Friend who overstayed their welcome, how to handle?
Ok well this is what happened, my friend used to have bad car trouble so she would stay at my house because she lives really far away and my house is closer to her job, but she would only stay for like at the most a week. Well she got another job that is closer and she would stay every once awhile again so that she wouldnt have to drive all the way home at night, well last month she stayed for a week then another week and another week. She would go home on the weekends and be back on monday. well i thought she would be leaving soon but i overheard her say on the phone to another friend that she stays at my house on the weekdays. well i never agreed to let her stay at my house for weeks, months on end so that she could be closer to her job, if she wanted that she needs to get an apartment. So when she left she asked if she could come back on monday i told her why does she have to be here every week, go somewhere else. because i never agreed to let her stay here for one, and there is already four people in this house already, my mother, boyfriend, my child and me. and whenever i asked her to do something she would give attitude at first then do it, i would have appreciated no attitude, and i dont want people to tell my baby to shutup, she is only 10 months old and if someone gave me lists and rules for their child i would follow their directions because it is their child. well now she hasnt called and acts like i hurt her feelings, and my boyfriend thinks im trying to run another friend out my life. i dont want to lose her friendship but enough is enough, i dont really care if i hurt her feelings because she overstayed her welcome. what do yall think i should have done and if i did the right thing
My friend is overstaying her welcome?
A close friend of mine has been spending the night at my house for the past week or so....and a few days out of the other weeks that have passed...I crave solitude and space...but shes always here! During the day, she'll go to a friends house usually but shes still here at night and in the morning to early afternoon...she drinks all our juice, always wants to eat, is taking up space in my bedroom, and interrupting private time with my boyfriend and I...what should I do? Its not like shes homeless, she just doesn't feel comfortable in her own home..
How do you tell a friend they overstayed their welcome?
LOL that sounds like a hilarious situation. Sorry but your friends sounds effin hilarious HAHA It sounds like she's got no shame. I think you should out-shameless her. You and your fiance should start having really loud sex when she's around. When I say loud I mean scream so Helen Keller can hear you. You could also leave really awkward things around, such as condoms (if you guys still use these) or sex toys. That should properly gross her out.
I think I overstay my welcome at my boyfriends?
I go to my boyfriends house two times a week, sometimes his parents even let me spend the night . (mainly his mom) but I think I overstay my welcome because when I do cme over like two days In a row, his mom is surprised that I'm there. but she tells him that I can come over when I want to . I think his dad dislikes me because I sometimes don't have a ride back home (we don't have our licenses yet) and I always ask to come over, my boyfriend never ask for me to come, personally. but he says he loves spending time with me , especially if I see him two days out the week
My uncle is kind of overstaying his welcome?
Talk to your mother. She's the one who messed up here. It's her job to protect her children and look out for their best interests. Let her know how you feel about your uncle taking over your room. Your uncle is a grownup (or, at least he's supposed to be) and he needs to get out and get his own place. He also needs to show respect to your mother and follow some basic house rules. He needs to visit with his friends at THEIR places and not keep such late hours at your home. He does not have the right to act like a hormonal teenager just because he left his wife. If your mother wants to do HER job right, she wil let the freeloader know that a month is enough to get his newly single act together elsewhere. He has to go.
Is my sister overstaying her welcome? And, if so, what should I do?
So I just moved into a new place a month ago that has some more space and is on the metro line. My sis lives 1.5 hours away. Before I moved here, whenever my sis was in town, she would stay with one of her friends who lived in the city and was on the metro line. My sis comes to the city A LOT for meetings and would rather stay with friends/family than get a hotel. I don't mind hosting her sometimes, but in the last month, she's come over for 3 weekends. This weekend will be her third. She is not even asking her friend anymore. She's only asking me. As much as I love her, I think it's a bit imposing...especially since she tends to want to stay the whole weekend and hang out with me the whole time (not really taking into account that I may already have plans that I want to partake in on my own). But I feel like I have no choice but to say yes, she can stay over, and then feel obligated to invite her to whatever my social plans are to be nice. Am I normal to feel like she is imposing? Or do I just have to say yes to her every time? I'm so torn. I wish she would have the consideration to ask her friend to stay over sometimes, too...or maybe even secretly book a hotel so that I don't have to feel so obliged. As I said, I love her and don't mind hosting her...but 3 out of 4 weekends just seems a bit much :-\ And if all she wanted was a place to sleep, I wouldn't even mind that, but, as I said, she tends to want to "hog" all of my time when she's here and get really upset and sensitive if I imply that I'm too busy for her. I feel like I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place! Anyway, your advice would be most appreciated! Thanks! :) P.S. No rude responses, please ;)
What should I do when I realize that I had overstayed my welcome?
