues to be unhappy with current BF and ultimately breaks up with him to date you again. Then you remember why you two broke up in the first place, so you end it again. Then she blames you for coming between her and the BF. Like I said before, very messy.Keep your distance and your sanity.
Am I doing the right thing separating from my husband?
I have been with my husband 20 years.I am 39 we have 2 girls 14 and 9.I have been unhappy for a few years now.I love my husband..I am not in love with him.I have no attraction to him at alll..but I still care about him.I feel guilty because I dont want to hurt him..I feel sorry for him.Its like I have been his mother..Anything thats needs doing..I do it; whether it be fixing a tap or ringing about a bill..and I still feel responsible for him..making sure that he will be okay when I get a house for our daughters and myself. I want to be happy..and that doesn't mean getting a new man..I want my girls to have the best I can give them and I intend on going back to study..During the day I feel I am doing the right thing, but when night comes, I find myself questioning if I am doing what is right. I get frustrated with him..over minor things..but things that will not change..he will not change.I suppose because we have been together for such a long time is what makes it that little bit harder..has anyone been in a similar situation? I could do with some advice..thanks so much..Judy