What do you do when your girlfriend throws you under the bus?
Need details, but I'll try to fill in the blanks.If it is a small yellow bus, then explain to her how hurtful her behavior was and that you did not appreciate it.However, my Momma always told me “don't put yourself or any one eles in danger”. Having said that, if she is dragging you into financial ruin, or putting you in physical danger… break off immediately.If you are doing something criminal, then you need to hide your activities from her because she is untrustworthy. I am not advocating criminal behavior. I'd turn you in myself.Is she selfish and needy? If she is, then you will always find yourself on the short side of the stick. Best to move on. Relationships are about partnerships, if she can't do that then she will only be there for what she can get. Same goes in the opposite if it is a boyfriend.
Why did my mom throw me under the bus?
My mom did something horrible to me. A couple years ago, I was with an abusive boyfriend (I'm gay). I begged my mom to let me move away from him, but she refused. I was being kicked out of my apartment, and I was literally going to be homeless, but she STILL refused to help me. Her solution? Stay with your boyfriend. She then stopped talking to me altogether, even though I DID NOTHING WRONG. I was unable to get a job, so I was forced to prostitute myself. She knew I was having unprotected sex with hundreds of guys for $20 or $30, but she STILL refused to help me. An exact quote: "Get a job that has health insurance and leave me alone." I think she totally threw me under the bus, allowing me to prostitute myself and get abused by my horrible boyfriend -- not to mention possibly living on the street. But she thinks because I'm an adult, it's not her job to "rescue" me. Who's right?
Would you “throw your friend under the bus” if he or she did an act you knew was morally wrong before?
It depends entirely a several factors. But the way the question is stated implies that I would either seek to get him/her in trouble simple by my laying down judgement on the act rather conserving the full scope of the action and its consequences.For example, if a friend of mine threw a bottle in a swimming pool at Vegas poll party prompting security to drain he pool for safety, I would chastise him but not turn him in. I would feel glad that the establishi f is taking precaution for safety reasons but him getting in trouble would probably dampen the evening for everyone. In that instance, I know his behavior might be isolated to this one time and nobody will get hurt. If he was simply a new hangout buddy, I can let this incident go an chose not to hang ot with such a trouble marr in the future. I gain nothing by turning him and I am not his mom or dad. If I had a besrIf it were my BEST FRIEND, who is a chronically reckless man, I would turn him in for his own sake after repeated talks and warnings.There is no right or wrong answer here. It is all conditional and dependent on who it is and the impact it will have on himself and others.But I don't “throw people under the bus” for self gratification reasons as the question implies.
What do you do when your boss throws you under the bus?
Well, you know you cannot trust him.And that’s big.Short term: If anyone in the company asks you about the incident like his boss or lawyers or HR or anyone like that, produce any documentation that you have that shows that you did what you were supposed to do, like contracts he signed, emails from him to you, anything that will document what you actually did versus what he claims you did or didn’t do. That might save you from being disciplined or fired.Long term: Think about getting another job. You might dodge the bullet this time, but it is risky to work for a boss who doesn’t have your back. At some point this tendency of his will bite you in the butt unless HIS boss knows he tends to do that to his people. If you don’t want to look for another job, you will have to keep VERY careful records short of recording every conversation you have with him. But whatever it is you decide, know that working for someone like that is very risky.
What to do when your boyfriend is throwing you under the bus?
My boyfriend and I have been together a little less than a year now. We met because I was good friends with his sister. We used to go out A LOT with her and our friends, but after being together for a while we just wanted to stay in more, just the two of us. It's gotten to the point where HE wants to stay in like 90% of the time, which is fine by me, I love spending time with him. Slowly his sister and our friends have started ignoring me, they never text me anymore or ask me to hang out, and when we do go out, they pretty much ignore me. I asked my boyfriend if he had any idea why (because they still act the same around him as they always have) and he said he had no clue and that as far as he could see I hadn't done anything to make them mad. So...I know it's wrong, but from time to time I look at my boyfriend's phone... Last week I took a peek and the long story short of the convo he had with his sister was him basically throwing me under the bus! He has been saying I don't want to go out, so they aren't mad at him they're mad at me, when HE'S the one that doesn't want to hang out with them ever! What am I supposed to do?? On the one had it's sweet that he really does just want to be with me, but I don't want our friends hating me because I'm 'not allowing him out' (that's a quote of something his sister said!)... I obviously can't tell him I looked at his phone, but what am I supposed to do?? Please any advice is helpful!