My husband and I recently went to our friends' home. The husband had been going through a really rough time and needed some company. He was so glad to see us and we had such a good time, that it wasn't til the day after that I realized that his wife had been wanting us to leave so she could go to bed several hours before we actually left. Although I know that her husband really needed and wanted our company, I feel that with me being HER friend, I should call and make an apology for overstaying our welcome. She wasn't rude at all, so I do feel like something should be said, just to clear the air and make amends for not being more aware of her feelings. What should I say? I want to be as polite and gracious as possible the coversation won't be awkward. Any suggestions?
How to apologize for overstaying my welcome at a friends house last night?
I want to send a text thanking them for having me over, and I want to apologize because I'm worried that I might have been a bit boorish. But I'm worried that it might be a bit pushy.
How do you deal with someone who has overstayed their welcome?
I think I would need some more context.Is this an unemployed millennial cousin who asked to stay a night and has turned this into a rent-free, couch-surfing, feed-me pizza month while they play on your Xbox and leave their rolled up socks under your coffee table?Or that lagging couple at your dinner party, after all the surplus food is shoveled into Tupperware, wine glasses are secured in the top rack of the dishwasher, counters are wiped down and your eyelids are each 10-lbs weights because all your adrenaline was used up to clean, cook and make fancy dinner cards before the party?Or the one-night stand who stayed the night and slept comfortably all the way to 10 AM the next morning, and you didn't realize how grating their voice was at the bar because the music was so loud, and your sister will be bringing your little nephews over for brunch where you are supposed to teach them how to make strawberry pancakes?I wouldn't do a thing and continue to make them feel welcome. They are your friends and your family, and most people can sense when the party is really over. The majority of humans hate to intrude. Have you ever felt unwelcome somewhere? And felt that wave of embarrassment and sudden insecurity that there are spaces in this world among your trusted circle that you don't belong? It's crappy.For the unemployed cousin, see what's going on. Maybe this is their cry for help, and you can help them transition to adulthood. Be proactive by suggesting a job search or helping them prepare for interviews. You can ask them to pitch in by doing some laundry or cooking some meals, and maybe that will urge them to move on. But continue to let them stay.For the friends lagging after a dinner party, lay some fresh towels out with new tooth brushes on the guest room bed for them, or on your couch if you don't have a guest room. Say you need to turn in but that they are welcome to stay so that you can hang out more in the morning. They will either leave or take you up on your offer. But don't ask them to leave, there really is no need to.Now for the one-night stand (ONS), kick him out immediately. By saying, thanks it was fun but I’ll need you to leave before my NAVY seal husband comes home in 10 minutes. And if ONSs are common occurrences for you, perhaps make a policy to never let a ONS spend the night and share that rule with them from the get-go if you are bothered by their sleeping over.
What was the time when you knew you've overstayed your welcome?
This can be hard to read - especially if you're having a good time!in the case of out of town visits, I confess, I plan them to be short and stay at a hotel. When with my friends and family, at their home, I always get up and help, and always leave the bathroom we use clean and make sure the linens are washed and bed remade.Look and listen for signals that you may be overstaying your welcome, such as:your host asking you what your plans are for the day, or telling you their plans that don't include youwhen you ask, so what are our plans for today? And you see your hosts exchange glances before answeringwhen you think you're having open and spirited debates of ideas at every meal, but your host is polite but becomes silent or keeps trying to change the topicyour host buying, cooking and cleaning up after you, without any help, thanks or reciprocity from youyou break something and don't apologize and at least offer to replace it (or actually do)when you're directly asked when you plan to leaveWhen invited for an event, meal or celebration, never come early And try not to always be the last to leave, especially when it's getting late. Take your cue from others, who often can sense that it’s time to leave even if you don't.When the conversation dies and people around the table, concentrating on their food or try to change the topic, while you continue droning on, ranting, educating them, and not asking others about themselves and showing genuine interest.And always remember a small gift and thank you note.