I'm leaving college, I think it's the right decision?
So I don't enjoy the school I'm going to right now, it's very small and I am having difficulties meeting people. I am also at a point in my life where I am struggling to figure out what I want to do and what I would be happy in. I am currently majoring in sociology which is just chock full of insane propaganda that I really don't agree with and I feel like if I were to graduate with this degree it would just be four years wasted. My grades aren't so good right now and I don't feel motivated to continue on with this, I feel like I just need a break from school in general. I want to go back to college and maybe do something along the lines of product engineering or maybe pharmaceuticals but my school has a very short list of majors, most of which are liberal arts degrees which I am not interested in. I want something that I will feel proud of but I just need some time off to think things through. I was thinking about getting a job and working for a year or two and maybe take a few classes at my local community college just to get my bearings. What do you think of my decision.
Did I make the right decision?
While it is true that people with low aims end up low achievers, high aims will not help people who do not have, say, the academic capacity for something. I think you are probably right going back to Bryn Mawr. In general, you do better by finishing something you have started. There is the danger that, moving elsewhere, you actually lose out on the work and commitment that you have already put in. (There would also be issues with unfamiliarity and settling in etc) I can see your family's point of view. The problem is that thing called "hindsight". Obviously if you had known in advance that you were not going to be able to benefit from the linkage then you might have made different choices. You did not know and fretting about "what if"s just stops you from getting on and dealing with the situation. My feeling is that you have to do the work and aim for your A's. If you don't, the whole thing will become another "what if" (what if I had tried harder?). It really is a case of making sure that you do the work and don't decide that it is okay to slack off because you aren't going to achieve it. Slacking off is DEFINITELY the way not to achieve! I think that is the crucial "mind" factor - when people give up because they think they can't. What you want is still possible to achieve. If it wasn't then the situation would be different. If you aim and then fail, you will have done your best. That will be the time to accept that, maybe, you don't quite have the academic ability that med. school requires. Best wishes.
Am I making the right decision by attending college?
I see no comment posted. But deciding to attend college is definitely a good decision.Read this about the benefits of college education, http://bitly.com/TxWTRi .
Did I make the right decision by leaving him?
Nope ! you did not do any mistake if you know he never deserved you and treated you bad for no mistake of yours; its better to move out of that relationship.But consider this situation as well :Relationships always have their ups -downs.When you have enjoyed good times with a person, you also need to witness his/her bad phases also.Sometimes, in life you can not give importance to anyone because you yourself might need help with something. Living in such long relationship, the pampering also dies out with time.Relationships have phases, breakups, reunions and what not. Its how you are looking up to the situation.Your anger is apt over his behavior of not caring for you, but don't do it unless you don't know what is the reason behind his mindset change. Nothing happens overnight. Everyone loves to be in loving relationship.Don't assume things, If he loved you as well then there must be something bothering or irritating him also or you never know He may have found someone else. Try to know both sides of the coin then take a decision. It could be anything.Have a sincere, mature conversation , know his side also, If he also wants to move on, then do know the reason. This will help you in the end :1. You will be in peace if he's not worth you. This feeling of worthlessness will go.2.If you were at fault, you will know and you ll never repeat it. It will help you in longer run.
Do I have to pay for college right away?
You can take out a loan and pay it off over 10-30 years (or less), and some colleges offer payment plans where you can make payments over the course of the semester rather than as a lump sum (there may be a fee with this). There are generally no penalties associated with paying off student loans early, so if you're going to have a job and make money during the semester, but aren't sure it's going to be enough to fully cover the tuition, a loan will be a better choice. With the payment plan, you're obligated to make the payments when they come up, while with a loan you usually don't have to pay anything until you graduate. If you know you're going to have the money, the payment plan may be a little cheaper. If you're not going to be earning any money (or very little) and are considering taking out $10k+ in loans every year, you need to find a cheaper school. If you graduate with $80k in loans, you're looking at over $6000/year in loan payments until you're 50.