What does it mean to throw someone under the bus?
just what it says.. to throw you under the bus literally
My boss threw me under the bus. What should i do?
I have been in this corporate office for 3 1/2 months. My manager is not an actualy manager but an acting manager. She doesn't even have a high school diploma. She had been there for 5 years and worked her way up. I have a BS in Bio. Shortly after being here, I became the second in charge after a coworker quit without her 2 weeks notice. Our office made goal for the last month, from most of my work. I have been staying back off the clock to work on reports and have found many mistakes that my "boss" have made. I have barely learned the ropes at this point. The person was sent out to trained me left after 3 weeks because she didn't get along with the Boss and I. So on Friday, I was pulled into the office and was written up 3 different times: first for not meeting my personal goals- I have asked her many times what is being counted as a personal goals. She told me to trust her and as long as the whole office met goals that i shouldn't worry. Secondly for not following her orders and thirdly for making mistakes with documentations. I have only been there for 3 months, I am pretty sure making mistakes in the book is quite common because we are all human since she have been there for 5 years and still make mistakes. She kept on telling that we are a team and she is writing me up because she needs teamwork. I really feel like i was thrown under the bus. She probably fell threaten by me and made me the scapegoat. Her manager had pulled me aside and told me that I am doing a great job and that he had put in a good words for me to the regional managers. She had even told me that she thinks they are going to train me to replace her because she knows she doesn't have the right education for her position. I also found out from her that she gets bonuses when the office meets goals. At this point, I am fed up. I feel betrayed. Should i quit? I really don't want to work with people who are backstabbers? What should i do with this situation? should i make a big deal out of it? I am not in need of money. I am working to kill times. My husband makes good money so i can be a stay at home mom. Please help....
What does "being thrown under the bus" mean?
You have it exactly right: its the same as "stabbing someone in the back".. except that that means you betrayed or slandered the person secretly, behind their back. Being "thrown under the bus" means they attacked you openly and publicly - like you were both standing at a bus stop an one person picks the other one up and throws them under the bus so they will be certain to be run over!!
My friend threw me under the bus!!?
I told my friend I like this girl, and based on how she acts around me, he thinks she likes me too. So he tells me that he talked to her about a group of us going to the movies and how she said yes, she's going. He told her we'd probably see the new Exorcist movies, even though she hates scary movies. To make conversation, when I saw her I asked her if she's going. She had no idea what I was talking about, I thought she was playing dumb so that I'd ask her. I told her about the movie and she said she hasn't been to the movies in forever and she asked which movie. I told her, and she said she doesn't like scary movies (duh, but keep in mind I'm under the impression she already agreed to go). So I then ask if she wants to get more info about the time, and she said "no, that's ok, I'm just gonna go home after work". My friend never even talked to her!! He just set me up, and I got rejected! I was so confident she liked me based on how she acted (he was too) and now I have no idea how she feels. What to do??
How do you say "to throw someone under the bus" in British English?
Google’s ngram viewer says that the phrase “under the bus” was equally common in British and American English until about 2000, but since then its usage has risen dramatically in American English only.The Wikipedia page quoted in the question description says that the first known use of the expression was in 1982, used by a British journalist writing for a British newspaper, describing a British politician.On the other hand, the Oxford English Dictionary cites the first use from 1994, in a US newspaper, and calls the phrase ‘originally and chiefly US’. Their earlier examples of similar phrases used in the UK tended to revolve around the metaphor of being hit by a bus or falling under a bus; it took the Americans to come up with the idea of deliberately pushing someone under one!So it seems it’s an expression that’s been used occasionally in Britain for a long time, but it’s suddenly become a lot more popular in the US. British people would still use it and understand it if called for.I second the suggestion that ‘thrown to the wolves’ would be an alternative.