Is my best friend being rude or am I overreacting?
Basically she cancelled on me because she said she was tired but then went to dinner with other people. And then I texted her asking if she wanted a study guide I made for our class and she read it and didn t respond. I think it was rude she didn t respond, I was offering something nice. Am I overreact
Am I overreacting to my boyfriend canceling/delaying plans?
Does he have a job that requires him to be on-call? Or is he just not thoughtful. What we allow in our life is a choice. We should choose only the best for ourselves whenever possible. If he doesn’t have a valid reason for cancelling/delaying plans then you have to decide if that is acceptable. If you ask him to be more respectful of your time and honor your commitments and he refuses, then you have to decide if this is the kind of person you want in your life.One piece of advice - staying with someone who isn’t what your want/need leaves you unavailable for the right person. Life is too short, although at your age it might not seem that way. :-)
Is he obsessed with me, or am I overreacting?
To put things straight, yeah i do think he's into you, it's obvious in the way he acts towards you and it's perfectly understandable if you don't feel the same way towards him. I don't think you're really blowing things out of proportion here but i do think you're perhaps over-analyzing just a little too much. It is quite possible to just keep going the way you are, but perhaps just have something prepared just in case he ever does admit feelings towards you. Also, if you find him starting to annoy you then perhaps just tell him, try and do it politely of course but i think just accepting it may give him the wrong signal. Especially if he has a mental condition, depending on the condition, they probably don't pick up the whole social interaction quite as well as everyone else so the occasional reminder usually does help to teach them the boundaries. Just referring back to your primary school time i don't think this kind of situation will happen. Yes he might want to try and hang out with you as much as he can but by uni, he'll probably know the boundaries a lot more than what a kid in primary school will. Just tell him when you're not feeling comfortable with him around all the time and keep reinforcing that you're only friends I'm sure he'll work out where he stands and what's acceptable. All the best
I feel like I just got ditched! Am i overreacting?
So it's kind of a long story and it might be confusing..so i'm sorry in advance(: Basically I invited my best friend to go to magic mountain on SATURDAY with me and two other friends! She replied "hell yea!! Brb shower!" So obviously she was going! Then she replies AFTER her shower "I might even go Friday with another group of friends lol!" So that means that she would be going two days in a row. But, I asked her first about going on SATURDAY before her other friend asked her about going on FRIDAY. (you'll see why this is important) The next day she tells me that her mom won't let her go twice in a row and ALSO another friend invited her to go to Santa Monica on Saturday(the day I invited her to go to mm!) SO she chose to go on Friday instead! BUT I asked her to go to mm first before her friends asked her to go on Friday and before her other friend asked her to go to Santa Monica yet she still decides to go on friday! So I was dissappointed because I had plans with her first and then she decided to do something else! Then today I found out that on SATURDAY she isn't going to Santa Monica and instead a DIFFERENT friend is coming over to swim and sleep over! And I'm kind of upset am I being to dramatic? She should have asked me to do something on saturday if she knew that she couldn't go and that she wasn't going to Santa Monica INSTEAD of doing something with someone else.
Have you ever lost a friend (a guy) because he had feelings for you?
I think I am in a good position to answer this question.I developed feelings for one of my friends over the years of our friendship. One day I finally mustered the courage to ask her out and got shot down over a text message, "I don't see you that way".The only girl I have ever asked out, rejected me. Can't say, it didn't hurt.Then, feeling ashamed and afraid of ruining our friendship, I asked her to forgive me and not to talk to me for a while as it became real awkward.Acting mature I tried to bury the awkwardness and struck a conversation with her again, but this time she started ignoring me. Respecting her decision, I too decided not to bother her again.Almost 2 years passed. We were in the same class but never talked to each other.One day out of the nowhere, she sends a text asking me to meet her. I agreed and we met. Had an awkward conversation, no one talked about that incident. It served as an ice breaker.We started talking again, like nothing has happened between us, but, it wasn't the same anymore. I did not feel the excitement I used to feel earlier while texting her. But, some where deep down, I had a hope that things will work out.And you know what, they did.We are best of friends now. I understand that she doesn't want anything more than friendship. I would be lying if I say I don't have feelings for her anymore, but feelings don't walk away as easily as people do. I still care about her, probably, not in the same way as I used to. If anything , this incident made us more open to each other.So, don't worry. Your guy friend will come around. Just give him some time. Talk to him and try to make him comfortable. He ll eventually understand you.If keeping such friendship seems complex to you and you are ready to give up a friend who cares a lot about you over such a stupid thing, then I am sorry to say, that you were never ever friends in real sense.
How do I get over the fact that my friends are hanging out without me and without telling me?
