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I want to marry an orphan girl. I live in Bangalore, India. How do I do it?

Firstly, congrats for wanting to marry an orphan girl. You can find out the addresses of Orphanages from the net that are located in Bangalore and in other towns in Karnataka. You will have to personally visit the Orphanage, talk to the concerned and express your desire to marry. The Orphanage may want your parents to be present in the discussions to make sure you are serious and that the girl will not face any problem with your family members later.You will have to get married and register it with Registrar of Marriages located in Bangalore. The Orphanage may insist on an undertaking from you that you will take due care of the girl and not exploit her. You can keep the marriage simple and give a party to all the members of the Orphanage.Don't forget to talk to the girl, find out her opinion, her interests, passion, how she has planned to lead her personal and professional life and only when everything matches, go ahead. Never marry someone out of pity. You will have to treat the girl with respect and dignity and allow her to pursue her passion.Best wishes.

Why do I always want the girl I can't have? What causes this to happen?

Why do I always want the girl I can't have?My kind of question!What causes this to happen?In layman’s terms, “we want what we can’t have.”In psychological terms, by her not wanting you, it makes your deep down (subconscious) reptilian brain crave her. She registers as a strong mating candidate and then your reptilian brain makes you have the feelings of yearning that you have for her.Gonna throw some advanced tactics at you…So somehow over the years I’ve become much more immune to this phenomenon. How can I avoid the “want what we can’t have” issue when others can’t?First, with prior experience of dating desirable women already, it was much easier to maintain my self-esteem and not get to down on myself. “I’ve won the heart of an incredible woman before, and I can do it again.” Having a growth mindset is a HUGE asset here.Second, It’s been quite a while since I was in the dating scene, but I can remember the occasional times of being rejected, and instead of focusing on the “woe is me, she’s so incredible!” put her up on a pedestal feelings (which I did when I started dating), I would instead think about all of her shortcomings instead.And make no mistake, we all have shortcomings. It’s just about what light we choose to see them in.Don’t see this part as going over well, but to give you some examples, one girl was a little heavier than I usually dated, and I focused on that. Another had a crazy ex boyfriend that she was hung up on, so I focused on that. In effect, my conscious mind was relaying the message to my subconscious, “hey, these women aren’t perfect and I can find someone better.”Made it a lot easier to get over them.Hope this helps.

How do I effectively approach an experienced business owner to make a business proposal?

Alima,It is clear from the way you frame your question that you have in your head the archetype of an “experienced business owner” as the title for the person you wish to approach with your business proposal (whatever it may be). You also wish to be “effective”. I would love to answer your question, however I believe that I am not qualified for this as much as YOU are. So ask yourself one question to help you construct an answer that will help. First, some motivational scope á la Gary Vaynerchuk, think about this: You are going to die. (at some point). Before that happens:What do you want to accomplish?Visualize how success looks like. Where are you in 10–20 years. Grab a notebook, pencil and pen, (crayons, markers, anything!). Imagine yourself approaching said experienced business owner, with said business proposal, and write the story of how you get to that point 10, 20 years from now. Draw, write, the story can be as fantastic as you desire it. If you dare, visualize your last week on earth, just before you die, looking back at what you accomplished. Answering this is imperative.Now, answer your own question. You will find that the “how” is irrelevant. The only relevant fact is whether or not you REALLY want this business to take off, and thus whether you really believe this business proposal will work. This in turn will confirm (or deny) whether you will BE “effective” in your approach to “experienced business owner” so that your business proposal becomes a reality with this particular person.

If I want to marry an orphan girl, how to find and approach them?

To the best of my knowledge orphanages don’t keep boys/girls after they pass their degree. But contacting any orphanage for girls could be of help as the girls who leave do keep in touch with the managers of the orphanage. You can get contact details of such girls and approach them directly. And hope some girl will accept your proposal.But makes me wonder why you want to marry an orphan. If you are doing it because it sounds noble then perhaps there’s a danger that you might regret your decision later. Please do consider your motive for your decision. Don’t think/feel you are helping an orphan by marrying her. If you’ve that feeling howsoever small degree then I suggest you not to marry one.Its a different story if you are in love with a girl and later on realize she is an orphan. In such a case you should go ahead and marry her. And in that case there won’t be any issues later on because you aren’t just marrying an orphan but marrying your lover who happened to be an orphan.