What is the point to get over? If they are hanging out without you, then that means they don't wan't you. They don't want you to be a part of them. Seriously, there is no point to even think about that, just let them hang out and you, you do something for yourself. Go out and enjoy with your own self. Enjoy the nature, the beauty and the sceneries. Develop yourself in some way. Go for a run, exercise or learn something new. If you seriously want to get over them, then don't give a fuck about whether they care about you or not. Care about yourself.Get good at something and start being busy, start learning new things. Remember, friends who are not interested to hang out with you are not the main people in your life. You have yourself, a great person, get yourself motivated and develop new hobbies.Even I am ignored by my friends lot of times. They hang out without me, they go out, have some fun and they never call me. I first felt bad and then realised that I should not waste time thinking about who cares about me or who does not. Learn a new language, learn a new skill, get into some groups or some ngo, you will find people who really like you. Get yourself up in your life, get successful, start reaching high in your life. And when they see you have become successful or you are in a nice position in life, they will get back to you. They will now want you in your life because you are successful than them or you have great friends than them. Make new friends,make a great network of friends. Why are you using Quora? Start reading answers and writing answers. Atleast it is a place of knowledge, not some gossip, time pass place. Always remember - Don't demand respect. But deserve respect.You have a lot of people in this world and you are struck with these people who don't care about you. Start learning new things, start developing your skills and stop worrying about them.And the last one.That's it. Lecture ends.
My best friend and I are splitting apart?
first off, i am sooo sorry! i recently lost my bfl and i understand what youre going through. Second, give her space, but not too much, keep texting her and reminding her you miss her. ask if she wants to do stuff or invite her and her former best friend to come hang out, go to the movies or something. be fun and easygoing, prove that all three of you can hang out and have just as much fun. instead of texting, wait till a time you know shell be home alone and call and have a nice long conversation. subtly remind her how much fun you guys have and how much you miss her. when i lost bfl i gave her a couple weeks to think stuff over and she came back to me. give your friend some space. wait a couple hours before texting her back (but only for a couple days cause then you might really lose her) and stay busy. but always leave the option of hanging out and always stress that any of her friends are welcome to come to. surprise her and show up in her town to spend the weekend with her, and make it known that youre comfortable with hanging out with her and her other friend. dont be a drab sit in the corner quiet girl, talk to everyone be sociable and funny and show her you can all spend time together and still have fun.
My teacher makes me uncomfortable am I overreacting?
Yes and no. as far as the cleavage part goes, put a shirt on they doesn't show it. Ur going to school and theres is no reason why ur shirt should be that low in school. anyone esp men can't help but notice that, as a woman I can't help but notice that on anyone it's inappropriate. men automatically look its instinct. Secondly, are u misbehaving in class? Usually when a teacher wants certain students up front it's because they don't behave in class for example maybe sleeping talking not paying attention etc. sure he wasnt being sarcasticby saying that seat wouldn't work cuz it was to far to the point he couldn't pay attention to u all at the same time. Was ur friendcrying hysterically about her grade? Is that why he hugged her? Her grade suggests she's not paying attention??????? Maybe she was too upset she needed a hug and as a professional, he gave her a hug and said it would be ok. Those are signs of comfort, not hitting on her. Is sex education part of his curriculum? Was it a topic in a book? Did a student make a joke and he jokingly agreed to it. Iv think if he was that had he'd have every student in the class reporting him by now not just u and ur friends. Heres my suggestion pay attention in class wear shirts appropriate for ur age and don't stay after if it isn't required I know young girls sometimes have an overactive imagination and tend to be promiscuous. Be a lady!!!!! Don't complain if you wear low shirts and someone looks, and I bet ur 80 something old neighbor notices too. I don't see u complaining about boys ur age staring, no I don't!! Its funny how ur click only has this experience and the rest of the school has no problem with the guy. So yeah I don't think ur overreacting, I think ur being a drama queen. Would u find it weird if a female teacher hugged ur friend or would u accuse her of being a lesbian haha nonetheless nobody should feel uncomfortable in class. I hope ub take my advice
What do you do when a friend ditched you in the club?
I have a problem, I've been friends with a guy for a while and lately we have been hanging out a lot,so we got very close to each other. We both have no feelings for each other. But theres a girl who he hangs out with regularly before me, she came to the club last night. She then gave me dirty looks, looked at me up and down and started to hold my friend's hand and looked at me and then she sat on him and smiled at me. I was uncomfortabe and started to get angry at her. I also got confused asking myself am i angry because I'm jealous! . She then took my friend away and ditched me in the club for the night, I saw them on the dance floor and went to dance near them, she then walked away and he followed her. I ended up telling him that i'm not gonna speak to him again for leaving me. Did i overreact? She was either jealous of me or trying to stirr me up. Now I had a fight with my friend. He was telling me that I am overreacting, that he takes no responsibility for other people actions! I told him that I dont have any feelings for him so she should stop doing that! What do i do now? Should I not speak to him ever again?